Woman here earning seven figures for the first time -- plan to date only men who earn more

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I am OP earning that much money in 40s, I would just want to be a sugar mama dating cute & younger man for casual.

I'd be fine dating anyone who could mostly keep up. A childless 35-year-old making $200k would probably be ideal.

And are you offering him? Forget about your money we all know you are a billionaire. What will you bring to the relationship? He can f**k someone younger and cuter. What's your value proposition?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I am OP earning that much money in 40s, I would just want to be a sugar mama dating cute & younger man for casual.

I'd be fine dating anyone who could mostly keep up. A childless 35-year-old making $200k would probably be ideal.

And are you offering him? Forget about your money we all know you are a billionaire. What will you bring to the relationship? He can f**k someone younger and cuter. What's your value proposition?

I think a woman who was able to make it in life overall has more to bring in the relationship than someone who is just younger and cuter.

But it’s a good question and all younger women who are dating older men should also ask themselves: what else besides the money does he bring to the table ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, even without seeing you or meeting you, I can see the following drawbacks
- You are a divorcee
- You are not young.
- You are in a field that does not provide you with lots of leisure time
- If you have children, that is more baggage

Why would any high net worth man want to marry you?

The one that cannot marry a woman without baggage. However if op does land a man she is hoping for, then she will delude herself over thinking She’s a catch. But the reality is that the man she marries will be someone who could not find someone younger and more pleasant

No, OP could marry an interesting educated slightly younger man who wasn’t married yet and is looking for a partner to look up to. They’ll be a great match and statistical average of who wealthy women usually marry. They men on average 4 years younger

She would have done it if she could.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some accomplished men OP's age won't be interested and will be interested only in younger women. Some accomplished men OP's age will be interested. OP may have her heart broken by some men but she will be able to find someone if she's persistent.

By the way, I know that the trashing of older men who date younger women isn't really central to this discussion, but I have to say that some (far from all) younger women are very attracted physically to older men. Some even prefer older men. There are some arrogant and foolish women responding to OP who think that because they are not (or were not) attracted to older men, nobody is.

Some men also are attracted to older women.

We are not trashing all old men dating young women. We just disagree that it’s a general rule that young women are looking to date old wealthy men. It’s just not

You need to get out of your own bubble. There are so many attractive young women with older wealthy men here in Beverly Hills. It is the general rule here.

General rule that they hire prostitutes ? Sure, you can find that in Miami too. A lot. By far not all of these young women marry rich, and those few who do often end really bad in the end

Prostitution and dating are not that much different in terms of morality

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some accomplished men OP's age won't be interested and will be interested only in younger women. Some accomplished men OP's age will be interested. OP may have her heart broken by some men but she will be able to find someone if she's persistent.

By the way, I know that the trashing of older men who date younger women isn't really central to this discussion, but I have to say that some (far from all) younger women are very attracted physically to older men. Some even prefer older men. There are some arrogant and foolish women responding to OP who think that because they are not (or were not) attracted to older men, nobody is.

Some men also are attracted to older women.

We are not trashing all old men dating young women. We just disagree that it’s a general rule that young women are looking to date old wealthy men. It’s just not

You need to get out of your own bubble. There are so many attractive young women with older wealthy men here in Beverly Hills. It is the general rule here.

General rule that they hire prostitutes ? Sure, you can find that in Miami too. A lot. By far not all of these young women marry rich, and those few who do often end really bad in the end

Prostitution and dating are not that much different in terms of morality

You have a very broken system of values. If all men are indeed like you - perhaps it’s for the better that OP remains single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP—I understand. You earn your own money, have a certain lifestyle, and you’re not interested in being a purse for someone else. At 40, I’ll assume you’re not looking to have kids so someone who can be a SAHP is not a plus for you.

It’s really hard. You need to date within your professional circle or tangent to it. People are bitter on here because they like to believe that money makes you shallow. It doesn’t. It means you have done well for yourself. You don’t have to pay for someone else.

As far as the 50 yr old men dating younger, let them. They’re not the type of person you want to be involved with. You’ll find your next partner, just not on the apps.

Good luck!

This is the best advice in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman who do you think you are?

This question reflects on you and no one else. Who hurt you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:lol what do you look like and can you cook?

OP here. I look great (size 6, beautiful face, dress well), and can cook but I don't cook often.

You're in your 40s. You might not be fat, but you don't look great. Rich men aren't going to settle for an old lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some accomplished men OP's age won't be interested and will be interested only in younger women. Some accomplished men OP's age will be interested. OP may have her heart broken by some men but she will be able to find someone if she's persistent.

By the way, I know that the trashing of older men who date younger women isn't really central to this discussion, but I have to say that some (far from all) younger women are very attracted physically to older men. Some even prefer older men. There are some arrogant and foolish women responding to OP who think that because they are not (or were not) attracted to older men, nobody is.

Some men also are attracted to older women.

Come on. That's just gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP: I make $160k as a mechanical engineer and I’m a better husband than you could ever dream of having.

Lol. Your claws are out because a random poster hurt your feelings. Certainly great husband material.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:lol what do you look like and can you cook?

OP here. I look great (size 6, beautiful face, dress well), and can cook but I don't cook often.

You're in your 40s. You might not be fat, but you don't look great. Rich men aren't going to settle for an old lady.

46 is not old. Far from it. And these men are also “old”. I know plenty of wealthy men who date women their age

[Anonymous]

On the bright side, OP, a million dollars can buy you a lot of cats.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:lol what do you look like and can you cook?

OP here. I look great (size 6, beautiful face, dress well), and can cook but I don't cook often.

You're in your 40s. You might not be fat, but you don't look great. Rich men aren't going to settle for an old lady.

46 is not old. Far from it. And these men are also “old”. I know plenty of wealthy men who date women their age

Not just 40s but late forties?

No one with that kind of money is going to be interested. You have literally nothing to offer.

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Your daughters and friends’ daughters were born with golden spoons. They don’t need men. Most young women aren’t like your daughters. They prioritize rich men. Most rich men are older than them.

Not OP but I would give a benefit of doubt in the highlighted. Most average American young women don’t prioritize rich old men. They date and marry men their age - average age gap at first marriage is 1.7 years.
You are the one creating an unrealistic fake portrait of all young women. The young girls you see hunting rich men present a small % it’s just places where you hang out are filled with those who prioritize wealth.
If you went to a university library you’ll see plenty of hot young girls chatting with attractive young boys

Most people don't make a million dollars a year. And the OP isn't young and attractive anymore.

There is absolutely no way she's going to find someone given her attitude.

[Anonymous]

My sister and I are both high net worth women.

We are in happy long term marriages with regular guys.

It is an unrealistic expectation for a high net worth woman who is middle aged to meet a man earning the same amount.

Both my sister and I would have dated the PP male engineer earning $160,000 a year.

The reality is very few Americans earn over 100k.