Baby Now or Wait 2 Years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just think this sounds like so many women who think they have it all figured out, then post on this board two years later about being exhausted and overwhelmed and depressed. We do not support working families in this country at all, so yes, the burdens of pregnancy and the early days of babies will be on her.

New marriage, new (intense) career, new babies all at once? Good luck to you, OP. I side with those who say that this is a lot to put on a new marriage. I also suggest that you try to remain flexible.

Op here. I have been with my husband for 3 years, and we have a very strong marriage.

Oh, 3 long years?

You wouldn't know a strong marriage of it slapped you in the face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just think this sounds like so many women who think they have it all figured out, then post on this board two years later about being exhausted and overwhelmed and depressed. We do not support working families in this country at all, so yes, the burdens of pregnancy and the early days of babies will be on her.

New marriage, new (intense) career, new babies all at once? Good luck to you, OP. I side with those who say that this is a lot to put on a new marriage. I also suggest that you try to remain flexible.

Op here. I have been with my husband for 3 years, and we have a very strong marriage.

Oh, 3 long years?

You wouldn't know a strong marriage of it slapped you in the face.

That's why have of you women on here have cheating husbands or are divorced/remarried.

[Anonymous]

NP here. I am a CRNA and a mom, and (I’m sure you know this already since you’ve been accepted into a program) CRNA school is intense, to put it mildly. The didactic part of the program is rigorous and once clinical rotations start, expect your days to start at the crack of dawn (I was up around 4:30 most mornings) and go late into the evening.

I started when I was your age, got married about 6 months into the program, and waited to have a baby until I was 37. Several of my classmates had young children (one of my best friends in the program got pregnant and delivered a few months before we graduated!), so it’s not impossible. However, I doubt I could have done it; it’s just really grueling (but totally worth it!).

Trying to get pregnant during the last six months-year of the program might not be a bad idea. I will say I do wish we had started trying earlier, since we had a few struggles trying to get pregnant. It’s ultimately a very personal decision, but I would advise against putting off starting a program. I imagine it would be very hard to start with a young child, although you wouldn’t be the first to do it.

Congratulations! It’s an awesome profession. I love my job and am happy every day I go to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just think this sounds like so many women who think they have it all figured out, then post on this board two years later about being exhausted and overwhelmed and depressed. We do not support working families in this country at all, so yes, the burdens of pregnancy and the early days of babies will be on her.

New marriage, new (intense) career, new babies all at once? Good luck to you, OP. I side with those who say that this is a lot to put on a new marriage. I also suggest that you try to remain flexible.

Op here. I have been with my husband for 3 years, and we have a very strong marriage.

LOL
You are newlyweds with no pressure. Of course the marriage is strong. Come back and tell us how it is once you are working FT with three kids, taking care of sick parents etc....
A PP nailed it, you are incredibly naive.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been MARRIED??

[Anonymous]

I don't believe OP froze her eggs at 19. I think she said that because she is confident she will conceive and she didn't want more people telling her that her eggs are old. She didn't want the thread to go that way. I don't believe it for a second.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe OP froze her eggs at 19. I think she said that because she is confident she will conceive and she didn't want more people telling her that her eggs are old. She didn't want the thread to go that way. I don't believe it for a second.

so... did she also invent her aunts' fertility struggles?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe OP froze her eggs at 19. I think she said that because she is confident she will conceive and she didn't want more people telling her that her eggs are old. She didn't want the thread to go that way. I don't believe it for a second.

so... did she also invent her aunts' fertility struggles?

I would guess she did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe OP froze her eggs at 19. I think she said that because she is confident she will conceive and she didn't want more people telling her that her eggs are old. She didn't want the thread to go that way. I don't believe it for a second.

I thought the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am a CRNA and a mom, and (I’m sure you know this already since you’ve been accepted into a program) CRNA school is intense, to put it mildly. The didactic part of the program is rigorous and once clinical rotations start, expect your days to start at the crack of dawn (I was up around 4:30 most mornings) and go late into the evening.

I started when I was your age, got married about 6 months into the program, and waited to have a baby until I was 37. Several of my classmates had young children (one of my best friends in the program got pregnant and delivered a few months before we graduated!), so it’s not impossible. However, I doubt I could have done it; it’s just really grueling (but totally worth it!).

Trying to get pregnant during the last six months-year of the program might not be a bad idea. I will say I do wish we had started trying earlier, since we had a few struggles trying to get pregnant. It’s ultimately a very personal decision, but I would advise against putting off starting a program. I imagine it would be very hard to start with a young child, although you wouldn’t be the first to do it.

Congratulations! It’s an awesome profession. I love my job and am happy every day I go to work.

Op here. Thank you! It's nice to see someone who was once in my shoes, at the same age, as I am now. I am so glad things worked out for you! My DH and I decided waiting a year to try is the best choice. I can't wait to be a mother, but with a CRNA program, I am realistic that I can't do all 3. I want to be able to give my full attention to my baby, and I am glad I have had some posters who see my side of things. It's much easier getting a perspective from someone who is in the medical field, or went for an advanced degree, while planning their family. It may take us a little longer, but we will manage. It's tough asking a board of mostly SAHMs or people who don't think nursing, or a degree is nursing, is hard work. Their life experience or prospective I see are more more baby oriented. Thank you, and keeping enjoying enjoying the wonderful job!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe OP froze her eggs at 19. I think she said that because she is confident she will conceive and she didn't want more people telling her that her eggs are old. She didn't want the thread to go that way. I don't believe it for a second.

I thought the same thing.

Op here. No. I don't need to invent anything. I didn't mention it at first because that would be my last hope. I would prefer to do it the natural way, or adopt, instead of going through fertility treatments. My parents paid for me and my sister to get it done. My sister, who is the medical field, wanted to wait, and encouraged us to freeze our eggs. She has a baby the natural way at 32.

My one aunt found out she had ovarian cancer during a pregnancy ultrasound. She decided to have the child, which resulted in her having an immediate hysterectomy and chemo right after delivery. My other aunt struggled with PCOS from puberty. She ended up with a hystorectomy at afer being diagnosed with endometriosis. My mom, and other aunt ( all sisters) both had a large number of kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am a CRNA and a mom, and (I’m sure you know this already since you’ve been accepted into a program) CRNA school is intense, to put it mildly. The didactic part of the program is rigorous and once clinical rotations start, expect your days to start at the crack of dawn (I was up around 4:30 most mornings) and go late into the evening.

I started when I was your age, got married about 6 months into the program, and waited to have a baby until I was 37. Several of my classmates had young children (one of my best friends in the program got pregnant and delivered a few months before we graduated!), so it’s not impossible. However, I doubt I could have done it; it’s just really grueling (but totally worth it!).

Trying to get pregnant during the last six months-year of the program might not be a bad idea. I will say I do wish we had started trying earlier, since we had a few struggles trying to get pregnant. It’s ultimately a very personal decision, but I would advise against putting off starting a program. I imagine it would be very hard to start with a young child, although you wouldn’t be the first to do it.

Congratulations! It’s an awesome profession. I love my job and am happy every day I go to work.

Op here. Thank you! It's nice to see someone who was once in my shoes, at the same age, as I am now. I am so glad things worked out for you! My DH and I decided waiting a year to try is the best choice. I can't wait to be a mother, but with a CRNA program, I am realistic that I can't do all 3. I want to be able to give my full attention to my baby, and I am glad I have had some posters who see my side of things. It's much easier getting a perspective from someone who is in the medical field, or went for an advanced degree, while planning their family. It may take us a little longer, but we will manage. It's tough asking a board of mostly SAHMs or people who don't think nursing, or a degree is nursing, is hard work. Their life experience or prospective I see are more more baby oriented. Thank you, and keeping enjoying enjoying the wonderful job!

If you are under the impression that this is a board of mostly SAHMs or women who didn't go for advanced degrees or have HARD demanding careers...you are dead wrong.

And yes, your marriage is very much in the happy easy honeymoon phase - it will be a different story when you have children and 2 demanding careers. I'm not saying i can't be great, and hopefully it will - but you need to have more realistic expectations. A lot of us are lawyers and/or are married to lawyers, and we know exactly what kind of career your husband is in for and what difficulties you are ping to be dealing with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am a CRNA and a mom, and (I’m sure you know this already since you’ve been accepted into a program) CRNA school is intense, to put it mildly. The didactic part of the program is rigorous and once clinical rotations start, expect your days to start at the crack of dawn (I was up around 4:30 most mornings) and go late into the evening.

I started when I was your age, got married about 6 months into the program, and waited to have a baby until I was 37. Several of my classmates had young children (one of my best friends in the program got pregnant and delivered a few months before we graduated!), so it’s not impossible. However, I doubt I could have done it; it’s just really grueling (but totally worth it!).

Trying to get pregnant during the last six months-year of the program might not be a bad idea. I will say I do wish we had started trying earlier, since we had a few struggles trying to get pregnant. It’s ultimately a very personal decision, but I would advise against putting off starting a program. I imagine it would be very hard to start with a young child, although you wouldn’t be the first to do it.

Congratulations! It’s an awesome profession. I love my job and am happy every day I go to work.

Op here. Thank you! It's nice to see someone who was once in my shoes, at the same age, as I am now. I am so glad things worked out for you! My DH and I decided waiting a year to try is the best choice. I can't wait to be a mother, but with a CRNA program, I am realistic that I can't do all 3. I want to be able to give my full attention to my baby, and I am glad I have had some posters who see my side of things. It's much easier getting a perspective from someone who is in the medical field, or went for an advanced degree, while planning their family. It may take us a little longer, but we will manage. It's tough asking a board of mostly SAHMs or people who don't think nursing, or a degree is nursing, is hard work. Their life experience or prospective I see are more more baby oriented. Thank you, and keeping enjoying enjoying the wonderful job!

FYI: This is a very uninformed and offbase response, and you're going to piss off a LOT of people with it. Myself included. Before I thought the posters who called you naive and dumb were coming on too harsh, but now I am in agreeance.

Are you even from this area? If you were, you would know that the demographic of this area and CERTAINLY of this website is highly, highly educated and successful. I don't know many people in the area who do NOT have advanced or graduate degrees. People here hustle and are highly successful; many of s have children and work in very demanding high-powered (non hourly!) careers. The vast(.) majority of people in this area and certainly on this site are not "more baby oriented"...we're just not stupid.

[Anonymous]

OP: the idea that you are a rare bird posting here having a career and all is laughable. but if it helps you dismiss all contrary opinions, run with it by all means...nobody really cares what you are going to do and what happens to you.

[Anonymous]

Hahaha oooof wow. You need to be knocked down a few (dozen) pegs. I realize you're very impressed with yourself, but honestly you don't sound very smart. You are in for a RUDE awakening.