Woman here earning seven figures for the first time -- plan to date only men who earn more

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Anonymous wrote:If I am OP earning that much money in 40s, I would just want to be a sugar mama dating cute & younger man for casual.

I'd be fine dating anyone who could mostly keep up. A childless 35-year-old making $200k would probably be ideal.

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Some accomplished men OP's age won't be interested and will be interested only in younger women. Some accomplished men OP's age will be interested. OP may have her heart broken by some men but she will be able to find someone if she's persistent.

By the way, I know that the trashing of older men who date younger women isn't really central to this discussion, but I have to say that some (far from all) younger women are very attracted physically to older men. Some even prefer older men. There are some arrogant and foolish women responding to OP who think that because they are not (or were not) attracted to older men, nobody is.

Some men also are attracted to older women.

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

I’m surprised OP posted that. The level of stupidity does not sound like something a millionaire would say. I am the PP and I was talking about the average young women exposed to social media messaging telling her to value being fully supported by a man and that she should never consider 50/50. I surely wasn’t alluding to the minority of young women like OP’s daughter who have wealthy parents. Those girls either don’t need men at all or have access to high value young men and don’t need to consider older rich men.

OP is either a dimwit or a troll.

This board is full of middle aged women. It should be our jobs to make sure our daughters have plenty of options besides being fully supported by old men. You sound like a dimwit or troll.

You don’t have a job do you. No critical thinking going on up there.

I am simply describing a social media trend, not issuing any normative calls for women to date old men.

A social media trend? Who cares. Talk about lack of critical thinking skills.

DP. I get that you’re simply trying to be dismissive and insulting. (That’s not very useful, by the way.) I know of the trend the poster is referencing, and it is something we should care about if we are parents who want our daughters to develop into independent, capable women. If you are comfortable with your daughter relying on you or someone else for money, then maybe this negative messaging doesn’t bother you as much.

So the other poster is illustrating those critical thinking skills. Perhaps, PP, you should take your own advice.

Women vastly out number men at college today. You are concerned about a social media trend because you do not live in the real world with real daughters.

I live in the real world with real college-aged daughters.

And I don’t easily dismiss social media, thinking it’s safe. My girls are smart and aware of the risks, but I’m also smart. I keep myself aware of what is out there.

I’m sorry that your daughters are so gullible that you have an actual concern they would rather follow a tik tok trend rather than educate and support themselves.

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I'm a man. Years ago, when I was in my mid 50s, I went out on a date with a woman who was about 60. She was hilarious and and still very attractive. She said she still felt very sexual even though she was 60. When she was in her 20s and 30s, she mostly dated pro athletes. She had a spectacular body back then, she told me. But at 60, she mostly dated men over 70. Why? Because, she explained, she wanted men to look like they could not believe their good luck when she undressed. For her, an essential part of good sex was having men practically pass out when they saw her naked. The older men might not be as good at the act of swx as younger men, but they looked at her like she was still a total goddess. She said she got turned on by men staring at her and she was worried that a man my age (who could date women 10 to 20 years younger than her) might be attracted to her but wouldn't be blown away by her. As she explained this, she actually stood up from the table and pantomimed the process of undressing in front of me. I laughed. She said I had the wrong reaction. I failed her test. In her opinion, if I truly found her body super hot, I would have stared with my mouth open, and I would not have laughed.. So she didn't want to see me again. She said she'd stick with men at least 10 years older.

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Anonymous wrote:Some accomplished men OP's age won't be interested and will be interested only in younger women. Some accomplished men OP's age will be interested. OP may have her heart broken by some men but she will be able to find someone if she's persistent.

By the way, I know that the trashing of older men who date younger women isn't really central to this discussion, but I have to say that some (far from all) younger women are very attracted physically to older men. Some even prefer older men. There are some arrogant and foolish women responding to OP who think that because they are not (or were not) attracted to older men, nobody is.

Some men also are attracted to older women.

We are not trashing all old men dating young women. We just disagree that it’s a general rule that young women are looking to date old wealthy men. It’s just not

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Anonymous wrote:Some accomplished men OP's age won't be interested and will be interested only in younger women. Some accomplished men OP's age will be interested. OP may have her heart broken by some men but she will be able to find someone if she's persistent.

By the way, I know that the trashing of older men who date younger women isn't really central to this discussion, but I have to say that some (far from all) younger women are very attracted physically to older men. Some even prefer older men. There are some arrogant and foolish women responding to OP who think that because they are not (or were not) attracted to older men, nobody is.

Some men also are attracted to older women.

I could see some 35 yo women being attracted to 50 yo good looking men. But few 50 yo women would be attracted to 65 yo man . Men age and decline a lot after 55 (like women after 45) . To me, 10 years biological age difference is the limit when partners can age together and remain attracted to each other

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Anonymous wrote:Any man who is earning over a million is not going to want you. He is going to want someone 10-15 years younger. I suggest you look for qualities other than money if you want companionship.

Why? I know a couple of men earning well over 1m a year and wives are older. One is 4 yrs older and the other is 7 yrs older. One is a second marriage and the other is first marriage. Both have been married now almost 20 yrs.

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Anonymous wrote:Some accomplished men OP's age won't be interested and will be interested only in younger women. Some accomplished men OP's age will be interested. OP may have her heart broken by some men but she will be able to find someone if she's persistent.

By the way, I know that the trashing of older men who date younger women isn't really central to this discussion, but I have to say that some (far from all) younger women are very attracted physically to older men. Some even prefer older men. There are some arrogant and foolish women responding to OP who think that because they are not (or were not) attracted to older men, nobody is.

Some men also are attracted to older women.

We are not trashing all old men dating young women. We just disagree that it’s a general rule that young women are looking to date old wealthy men. It’s just not

You need to get out of your own bubble. There are so many attractive young women with older wealthy men here in Beverly Hills. It is the general rule here.

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Your daughters and friends’ daughters were born with golden spoons. They don’t need men. Most young women aren’t like your daughters. They prioritize rich men. Most rich men are older than them.

Not OP but I would give a benefit of doubt in the highlighted. Most average American young women don’t prioritize rich old men. They date and marry men their age - average age gap at first marriage is 1.7 years.
You are the one creating an unrealistic fake portrait of all young women. The young girls you see hunting rich men present a small % it’s just places where you hang out are filled with those who prioritize wealth.
If you went to a university library you’ll see plenty of hot young girls chatting with attractive young boys

Of course. But more of them than you will ever know have spent a long weekend or gone on a fun trip with older men.

You can push the narrative of almost all young women being sugar babies interested in older men but it’s not the case. Young women have a strong biological disgust of old bodies (I had, and most my friends report same). Smell from the mouth, aging skin, grey hair. When I was 25, even late 30-mid 40s men seemed ANCIENT to me ! No money in the world would make me touch that, literally.

Young women are innately attracted to highly successful men, just like OP is. Go to any high end restaurant in Manhattan amdyou’ll find respectable men with 7-figure incomes sitting across from smart 25-30 y.o. women.

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Your daughters and friends’ daughters were born with golden spoons. They don’t need men. Most young women aren’t like your daughters. They prioritize rich men. Most rich men are older than them.

Not OP but I would give a benefit of doubt in the highlighted. Most average American young women don’t prioritize rich old men. They date and marry men their age - average age gap at first marriage is 1.7 years.
You are the one creating an unrealistic fake portrait of all young women. The young girls you see hunting rich men present a small % it’s just places where you hang out are filled with those who prioritize wealth.
If you went to a university library you’ll see plenty of hot young girls chatting with attractive young boys

Of course. But more of them than you will ever know have spent a long weekend or gone on a fun trip with older men.

You can push the narrative of almost all young women being sugar babies interested in older men but it’s not the case. Young women have a strong biological disgust of old bodies (I had, and most my friends report same). Smell from the mouth, aging skin, grey hair. When I was 25, even late 30-mid 40s men seemed ANCIENT to me ! No money in the world would make me touch that, literally.

Young women are innately attracted to highly successful men, just like OP is. Go to any high end restaurant in Manhattan amdyou’ll find respectable men with 7-figure incomes sitting across from smart 25-30 y.o. women.

So are they attracted to the man or the money?

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Anonymous wrote:If the Hallmark movies are any indication, you're going to visit a small town and get swept off your feet by a rugged handyman type. Or maybe you should have done this last week (seem to happen right around Christmas).

OP here. I don't watch Hallmark movies.

Definite troll.
One doesn’t have to “watch Hallmark movies” to get the joke, but unless OP is truly living under a rock, she already knows this and is just pretending not to get it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Your daughters and friends’ daughters were born with golden spoons. They don’t need men. Most young women aren’t like your daughters. They prioritize rich men. Most rich men are older than them.

Not OP but I would give a benefit of doubt in the highlighted. Most average American young women don’t prioritize rich old men. They date and marry men their age - average age gap at first marriage is 1.7 years.
You are the one creating an unrealistic fake portrait of all young women. The young girls you see hunting rich men present a small % it’s just places where you hang out are filled with those who prioritize wealth.
If you went to a university library you’ll see plenty of hot young girls chatting with attractive young boys

Of course. But more of them than you will ever know have spent a long weekend or gone on a fun trip with older men.

You can push the narrative of almost all young women being sugar babies interested in older men but it’s not the case. Young women have a strong biological disgust of old bodies (I had, and most my friends report same). Smell from the mouth, aging skin, grey hair. When I was 25, even late 30-mid 40s men seemed ANCIENT to me ! No money in the world would make me touch that, literally.

Young women are innately attracted to highly successful men, just like OP is. Go to any high end restaurant in Manhattan amdyou’ll find respectable men with 7-figure incomes sitting across from smart 25-30 y.o. women.

I dated a man from NY he was a multi millionaire maybe a billionaire. Never saw anyone in his circle with women that much younger. 7 years max , but most of his friends dated women from their circle about same age

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Anonymous wrote:Some accomplished men OP's age won't be interested and will be interested only in younger women. Some accomplished men OP's age will be interested. OP may have her heart broken by some men but she will be able to find someone if she's persistent.

By the way, I know that the trashing of older men who date younger women isn't really central to this discussion, but I have to say that some (far from all) younger women are very attracted physically to older men. Some even prefer older men. There are some arrogant and foolish women responding to OP who think that because they are not (or were not) attracted to older men, nobody is.

Some men also are attracted to older women.

We are not trashing all old men dating young women. We just disagree that it’s a general rule that young women are looking to date old wealthy men. It’s just not

You need to get out of your own bubble. There are so many attractive young women with older wealthy men here in Beverly Hills. It is the general rule here.

General rule that they hire prostitutes ? Sure, you can find that in Miami too. A lot. By far not all of these young women marry rich, and those few who do often end really bad in the end

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Like OP, I don't get the Hallmark reference.

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Op. Try really hard to get over the money thing and just find someone who you click with. When you actually get into the dating pool you’ll see there’s limited options to begin with and you’re needlessly limiting yourself. FWIW I know actually wealthy people (think real generational wealth) who have met and married men who don’t make 7 figures and are so happy. Really really nice guys.