Woman here earning seven figures for the first time -- plan to date only men who earn more

[Anonymous]

A woman with one failed marriage already whose first concern is my money? I'll clear my calendar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer in my mid-forties, and for the first time I average low seven figures. My XH consistently made low seven figures, too (not lawyer). I plan to start dating soon after having gotten out of my 20 year marriage.

Partly because of his earning history, but now especially because of my own, I cannot imagine dating a man who earns less (either through his work or passive income). I realize that this will hugely reduce the candidate pool.

Are there any dating sites where people are pre-selected based on income and/or assets?

Why though?

[Anonymous]

What do you think you bring to the table?

Man doesn't want to marry a lesser copy of himself.

[Anonymous]

Any man who is earning over a million is not going to want you. He is going to want someone 10-15 years younger. I suggest you look for qualities other than money if you want companionship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I need this is likely to be a troll. My sister is a lawyer, met her teacher partner in her mid 40s after a breakup with another lawyer and is way, way happier now.

My lawyer sister dumped her man and got with another lawyer. People who like being lawyers don't get along with "civilians". It's like being in a cult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer in my mid-forties, and for the first time I average low seven figures. My XH consistently made low seven figures, too (not lawyer). I plan to start dating soon after having gotten out of my 20 year marriage.

Partly because of his earning history, but now especially because of my own, I cannot imagine dating a man who earns less (either through his work or passive income). I realize that this will hugely reduce the candidate pool.

Are there any dating sites where people are pre-selected based on income and/or assets?

Why though?

Because she is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer in my mid-forties, and for the first time I average low seven figures. My XH consistently made low seven figures, too (not lawyer). I plan to start dating soon after having gotten out of my 20 year marriage.

Partly because of his earning history, but now especially because of my own, I cannot imagine dating a man who earns less (either through his work or passive income). I realize that this will hugely reduce the candidate pool.

Are there any dating sites where people are pre-selected based on income and/or assets?

Why though?

OP here. I can't imagine the guy earning less for two reasons: the guy will have an inferiority complex, and because I like myself in a supporting role, just like in my previous marriage. I prefer someone successful to whom I can look up. From my point of view earning $1m+ per year is not a huge achievement, so that is my minimum standard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any man who is earning over a million is not going to want you. He is going to want someone 10-15 years younger. I suggest you look for qualities other than money if you want companionship.

OP here. I'm fine with a man who is 10 years older.

So many bitter people on this board.

[Anonymous]

If the Hallmark movies are any indication, you're going to visit a small town and get swept off your feet by a rugged handyman type. Or maybe you should have done this last week (seem to happen right around Christmas).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the Hallmark movies are any indication, you're going to visit a small town and get swept off your feet by a rugged handyman type. Or maybe you should have done this last week (seem to happen right around Christmas).

OP here. I don't watch Hallmark movies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any man who is earning over a million is not going to want you. He is going to want someone 10-15 years younger. I suggest you look for qualities other than money if you want companionship.

OP here. I'm fine with a man who is 10 years older.

So many bitter people on this board.

Oh the irony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any man who is earning over a million is not going to want you. He is going to want someone 10-15 years younger. I suggest you look for qualities other than money if you want companionship.

OP here. I'm fine with a man who is 10 years older.

So many bitter people on this board.

NP. What people are telling you is that men who are that wealthy are going to see you as being too old for him to find desirable, no matter how old he is. A mid 40s woman is too old, and men who are earning millions of dollars every year think they can do better. They don’t need to date someone older than 30, no matter how old they are themselves. Just as your primary or only concern is that the man is super wealthy, the men you seek have the primary or only concern that the woman have youth and beauty. You don’t.

[Anonymous]

That really limits your choices, but I suppose you’re aware of that. I think the best route for you would be getting set up through your friends, colleagues, and other connections who may know single men who are suitable for you. I have a couple of people I could introduce to you, and if I knew you irl perhaps I would if you told me you wanted to meet another high earner.

[Anonymous]

Your career success indicates you know how to identify a target and achieve it and I assume you likely will for this as well. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

OP—I understand. You earn your own money, have a certain lifestyle, and you’re not interested in being a purse for someone else. At 40, I’ll assume you’re not looking to have kids so someone who can be a SAHP is not a plus for you.

It’s really hard. You need to date within your professional circle or tangent to it. People are bitter on here because they like to believe that money makes you shallow. It doesn’t. It means you have done well for yourself. You don’t have to pay for someone else.

As far as the 50 yr old men dating younger, let them. They’re not the type of person you want to be involved with. You’ll find your next partner, just not on the apps.

Good luck!