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That awkward moment when you realize you don't qualify as family
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Anonymous
| I don't know if I've ever seen an OP who was so determined to disagree with every other opinion on her issue. It makes me think the OP could very well be a troll who made this story up to get pages and pages of comments. I can't imagine why anyone would sincerely post this scenario on DCUM just to stubbornly dig in and refuse to consider anyone else's point of view. |
Anonymous
Moment: spend all of your time trying to find flaw in your MIL. She's not the one that's coming off poorly here. |
Anonymous
She doesn't care about the stupid recipe. She cares that MIL does not consider her "family." |
Or have your DH ask for it. He's a blood relation.
Anonymous
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Op - you are beyond ridiculous. And so many paragraphs - that's really telling that you are being ridiculous.
Why can't you accept: People may be weird. About some things. People have preferences you don't understand. Accept it. Accept them. Why was YOUR need for the recipe the reason to decide to think badly re: your MIL. |
Anonymous
Are the same DCUM person always attacking posters and OPs instead of moving the convo along? |
Anonymous
And again! Must have had a good lunch break for all these petty personal attacks and projections you love to post here, 13:24, 13:26, 13:30, 14:11… |
Anonymous
OP became a member of MIL’s family. DH became a member of OP’s family. PP who won’t share her cupcake recipe became a part of her MIL’s family, but MIL did not become a party of PP’s family. |
Anonymous
Exactly my point! It's the principle of the whole thing. |
Anonymous
It’s you who is trying to generate personal attacks and disagreements. The Op is clear. If some people want to tell her recipes are sacred power trips that’s their opinion and nothing more. That doesn’t negate the fact that most of society will assign the b-itch label to that individual playing power and disclosure games. And then to state it’s due to bloodline! Doubt b-itch. |
Anonymous
| Get the recipe from your husband. Make it at the next family event. When MIL comments, tell her since she didn’t shares hers you got it from one of your family members that was willing to share. |
Anonymous
| I never understand people like this mother-in-law. It's as if she doesn't understand that "family" is typically created by unrelated people getting married, and having babies. Did she hope that her son would marry a cousin? Does she not realize that at one time she was the daughter-in-law who joined someone else's family? People like your MIL are just not very bright. Op I think you should send the link of this thread to her. |
Anonymous
| I think the fact that OP actually said something before hanging up the phone and that her mother-in-law hasn't followed up is really awful. We all say stupid stuff once in a while, things we regret, or we realize that we've hurt someone's feelings. Decent people who care about the person they hurt we try to make amends. The fact that OP actually said something in response, in the moment, and the mother-in-law is not followed up is really telling. |
Anonymous
| When you guys have a baby and MIL asks to come over and help, decline that you only want your mom, your blood relative, to be there to help. |
Anonymous
You are assuming the story is true. There is a long history of this type of made up post designed to trigger the primary demographic here while the OP sits back and laughs at all the pages of comments. If you don't want to believe me check with Jeff. |
Anonymous
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Your MIL is weird OP.
Just take note and keep your distance from now on out, since you know where you stand. |