What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

The average age of first sex is 16 so there are plenty of 12-15yr olds having sex whether you like it or not. A 14 and 15yr old dating for a year are already having sex. As a parent, you can only talk to them so much and get books or send info. Ultimately teens are going to do things whether you like it or not. The stern parents are always the most clueless.

Jesus. Kids that young having sex are trashy kids raised by trashy parents. It is shocking to me that so many parents are okay with this. Bunch of cool moms, I guess?

How do you come to this conclusion? What could parents have done differently?
I was a virgin until I was 24. My 17yo daughter is a virgin, as is my 15yo son. We talk frequently and openly about sex in our house. My 15yo has a girlfriend and I am constantly drilling it into his head that when he decides to have sex he must use a condom. I told my daughter repeatedly that I will get her on the pill whenever she needs it.
Now I could have had these same conversations with my kids and they may have chosen to have sex earlier. But they didn’t.
So how exactly did my parenting affect their choice to have or not have sex?

I honestly don’t understand your point. Are you upset that your kids AREN’T having sex?

My point is how did my parenting affect their decisions to not have sex?

PP was talking about the “cool mom” and shitty parenting being to blame. Am I one of those? Both? Neither?

I think you qualify for “the dumb mom” if you can’t understand 1) the previous post, or 2) how parenting choices may or may not influence children’s behavior…

It also sounds like you actually aspire to be “the cool mom” but through some accident of nature your kids are wise enough to reject your aspirations for them to have sex before they’re ready (and I assume you want this for them because you feel some kind of illogical shame at having not lost your own virginity until 24).

I don’t know, lady, I think there’s a lot to unpack here.

What part of the post made you come to that conclusion?

The part where she said she is “constantly” and “repeatedly” telling her kids how she is ready and willing to facilitate their sex lives. Her overall tone reads (to me, anyway) as almost disappointed that neither of her kids seem inclined to take her up on her offer of having parent-approved teenage sex.

I personally think having the conversation about sex and birth control with your teens is appropriate and necessary, but it’s weird to bring it up all the time (unless you really think your kids are stupid, seriously, they heard you the first time).

I’m the PP you think it’s trying whore out my kids. Sorry - I’m not.

Whenever the subject comes up, I make sure they know they don’t have to hide it and I will do what I need to do to help them do it safely. I also pound it into their heads to never ever drive drunk and always call for help if they’re in a bad situation. My 17 yo does drink and has called for help; my 15 yo does not.
These are messages that absolutely need to be given repeatedly. Every single time my daughter walks out that door on a Friday or Saturday night I say “no driving if you drink and call me if you need anything.” And Every time.

I’m intrigued that you think the safe sex talk only needs to be said once. These are teenagers. In my experience nothing really sinks in the first time.

And I’m not sure how that translates into “facilitating” their sex lives. I want them to know they can come to me for help in any situation, including safe sex. If that somehow is equal to “hey look at that hot guy, why don’t you go nail him? I’ll leave the house for a couple hours to make it easier”, then your brain works much differently than mine. Or my kids.

I will say it as many times as I need to to make sure they are proceeding safely.

If you think I’m ashamed of when I lost my virginity and am actually pushing my kids to have sex, I have no idea how you came to that conclusion. It’s not at all correct.

And yet your follow up post makes it clear that you DO understand parenting…

So again I ask WTF was the point of your first post? Weirdo.

And I told you. I’m asking how my parenting affected their decision to not have sex. Because the PP implies kids with shitty parents are having sex. I’d like to know what that shitty parenting is. And I’m clearly shitty because I offer condoms and birth control. And yet my kids aren’t having sex.

Do you understand my point now? That judgy PP yapping about shitty parents. She’s my point. And she’s wrong.

No, this question was already answered. Sometimes sh!tty parents (e.g. you) randomly manage to have mature, non-sh!tty children (e.g. your kids). Or their other parent is a good influence. Or maybe they want to have sex but they’re not getting any offers. Who knows?

But what you are asking is stupid on its face. It’s the equivalent of asking someone to prove God doesn’t exist (as opposed to proving that he does). So to boil it down for you, 12 year olds who DON’T have sex MAY or MAY NOT have sh!tty parents. 12 year olds who DO have sex ABSOLUTELY have sh!tty parents.

Oh so you ARE the judgmental a$$hole PP! You’re still wrong. And even more of a douche than before.

I think we need a lot more judgmental a$$holes like me in the world if the current trend is normalizing *middle schoolers* having sex.

I might be a douche, but you are a BAD parent.

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Most public high schools supply them nowadays. Younger than hs age is not something to be so blase' about. Usually when a middle schooler is doing it their partner is much older, and that comes with many other dangers. I remember my cousin at 13 lying about her bf who was actually 19 and not 14 as she told her parents. Looking back it's obvious he was a pedo. Anyway, strive to be a good parent, not a "cool" one.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

The average age of first sex is 16 so there are plenty of 12-15yr olds having sex whether you like it or not. A 14 and 15yr old dating for a year are already having sex. As a parent, you can only talk to them so much and get books or send info. Ultimately teens are going to do things whether you like it or not. The stern parents are always the most clueless.

Jesus. Kids that young having sex are trashy kids raised by trashy parents. It is shocking to me that so many parents are okay with this. Bunch of cool moms, I guess?

How do you come to this conclusion? What could parents have done differently?
I was a virgin until I was 24. My 17yo daughter is a virgin, as is my 15yo son. We talk frequently and openly about sex in our house. My 15yo has a girlfriend and I am constantly drilling it into his head that when he decides to have sex he must use a condom. I told my daughter repeatedly that I will get her on the pill whenever she needs it.
Now I could have had these same conversations with my kids and they may have chosen to have sex earlier. But they didn’t.
So how exactly did my parenting affect their choice to have or not have sex?

I honestly don’t understand your point. Are you upset that your kids AREN’T having sex?

My point is how did my parenting affect their decisions to not have sex?

PP was talking about the “cool mom” and shitty parenting being to blame. Am I one of those? Both? Neither?

I think you qualify for “the dumb mom” if you can’t understand 1) the previous post, or 2) how parenting choices may or may not influence children’s behavior…

It also sounds like you actually aspire to be “the cool mom” but through some accident of nature your kids are wise enough to reject your aspirations for them to have sex before they’re ready (and I assume you want this for them because you feel some kind of illogical shame at having not lost your own virginity until 24).

I don’t know, lady, I think there’s a lot to unpack here.

What part of the post made you come to that conclusion?

The part where she said she is “constantly” and “repeatedly” telling her kids how she is ready and willing to facilitate their sex lives. Her overall tone reads (to me, anyway) as almost disappointed that neither of her kids seem inclined to take her up on her offer of having parent-approved teenage sex.

I personally think having the conversation about sex and birth control with your teens is appropriate and necessary, but it’s weird to bring it up all the time (unless you really think your kids are stupid, seriously, they heard you the first time).

I’m the PP you think it’s trying whore out my kids. Sorry - I’m not.

Whenever the subject comes up, I make sure they know they don’t have to hide it and I will do what I need to do to help them do it safely. I also pound it into their heads to never ever drive drunk and always call for help if they’re in a bad situation. My 17 yo does drink and has called for help; my 15 yo does not.
These are messages that absolutely need to be given repeatedly. Every single time my daughter walks out that door on a Friday or Saturday night I say “no driving if you drink and call me if you need anything.” And Every time.

I’m intrigued that you think the safe sex talk only needs to be said once. These are teenagers. In my experience nothing really sinks in the first time.

And I’m not sure how that translates into “facilitating” their sex lives. I want them to know they can come to me for help in any situation, including safe sex. If that somehow is equal to “hey look at that hot guy, why don’t you go nail him? I’ll leave the house for a couple hours to make it easier”, then your brain works much differently than mine. Or my kids.

I will say it as many times as I need to to make sure they are proceeding safely.

If you think I’m ashamed of when I lost my virginity and am actually pushing my kids to have sex, I have no idea how you came to that conclusion. It’s not at all correct.

And yet your follow up post makes it clear that you DO understand parenting…

So again I ask WTF was the point of your first post? Weirdo.

And I told you. I’m asking how my parenting affected their decision to not have sex. Because the PP implies kids with shitty parents are having sex. I’d like to know what that shitty parenting is. And I’m clearly shitty because I offer condoms and birth control. And yet my kids aren’t having sex.

Do you understand my point now? That judgy PP yapping about shitty parents. She’s my point. And she’s wrong.

No, this question was already answered. Sometimes sh!tty parents (e.g. you) randomly manage to have mature, non-sh!tty children (e.g. your kids). Or their other parent is a good influence. Or maybe they want to have sex but they’re not getting any offers. Who knows?

But what you are asking is stupid on its face. It’s the equivalent of asking someone to prove God doesn’t exist (as opposed to proving that he does). So to boil it down for you, 12 year olds who DON’T have sex MAY or MAY NOT have sh!tty parents. 12 year olds who DO have sex ABSOLUTELY have sh!tty parents.

Oh so you ARE the judgmental a$$hole PP! You’re still wrong. And even more of a douche than before.

I think we need a lot more judgmental a$$holes like me in the world if the current trend is normalizing *middle schoolers* having sex.

I might be a douche, but you are a BAD parent.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

The average age of first sex is 16 so there are plenty of 12-15yr olds having sex whether you like it or not. A 14 and 15yr old dating for a year are already having sex. As a parent, you can only talk to them so much and get books or send info. Ultimately teens are going to do things whether you like it or not. The stern parents are always the most clueless.

Jesus. Kids that young having sex are trashy kids raised by trashy parents. It is shocking to me that so many parents are okay with this. Bunch of cool moms, I guess?

How do you come to this conclusion? What could parents have done differently?
I was a virgin until I was 24. My 17yo daughter is a virgin, as is my 15yo son. We talk frequently and openly about sex in our house. My 15yo has a girlfriend and I am constantly drilling it into his head that when he decides to have sex he must use a condom. I told my daughter repeatedly that I will get her on the pill whenever she needs it.
Now I could have had these same conversations with my kids and they may have chosen to have sex earlier. But they didn’t.
So how exactly did my parenting affect their choice to have or not have sex?

I honestly don’t understand your point. Are you upset that your kids AREN’T having sex?

My point is how did my parenting affect their decisions to not have sex?

PP was talking about the “cool mom” and shitty parenting being to blame. Am I one of those? Both? Neither?

I think you qualify for “the dumb mom” if you can’t understand 1) the previous post, or 2) how parenting choices may or may not influence children’s behavior…

It also sounds like you actually aspire to be “the cool mom” but through some accident of nature your kids are wise enough to reject your aspirations for them to have sex before they’re ready (and I assume you want this for them because you feel some kind of illogical shame at having not lost your own virginity until 24).

I don’t know, lady, I think there’s a lot to unpack here.

What part of the post made you come to that conclusion?

The part where she said she is “constantly” and “repeatedly” telling her kids how she is ready and willing to facilitate their sex lives. Her overall tone reads (to me, anyway) as almost disappointed that neither of her kids seem inclined to take her up on her offer of having parent-approved teenage sex.

I personally think having the conversation about sex and birth control with your teens is appropriate and necessary, but it’s weird to bring it up all the time (unless you really think your kids are stupid, seriously, they heard you the first time).

I’m the PP you think it’s trying whore out my kids. Sorry - I’m not.

Whenever the subject comes up, I make sure they know they don’t have to hide it and I will do what I need to do to help them do it safely. I also pound it into their heads to never ever drive drunk and always call for help if they’re in a bad situation. My 17 yo does drink and has called for help; my 15 yo does not.
These are messages that absolutely need to be given repeatedly. Every single time my daughter walks out that door on a Friday or Saturday night I say “no driving if you drink and call me if you need anything.” And Every time.

I’m intrigued that you think the safe sex talk only needs to be said once. These are teenagers. In my experience nothing really sinks in the first time.

And I’m not sure how that translates into “facilitating” their sex lives. I want them to know they can come to me for help in any situation, including safe sex. If that somehow is equal to “hey look at that hot guy, why don’t you go nail him? I’ll leave the house for a couple hours to make it easier”, then your brain works much differently than mine. Or my kids.

I will say it as many times as I need to to make sure they are proceeding safely.

If you think I’m ashamed of when I lost my virginity and am actually pushing my kids to have sex, I have no idea how you came to that conclusion. It’s not at all correct.

And yet your follow up post makes it clear that you DO understand parenting…

So again I ask WTF was the point of your first post? Weirdo.

And I told you. I’m asking how my parenting affected their decision to not have sex. Because the PP implies kids with shitty parents are having sex. I’d like to know what that shitty parenting is. And I’m clearly shitty because I offer condoms and birth control. And yet my kids aren’t having sex.

Do you understand my point now? That judgy PP yapping about shitty parents. She’s my point. And she’s wrong.

No, this question was already answered. Sometimes sh!tty parents (e.g. you) randomly manage to have mature, non-sh!tty children (e.g. your kids). Or their other parent is a good influence. Or maybe they want to have sex but they’re not getting any offers. Who knows?

But what you are asking is stupid on its face. It’s the equivalent of asking someone to prove God doesn’t exist (as opposed to proving that he does). So to boil it down for you, 12 year olds who DON’T have sex MAY or MAY NOT have sh!tty parents. 12 year olds who DO have sex ABSOLUTELY have sh!tty parents.

Oh so you ARE the judgmental a$$hole PP! You’re still wrong. And even more of a douche than before.

I think we need a lot more judgmental a$$holes like me in the world if the current trend is normalizing *middle schoolers* having sex.

I might be a douche, but you are a BAD parent.

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Trolly it’s so obv you keep liking your own posts lol

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13 is when I bought them and kept them in a linen closet

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Pediatrician recommended it the minute I found condoms in my son’s closet. He was 14. I would say if you have any signs like that, or if your son is in a relationship, then it doesn’t really matter what the age is. Make it as safe as possible.

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Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician recommended it the minute I found condoms in my son’s closet. He was 14. I would say if you have any signs like that, or if your son is in a relationship, then it doesn’t really matter what the age is. Make it as safe as possible.

If I found condoms in my 14 year old sons closet he’d be on lockdown for the foreseeable future. Not receiving sexual care packages.

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pp, you're being ridiculous. Teens/young teens might be curious about the product. Curious - NOT USE IT.

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How often are you all replacing condoms? Don’t forget they expire

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Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician recommended it the minute I found condoms in my son’s closet. He was 14. I would say if you have any signs like that, or if your son is in a relationship, then it doesn’t really matter what the age is. Make it as safe as possible.

If I found condoms in my 14 year old sons closet he’d be on lockdown for the foreseeable future. Not receiving sexual care packages.

I agree. Cannot believe parents are fine with 13-15 yr olds having sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician recommended it the minute I found condoms in my son’s closet. He was 14. I would say if you have any signs like that, or if your son is in a relationship, then it doesn’t really matter what the age is. Make it as safe as possible.

If I found condoms in my 14 year old sons closet he’d be on lockdown for the foreseeable future. Not receiving sexual care packages.

I agree. Cannot believe parents are fine with 13-15 yr olds having sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician recommended it the minute I found condoms in my son’s closet. He was 14. I would say if you have any signs like that, or if your son is in a relationship, then it doesn’t really matter what the age is. Make it as safe as possible.

If I found condoms in my 14 year old sons closet he’d be on lockdown for the foreseeable future. Not receiving sexual care packages.

I agree. Cannot believe parents are fine with 13-15 yr olds having sex.

I can believe it. It's all part of the competitive parenting mental illness. It starts in elementary with people comparing notes about number of playdates and bday party invites, then by upper elementary it's how many different friend groups you have inside and outside of school, whether your kid is in the popular group, and by middle school it's a competition to see whose kids are having s3x first. Lots of wierd poorly socialized parents are caught up in seeing whose kid is the most social butterfly. It's also the same people who give their kids a phone in elementary and find themselves in mom group drama. You know the type.

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Anonymous wrote:How often are you all replacing condoms? Don’t forget they expire

But we are talking a year, maybe several years.

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Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician recommended it the minute I found condoms in my son’s closet. He was 14. I would say if you have any signs like that, or if your son is in a relationship, then it doesn’t really matter what the age is. Make it as safe as possible.

If I found condoms in my 14 year old sons closet he’d be on lockdown for the foreseeable future. Not receiving sexual care packages.

I agree. Cannot believe parents are fine with 13-15 yr olds having sex.

I appreciate this-not because I agree- but it gives perspective for real life. I have seen some 9th graders who were sexually active and their parents were told and they steadfastly refused to make sure their kids were protected. They, like you guys, thought they could control their kids activities.

I don’t approve of sex that early but having seen some of this play out, I definitely support parents making sure their kids are protected, rather than simply thinking they can control this behavior.

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I would never ever buy my son condoms. Disgusting!