Do you sometimes wish you were widowed

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think it matters whether it's disrespectful or not, but I really don't think it's normal to daydream about this. If even a small part of you wants your husband dead you should not be married anymore.

I'd really like to know how long you've been married. More than 15 years?

12 years. So you're saying my death wish will be arriving soon? That all the old marrieds feel this way?!

I'm saying that little things can become big things the longer you are married. I've been married 20 years, and although I don't daydream about it, I can understand it.

Aren't there long standing jokes about the husbands not saving their wives in a fiery car crash if it happened after 20 years of marriage? It's a joke but there must be some sort of truth to these thoughts and feelings?

[Anonymous]

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I do - DH is a jerk and I can't stand being with him. Yet, I don't want a divorce as that would made DD sad.

Yes wish I was widowed asap or divorced with full custody and he moves far away.

It is posters like these two that prove true evil exists in our world. It makes my skin crawl to know that these women could be my neighbors, or that my kids might play with their kids.

There is a hell on earth, and their husbands are living in it.

Is it true evil to wish someone wouldn’t be part of your life anymore?

I don’t see anyone who really wishes their spouse harm. They just have a fantasy of being left alone.

[Anonymous]

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I do - DH is a jerk and I can't stand being with him. Yet, I don't want a divorce as that would made DD sad.

Yes wish I was widowed asap or divorced with full custody and he moves far away.

It is posters like these two that prove true evil exists in our world. It makes my skin crawl to know that these women could be my neighbors, or that my kids might play with their kids.

There is a hell on earth, and their husbands are living in it.

Is it true evil to wish someone wouldn’t be part of your life anymore?

I don’t see anyone who really wishes their spouse harm. They just have a fantasy of being left alone.

If you believe there is hell on earth, and the husbands are living it, wouldn't you believe they deserve it? Doesn't the almighty everlasting infallible god put them there for a reason??

[Anonymous]

I divorced an abusive spouse. It’s been five years and he still doesn’t leave me alone or try to keep punishing me for leaving him. Putting the kids in the middle. Yes. Death would be easier for me and for them.

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Whoever started this post is a selfish, gutless and overall shitty person. Your family is better off without you.

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I am a widow - since kids were young- and I do not wish this life on anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I do - DH is a jerk and I can't stand being with him. Yet, I don't want a divorce as that would made DD sad.

Yes wish I was widowed asap or divorced with full custody and he moves far away.

It is posters like these two that prove true evil exists in our world. It makes my skin crawl to know that these women could be my neighbors, or that my kids might play with their kids.

There is a hell on earth, and their husbands are living in it.

Is it true evil to wish someone wouldn’t be part of your life anymore?

I don’t see anyone who really wishes their spouse harm. They just have a fantasy of being left alone.

This. And it would be easier than divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a widow - since kids were young- and I do not wish this life on anyone.

You would if you had an abusive marriage: would love nothing better than living life with just me and my kids. That is far better than a horrible marriage or having to coparent with someone you never want to speak to again.

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Anonymous wrote:In some ways I think my life would be easier. But it would destroy my kids, so no.

Same. He drives me insane, but is a great father and my kids would be beyond crushed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a widow - since kids were young- and I do not wish this life on anyone.

You would if you had an abusive marriage: would love nothing better than living life with just me and my kids. That is far better than a horrible marriage or having to coparent with someone you never want to speak to again.

Can you please not say this to a widow? We are traumatized enough as it is without your projections. I am sorry for anyone's trauma about an abusive marriage, but please extend kindness to others' situations without inserting a different narrative. Being in an abusive marriage is terrible. Being a widow is terrible. Leave it at that, please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, not with DH. But I have an abusive ex-fiance who did everything physically and mentally in the book to wear me down. I got out, but he also stalked me for 18 years and counting. Less of an issue now than when I was in the process of leaving (escaping? basically going into witness protection?) but I did and do continue to think about the satisfaction I would feel if he just died. If you can just let them go, divorce is most obvious but if there's a lot of abuse like the mine, I totally get it. It's final.

Many women blossom and are finally free when their current or ex abusive spouse finally dies.

I’ve even seen a shell of a person turn around at age 75 when her A-hole husband died and widowed her. My friend’s mom. She’s her own person now and finally enjoying life- traveling, the grandkids, getting out, speaking up. It’s amazing. And sad that for 50 years she sacrificed so much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think it matters whether it's disrespectful or not, but I really don't think it's normal to daydream about this. If even a small part of you wants your husband dead you should not be married anymore.

I'd really like to know how long you've been married. More than 15 years?

12 years. So you're saying my death wish will be arriving soon? That all the old marrieds feel this way?!

I'm saying that little things can become big things the longer you are married. I've been married 20 years, and although I don't daydream about it, I can understand it.

Aren't there long standing jokes about the husbands not saving their wives in a fiery car crash if it happened after 20 years of marriage? It's a joke but there must be some sort of truth to these thoughts and feelings?

No. Have heard the opposite. But not men not saving the person who takes care of everything and everyone in their life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whoever started this post is a selfish, gutless and overall shitty person. Your family is better off without you.

#Triggered

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a widow - since kids were young- and I do not wish this life on anyone.

You would if you had an abusive marriage: would love nothing better than living life with just me and my kids. That is far better than a horrible marriage or having to coparent with someone you never want to speak to again.

Can you please not say this to a widow? We are traumatized enough as it is without your projections. I am sorry for anyone's trauma about an abusive marriage, but please extend kindness to others' situations without inserting a different narrative. Being in an abusive marriage is terrible. Being a widow is terrible. Leave it at that, please.

Two way street.

Obviously this post doesn’t apply to you- you had a living husband and active, involved one with the kids and house.

So surely you can understand and empathize with others who have the exact opposite.

Most women do not divorce lightly. It’s an agonizing decision, it means there were serious problems, and it also means, if minors are involved, you will still be tethered. Surely you understand this and how it has nothing to do with your widow situation. Because everyone else and abused women understand the difference

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Anonymous wrote:In some ways I think my life would be easier. But it would destroy my kids, so no.

Same. He drives me insane, but is a great father and my kids would be beyond crushed.

That’s a good divorce situation then if he’s a caring and attentive and responsible father.

Many of us would divorce in a flash if that was the case and not the polar opposite.