Woman here earning seven figures for the first time -- plan to date only men who earn more

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Anonymous wrote:I understand this logic but it’s not the way to find love. You can tie up your wealth in trusts and create a prenup where your new husband won’t take your money but you don’t need a guy with money.

There are amazing human souls that could make $5M a year and have chosen to devote their lives to service through DOJ, foreign service, military, firefighters, etc. There are incredible inventors, musicians, chefs. Please find love. You found money and success.

I’m also a 40s lawyer with good earning in private practice and don’t want a man who is just going to live off me but you can get billionaire leeches.

This is an absurd statement. If they could make $5M, they would and wouldn’t be in relatively low paying jobs

I’m not motivated by money at all. I’m motivated by seeing progress and helping others, so I teach. I could have gone into any field; I’m intelligent and driven enough to succeed at any job.

But money isn’t my end goal; I don’t want to be on my deathbed knowing the only person who benefited from my existence is myself. My parents told me to make this world better, and as trite as that sounds, that’s my goal. I don’t see how hoarding money I don’t need does that.

So don’t assume those of us who don’t make money CAN’T make money. You had an easier path making your millions because people like me elected not to join the competition.

OP’s premise is that I’m not worth meeting because my salary doesn’t meet her requirement. That’s not a shortcoming on my part; it’s a shortcoming on anyone who thinks that matters.

If you haven't done it, you don't know if you could have been successful. And no one could succeed at any job, because it takes a lot more than being smart and hardworking, and it varies by field.

People get to have preferences that exclude us and it's not a shortcoming for either them or us.

Yeah, it’s a shortcoming and you aren’t going to convince me otherwise.

Picking one data point ($$$) and ignoring all others (including important variables like how that person got the money) illustrates a personal flaw in OP’s thinking.

They’re welcome to exclude us and I won’t lose any sleep over that, but call it what it is: a shortcoming.

(And I have done it. I’m a career changer who left a much higher paying field because I wanted to teach. So yes, I’m well aware of my capabilities.)

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Building a relationship based on earnings… nothing could go wrong with that!

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Your daughters and friends’ daughters were born with golden spoons. They don’t need men. Most young women aren’t like your daughters. They prioritize rich men. Most rich men are older than them.

Not OP but I would give a benefit of doubt in the highlighted. Most average American young women don’t prioritize rich old men. They date and marry men their age - average age gap at first marriage is 1.7 years.
You are the one creating an unrealistic fake portrait of all young women. The young girls you see hunting rich men present a small % it’s just places where you hang out are filled with those who prioritize wealth.
If you went to a university library you’ll see plenty of hot young girls chatting with attractive young boys

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Your daughters and friends’ daughters were born with golden spoons. They don’t need men. Most young women aren’t like your daughters. They prioritize rich men. Most rich men are older than them.

Not OP but I would give a benefit of doubt in the highlighted. Most average American young women don’t prioritize rich old men. They date and marry men their age - average age gap at first marriage is 1.7 years.
You are the one creating an unrealistic fake portrait of all young women. The young girls you see hunting rich men present a small % it’s just places where you hang out are filled with those who prioritize wealth.
If you went to a university library you’ll see plenty of hot young girls chatting with attractive young boys

Of course. But more of them than you will ever know have spent a long weekend or gone on a fun trip with older men.

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Your daughters and friends’ daughters were born with golden spoons. They don’t need men. Most young women aren’t like your daughters. They prioritize rich men. Most rich men are older than them.

Not OP but I would give a benefit of doubt in the highlighted. Most average American young women don’t prioritize rich old men. They date and marry men their age - average age gap at first marriage is 1.7 years.
You are the one creating an unrealistic fake portrait of all young women. The young girls you see hunting rich men present a small % it’s just places where you hang out are filled with those who prioritize wealth.
If you went to a university library you’ll see plenty of hot young girls chatting with attractive young boys

Of course. But more of them than you will ever know have spent a long weekend or gone on a fun trip with older men.

You can push the narrative of almost all young women being sugar babies interested in older men but it’s not the case. Young women have a strong biological disgust of old bodies (I had, and most my friends report same). Smell from the mouth, aging skin, grey hair. When I was 25, even late 30-mid 40s men seemed ANCIENT to me ! No money in the world would make me touch that, literally.

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Your daughters and friends’ daughters were born with golden spoons. They don’t need men. Most young women aren’t like your daughters. They prioritize rich men. Most rich men are older than them.

Not OP but I would give a benefit of doubt in the highlighted. Most average American young women don’t prioritize rich old men. They date and marry men their age - average age gap at first marriage is 1.7 years.
You are the one creating an unrealistic fake portrait of all young women. The young girls you see hunting rich men present a small % it’s just places where you hang out are filled with those who prioritize wealth.
If you went to a university library you’ll see plenty of hot young girls chatting with attractive young boys

Of course. But more of them than you will ever know have spent a long weekend or gone on a fun trip with older men.

DP. What delusional world do you live in? I’m guessing NONE of them have.

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

Yes.

Yes, it is disgusting that old men are ok f..king young women who are disgusted with them .
I’m a woman and it’s extremely important to me to feel that my male partner is sexually interested. I bail out once I feel a slight undertone that he’s not that interested.
Buying sex is disgusting because these women commit self rape for Hermes purse. They often get frigid after a few years of sugaring - a well known “side effect”.
It’s well known Melania doesn’t sleep with Donald. Yes it’s disgusting is ego is so unrealistic and fragile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, even without seeing you or meeting you, I can see the following drawbacks
- You are a divorcee
- You are not young.
- You are in a field that does not provide you with lots of leisure time
- If you have children, that is more baggage

Why would any high net worth man want to marry you?

The one that cannot marry a woman without baggage. However if op does land a man she is hoping for, then she will delude herself over thinking She’s a catch. But the reality is that the man she marries will be someone who could not find someone younger and more pleasant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol what do you look like and can you cook?

Would you ask a man that question?

Quiet piggy!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I understand this logic but it’s not the way to find love. You can tie up your wealth in trusts and create a prenup where your new husband won’t take your money but you don’t need a guy with money.

There are amazing human souls that could make $5M a year and have chosen to devote their lives to service through DOJ, foreign service, military, firefighters, etc. There are incredible inventors, musicians, chefs. Please find love. You found money and success.

I’m also a 40s lawyer with good earning in private practice and don’t want a man who is just going to live off me but you can get billionaire leeches.

This is an absurd statement. If they could make $5M, they would and wouldn’t be in relatively low paying jobs

You are so self absorbed that you can’t even fathom someone not putting their own net worth goals over service to society and community, recognizing that every opportunity they do have is owing to those who came before.

My circle is full of highly educated people, many of the m elite college athletes; most are in medicine, education, and public service. Many have come from more lucrative career paths and found that fulfillment in serving others is more valuable than anything you can buy.

I’m not being snarky when I say: you should try it. You will find much more happiness than you can from a Hermes bag.

I find more happiness from a Hermes bag. I’m sorry you never had one. Try it. You’ll find happiness.

What a sad, sad statement. OP: if this is you, please do a bit of self-evaluation. If an overpriced bag (that most people aren’t interested in anyway) has more value to you than people, then your life took a bad turn somewhere.

OP here. It wasn't me who posted the comment about finding more happiness from a Hermès bag. I don't think that way. I actually own only one luxury bag, a used Prada that I have bought on Ebay.

I always identify myself by "OP here" when I post a comment.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, even without seeing you or meeting you, I can see the following drawbacks
- You are a divorcee
- You are not young.
- You are in a field that does not provide you with lots of leisure time
- If you have children, that is more baggage

Why would any high net worth man want to marry you?

The one that cannot marry a woman without baggage. However if op does land a man she is hoping for, then she will delude herself over thinking She’s a catch. But the reality is that the man she marries will be someone who could not find someone younger and more pleasant

No, OP could marry an interesting educated slightly younger man who wasn’t married yet and is looking for a partner to look up to. They’ll be a great match and statistical average of who wealthy women usually marry. They men on average 4 years younger

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

I’m surprised OP posted that. The level of stupidity does not sound like something a millionaire would say. I am the PP and I was talking about the average young women exposed to social media messaging telling her to value being fully supported by a man and that she should never consider 50/50. I surely wasn’t alluding to the minority of young women like OP’s daughter who have wealthy parents. Those girls either don’t need men at all or have access to high value young men and don’t need to consider older rich men.

OP is either a dimwit or a troll.

This board is full of middle aged women. It should be our jobs to make sure our daughters have plenty of options besides being fully supported by old men. You sound like a dimwit or troll.

You don’t have a job do you. No critical thinking going on up there.

I am simply describing a social media trend, not issuing any normative calls for women to date old men.

A social media trend? Who cares. Talk about lack of critical thinking skills.

DP. I get that you’re simply trying to be dismissive and insulting. (That’s not very useful, by the way.) I know of the trend the poster is referencing, and it is something we should care about if we are parents who want our daughters to develop into independent, capable women. If you are comfortable with your daughter relying on you or someone else for money, then maybe this negative messaging doesn’t bother you as much.

So the other poster is illustrating those critical thinking skills. Perhaps, PP, you should take your own advice.

Women vastly out number men at college today. You are concerned about a social media trend because you do not live in the real world with real daughters.

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

I’m surprised OP posted that. The level of stupidity does not sound like something a millionaire would say. I am the PP and I was talking about the average young women exposed to social media messaging telling her to value being fully supported by a man and that she should never consider 50/50. I surely wasn’t alluding to the minority of young women like OP’s daughter who have wealthy parents. Those girls either don’t need men at all or have access to high value young men and don’t need to consider older rich men.

OP is either a dimwit or a troll.

This board is full of middle aged women. It should be our jobs to make sure our daughters have plenty of options besides being fully supported by old men. You sound like a dimwit or troll.

You don’t have a job do you. No critical thinking going on up there.

I am simply describing a social media trend, not issuing any normative calls for women to date old men.

A social media trend? Who cares. Talk about lack of critical thinking skills.

DP. I get that you’re simply trying to be dismissive and insulting. (That’s not very useful, by the way.) I know of the trend the poster is referencing, and it is something we should care about if we are parents who want our daughters to develop into independent, capable women. If you are comfortable with your daughter relying on you or someone else for money, then maybe this negative messaging doesn’t bother you as much.

So the other poster is illustrating those critical thinking skills. Perhaps, PP, you should take your own advice.

Women vastly out number men at college today. You are concerned about a social media trend because you do not live in the real world with real daughters.

In real world there are many young women who choose to remain single rather than dating older men that are physically disgusted with on biological level

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

I’m surprised OP posted that. The level of stupidity does not sound like something a millionaire would say. I am the PP and I was talking about the average young women exposed to social media messaging telling her to value being fully supported by a man and that she should never consider 50/50. I surely wasn’t alluding to the minority of young women like OP’s daughter who have wealthy parents. Those girls either don’t need men at all or have access to high value young men and don’t need to consider older rich men.

OP is either a dimwit or a troll.

This board is full of middle aged women. It should be our jobs to make sure our daughters have plenty of options besides being fully supported by old men. You sound like a dimwit or troll.

You don’t have a job do you. No critical thinking going on up there.

I am simply describing a social media trend, not issuing any normative calls for women to date old men.

A social media trend? Who cares. Talk about lack of critical thinking skills.

DP. I get that you’re simply trying to be dismissive and insulting. (That’s not very useful, by the way.) I know of the trend the poster is referencing, and it is something we should care about if we are parents who want our daughters to develop into independent, capable women. If you are comfortable with your daughter relying on you or someone else for money, then maybe this negative messaging doesn’t bother you as much.

So the other poster is illustrating those critical thinking skills. Perhaps, PP, you should take your own advice.

Women vastly out number men at college today. You are concerned about a social media trend because you do not live in the real world with real daughters.

I live in the real world with real college-aged daughters.

And I don’t easily dismiss social media, thinking it’s safe. My girls are smart and aware of the risks, but I’m also smart. I keep myself aware of what is out there.

[Anonymous]

If I am OP earning that much money in 40s, I would just want to be a sugar mama dating cute & younger man for casual.