Do you sometimes wish you were widowed

[Anonymous]

When I opened this I expected 2 pages telling op to grow up and stop saying such disgusting things. I honestly didn't expect so many to agree with her.

[Anonymous]

This thread is beyond disgusting. I can't believe you women. Death is forever. Divorce him. Damn.

[Anonymous]

Here's the thread you need OP:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/91726.page

[Anonymous]

Widow here. Never wished for DH to be dead, but the truth is that my life has greatly approved since his death. Kids weren't devastated and got over it fairly quickly.

DH was selfish and lazy and is not missed.

[Anonymous]

Look, fleeting thoughts and daydreams are not "disgusting" or "shameful." OP has not hired a hitman. She is not fantasizing about what it actually means to be a widow, the sorrow, the heartache, the despair, the piles of paperwork.

OP is asking, in essence, have you ever fantasized in bad times about suddenly being free, no questions asked, without any effort on your part, and no trauma. And I think everyone has. So stop condemning her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When he was shoveling during the blizzard, I kept thinking that a heart attack wouldn't be so bad.

If you're really feeling this way about another human being, in this case your spouse, I hope you're getting some serious therapy. You are doing your child no favors by staying married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, fleeting thoughts and daydreams are not "disgusting" or "shameful." OP has not hired a hitman. She is not fantasizing about what it actually means to be a widow, the sorrow, the heartache, the despair, the piles of paperwork.

OP is asking, in essence, have you ever fantasized in bad times about suddenly being free, no questions asked, without any effort on your part, and no trauma. And I think everyone has. So stop condemning her.

You are wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I opened this I expected 2 pages telling op to grow up and stop saying such disgusting things. I honestly didn't expect so many to agree with her.

It's not so many agreeing with her. It's a very short thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, fleeting thoughts and daydreams are not "disgusting" or "shameful." OP has not hired a hitman. She is not fantasizing about what it actually means to be a widow, the sorrow, the heartache, the despair, the piles of paperwork.

OP is asking, in essence, have you ever fantasized in bad times about suddenly being free, no questions asked, without any effort on your part, and no trauma. And I think everyone has. So stop condemning her.

You are wrong.

Okay, you haven't. Here's a cookie for you. Happy now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, fleeting thoughts and daydreams are not "disgusting" or "shameful." OP has not hired a hitman. She is not fantasizing about what it actually means to be a widow, the sorrow, the heartache, the despair, the piles of paperwork.

OP is asking, in essence, have you ever fantasized in bad times about suddenly being free, no questions asked, without any effort on your part, and no trauma. And I think everyone has. So stop condemning her.

You are wrong.

Okay, you haven't. Here's a cookie for you. Happy now?

No, just feeling sad for anyone married to a person who wishes for his or her death. That's a sick way of living.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Look, fleeting thoughts and daydreams are not "disgusting" or "shameful." OP has not hired a hitman. She is not fantasizing about what it actually means to be a widow, the sorrow, the heartache, the despair, the piles of paperwork.

OP is asking, in essence, have you ever fantasized in bad times about suddenly being free, no questions asked, without any effort on your part, and no trauma. And I think everyone has. So stop condemning her.

You are wrong.

Okay, you haven't. Here's a cookie for you. Happy now?

No, just feeling sad for anyone married to a person who wishes for his or her death. That's a sick way of living.

You completely misunderstood (or perhaps deliberately distorted) the nature of this post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, fleeting thoughts and daydreams are not "disgusting" or "shameful." OP has not hired a hitman. She is not fantasizing about what it actually means to be a widow, the sorrow, the heartache, the despair, the piles of paperwork.

OP is asking, in essence, have you ever fantasized in bad times about suddenly being free, no questions asked, without any effort on your part, and no trauma. And I think everyone has. So stop condemning her.

You are wrong.

Okay, you haven't. Here's a cookie for you. Happy now?

No, just feeling sad for anyone married to a person who wishes for his or her death. That's a sick way of living.

You completely misunderstood (or perhaps deliberately distorted) the nature of this post.

Oh, okay. OP's wishing to be widowed while married is different from wishing for a spouse's death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never. Not in a million years.

+1! Anyone who does has no clue what it's like for widows! Grieving, income/finances crashing, kids need support ...
DCUM can be so incredibly flip and insensitive!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Widow here. Never wished for DH to be dead, but the truth is that my life has greatly approved since his death. Kids weren't devastated and got over it fairly quickly.

DH was selfish and lazy and is not missed.

Whoa! Are you a troll? Or a guy "identifying" as a woman/widow and trying to talk about one woman's experience?! That was totally the opposite of my mom's experience.

[Anonymous]

Death is easier than divorce.