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I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night
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Anonymous
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IF he exists and this is not an overwrought attempt at fiction (which is probable) it's likely he has been arrested for poaching.
So he told you that he was hunting illegal animals? Does that tie into his "animal hauling" business? Why would you want to date someone who is engaged in illegal activity? |
Anonymous
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i responded a few pages back. here are some additional things to help
if he has a linkedin account, find employer through there (this has been suggested) google his full name in quotes and see if the resulted yield an address, employer, something google primary newspapers in maine and try to see if there is news of missing hunters. play around with the search entering his name with hunting, uncle or something or the other. are you sure he has not posted or responded to other posts on facebook? check again the two friends you know about that he has, message them on facebook. check their profile and see if they happen to put their email on their profile and send them an email via that route. do the same for his parents. i find it odd that in 6 months you dont know much about him. im not suggesting you are a troll, but i would suspect that something is "off" here. my suggestions were genuine though. i will say i did google maine and hunters just to see results and there is no news of missing hunters from the results. that was my lazy attempt. what i suggested involves a lot more word and search playing to make sure you cover everything. |
Anonymous
| The bottom line is if he's fine and has been delayed for whatever reason, he should have found a way to get in contact with you (i.e. the uncle who obviously has access to the internet). So I do understand your concern and think you should spend less time on DCUM and more time attempting to contact individuals or authorities who can actually help. |
Anonymous
Not necessarily. Probably not, if you're an adult. How old is OP anyway? She sounds young. |
Anonymous
Op here; I didn't even realize that what they were going to hunt was illegal at the time until I started looking everything up when I couldn't get in touch with him. He was going to hunt Bobcats, nothing crazy. And no, he hauls cows for work so nothing illegal about that. |
Anonymous
| I predict the next "chapter" will involve him moldering in a Maine jail for poaching (which the OP didn't think about until I posted the hunting schedule). |
Anonymous
| Google the Uncle's name and see if his cell phone # pops up. |
Anonymous
| I hope he's been arrested. You hang out with klassy ones OP. Scored yourself a great guy. |
Anonymous
NP here. I think the OP is now correct to be concerned, I think she is taking appropriate steps (talking with her friend in law enforcement to get advice, also to get help on checking out other sources). I also think it would be very easy in a long distance relationship of 6 months to know only a few friends/relatives, and if it just so happens those relatives are joining BF on the trip then that avenue for finding details is problematic. I also question just how much people think a person should know about another person (employee contact etc.) I think I can see how that's not a tippy-top priority, especially when there has never been any issue about easily communicating before now. So, all the judgment heaped upon the OP seems really harsh to me. HOWEVER, I am going to suggest that once OP has (hopefully) found the BF safe and sound, she should DTMFA because he is engaged in an illegal activity! And yes, I am annoyed that in 13 pages of posts, the OP managed to omit that little detail, because I do think it suggests other possibilities of what happened. |
Anonymous
I'm 26 |
Anonymous
Sorry, hunting bobcats out-of-season is reprehensible. So yes, it is "crazy." |
Anonymous
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Bobcats is Maine-talk for "my real girlfriend."
Face it OP you're a side chick - you don't get to meet friends and family you don't get any info about where he works or where he's going. You get lies, lays and that's about it. |
Anonymous
| It's simply mind-blowing that people are ripping on the OP. Do you not let someone know where you're going and when you'll return if you go hunting, camping, hiking, anything in a remote area? If you tell someone when you'll be back from an activity like this, you follow up. BF deserves all the stalking he gets. |
Anonymous
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The bottom line is that OP is responding to comments she doesn't like, but is not responding with any pertinent information as to what she has or hasn't tried to locate him.
Surely you know his parents names and could google to get their phone number. Surely you know his uncle's name or another relative and could google to get their phone number. Surely you could somehow figure out his employer (I guess it's not on fb and he's not on linkedin?) - does any one of his friends know where he works? You could just call the Maine state police. Have you done any of these things? |
Anonymous
| OP, strongly recommend that you stop posting here. There are some mean people tuned in to this thread now. Post back when you hear from him, but otherwise, there's nothing you can do to convince these jerks that you're not a trashy immature other woman who is overwrought about something ridiculous. |