A sad story about terrible parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I learned from this thread:

Liberals think its ok to have 6 kids by 6 different men starting at age 16, and to lock my kids in a trailer at night and go clubbing as long as I'm black. Being black excuses me from any for of responsibility or personal accountability. It's the slave owners fault that I make terrible decisions. My brain isn't developed enough to have the innate sense not to do something as stupid as this. It's George Bush's fault.

This.......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I learned from this thread:

Liberals think its ok to have 6 kids by 6 different men starting at age 16, and to lock my kids in a trailer at night and go clubbing as long as I'm black. Being black excuses me from any for of responsibility or personal accountability. It's the slave owners fault that I make terrible decisions. My brain isn't developed enough to have the innate sense not to do something as stupid as this. It's George Bush's fault.

This.......

and anyone who disagrees is judgemental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In terms of the "6 kids by 4+ fathers" issue, has anyone considered that the fact that this woman likely has mental health issues, severe addiction issues, or may have a very low IQ and not have the mental ability to make what we would consider rational decisions?

I've worked with women like this as an RN in a pregnancy/addiction clinic in Baltimore. I'm seen countless women who have 5-15 kids by different men and have been severely addicted to heroin their entire lives. Many pregnancies the result of prostitution, rape, etc (often while the woman is high or intoxicated).

I don't condone what this woman did but women who have these high numbers of unsupported kids are generally dealing with some incredibly tough situations (often across multiple generations).

heroin addiction - no pity.
low IQ - no excuse.

Do you tell your friends with special needs children the same thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing that makes me most upset. Say this woman got herself in a situation where she had 5 kids and realized she couldn't or didn't want to take care of them. There are tons of families who would love to adopt a healthy child under the age of 5. Yes, I know people prefer babies, but younger kids without health issues still get adopted. Why didn't she give them up so that a family who would value them and be able to and want to take care of them would be able to do so?

You are kidding yourself if you think poor black kids in Louisiana are in demand. Outside of gay couples and celebrities on some "save a Negro mission", black kids in the foster care system are SOL.

[Anonymous]

Black woman here.

I will say that the general "she is a ghetto welfare whore" theme is a bit distasteful on this thread. Especially considering that four beautiful souls lost their lives in a tragic way. It tears me up to think about how scared and frightened they must have been all alone without anyone to help them. And it makes me incredibly sad that the oldest child has lost his/her siblings and mother.

I don't think anyone is saying that this woman should be nominated for Mother of the Year. However, there was a rush to judgment. We were discussing her sexual history, her status as a welfare recipient, her possible mental retardation, etc....all without knowing the facts.

It is distasteful that when it comes to a black person the WORST is always assumed, while others get the benefit of the doubt. Someone posted a story not too long ago about a SAHM who was reading a magazine while her toddler drowned in the washing machine. I don't recall her being harshly judged.

In the end, the facts reveal that this woman was shockingly and disgustingly negligent and I am so angry with her. She really should be tried for Murder 1. The thought of a child being abused and neglected just tears me up, so when I read this story, all I can think about are the innocent children and the absence of a responsible person in their lives.

May their sweet souls rest in peace and may their surviving sibling heal from this grief and go on to live a successful life in their honor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:to the poster who says that 5 children by age 26 is normal outside eastern urban areas of the states, is that really true????

im somewhat willing to listen seeing as when i travel in the midwest people think im my child's grandmother (much better alternative than my other conclusion,which is i just look old).

I lived on the west coast (Orange County, San Diego County, and Los Angeles County) from the ages of 13-30, and I can tell you it was definitely not the "norm" amongst my peers. I had my first child at age 24, and was considered "young".

Oh yes, comparing San Diego, Los Angeles, and Washington DC gives a great perspective on life in rural Louisiana. Yep, that just about covers the whole middle part of the country.

The PP said it was normal outside eastern urban areas. Los Angeles is not an EASTERN urban area.

You must be pretty stupid if comparing Los Angeles and rural Louisiana makes sense to you.

I grew up in a rural area and many people I knew had babies right out of high school. Some got married and some of those couples were divorced by the time they were 25-30. I didn't get married until I was 26 and I had my first baby at 27 and the second at 28 which makes me an old mom by the standards in my hometown. Living here the parents of my children's peers are older than I am by five to ten years.
My HS friends have kids that are freshmen in college or seniors in HS. Several of them have children with different men and others have five or six children with the same man but they never married but have been engaged to for the last 10-15 years.
I judge this woman, not because of the number of children she had, or the fact that she was living in a trailer. I judge her because she left her children without supervision and they died as a result of her neglect. I feel for her one surviving child and how terrible it must be to lose his siblings so suddenly. I can only imagine he has survivor's guilt and thinks he should have been there to protect his younger siblings even though chances are he too would have died. He may even think that he should have died right along with them.
I can't imagine the guilt the mother must be feeling over the loss of her children. I hope to God she was off trying to provide for those children and not out trying to find another Daddy for them.
I too wonder where the father(s) is(are) and wonder how they are coping with the loss of their child(ren). They must wonder why they left all the kids in the care of this woman who obviously didn't have help or a support system in place. I know how difficult it is with 2 on my own (DH works 90-100 hours a week and has been gone for 6-8 months at a time) but even without family in the area I was still able to find a support system.

[Anonymous]

You are kidding yourself if you think poor black kids in Louisiana are in demand. Outside of gay couples and celebrities on some "save a Negro mission", black kids in the foster care system are SOL.

What about African American famiies seeking to adopt? Recent studies indicate that they are more willing to adopt and do adopt at higher rates than Caucasians, the disinclination to adopt older children (5 and up) is consistent across race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You are kidding yourself if you think poor black kids in Louisiana are in demand. Outside of gay couples and celebrities on some "save a Negro mission", black kids in the foster care system are SOL.

What about African American famiies seeking to adopt? Recent studies indicate that they are more willing to adopt and do adopt at higher rates than Caucasians, the disinclination to adopt older children (5 and up) is consistent across race.

Yes, but you have to factor in cost. Adoption costs a lot of money. I know of some black couples who are open to adoption. The cost prohibits them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black woman here.

I will say that the general "she is a ghetto welfare whore" theme is a bit distasteful on this thread. Especially considering that four beautiful souls lost their lives in a tragic way. It tears me up to think about how scared and frightened they must have been all alone without anyone to help them. And it makes me incredibly sad that the oldest child has lost his/her siblings and mother.

I don't think anyone is saying that this woman should be nominated for Mother of the Year. However, there was a rush to judgment. We were discussing her sexual history, her status as a welfare recipient, her possible mental retardation, etc....all without knowing the facts.

It is distasteful that when it comes to a black person the WORST is always assumed, while others get the benefit of the doubt. Someone posted a story not too long ago about a SAHM who was reading a magazine while her toddler drowned in the washing machine. I don't recall her being harshly judged.

In the end, the facts reveal that this woman was shockingly and disgustingly negligent and I am so angry with her. She really should be tried for Murder 1. The thought of a child being abused and neglected just tears me up, so when I read this story, all I can think about are the innocent children and the absence of a responsible person in their lives.

May their sweet souls rest in peace and may their surviving sibling heal from this grief and go on to live a successful life in their honor.

For a long time I was under the assumption that she is white trailor trash, seriously. That was my initial assumption and I tore her to shreds.
I have posted negative things about this mom and what color she is really makes no difference.

Yes, many rushed to judgement and...... we were correct. this story plays out too many times and it's so disturbing. The dummy was out clubbing while her children burned to death at home alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I learned from this thread:

Liberals think its ok to have 6 kids by 6 different men starting at age 16, and to lock my kids in a trailer at night and go clubbing as long as I'm black. Being black excuses me from any for of responsibility or personal accountability. It's the slave owners fault that I make terrible decisions. My brain isn't developed enough to have the innate sense not to do something as stupid as this. It's George Bush's fault.

Nobody is saying that. Nobody is saying personal accountability is unimportant.

Just saying, don't leap to conclusions.

Yes, actually someone did:

In terms of the "6 kids by 4+ fathers" issue, has anyone considered that the fact that this woman likely has mental health issues, severe addiction issues, or may have a very low IQ and not have the mental ability to make what we would consider rational decisions?

If she has addiction issues or a low IQ she apparently gets a free pass for letting her kids die an agonizing death while she goes out clubbing; probably looking for another baby daddy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I learned from this thread:

Liberals think its ok to have 6 kids by 6 different men starting at age 16, and to lock my kids in a trailer at night and go clubbing as long as I'm black. Being black excuses me from any for of responsibility or personal accountability. It's the slave owners fault that I make terrible decisions. My brain isn't developed enough to have the innate sense not to do something as stupid as this. It's George Bush's fault.

I'll somewhat agree with this, except that I'm a pro-choice, non-religious liberal minority female who has found it surprising that there are so many PPs who feel the need to defend this woman murderer. There is definitely some sort of peverse sense that because she was black and poor that she is entitled to make poor decisions.

This lady had 5 kids and left four of them alone while she was out clubbing. WTF??

Her actions resulted in 4 young, innocent children dying! Because of that, we are most certainly allowed to judge her behaviors. I wouldn't care about her sexual history or the number of sexual partners if her kids hadn't died. It's her business. But, when her actions result in harm to others - it becomes our business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I learned from this thread:

Liberals think its ok to have 6 kids by 6 different men starting at age 16, and to lock my kids in a trailer at night and go clubbing as long as I'm black. Being black excuses me from any for of responsibility or personal accountability. It's the slave owners fault that I make terrible decisions. My brain isn't developed enough to have the innate sense not to do something as stupid as this. It's George Bush's fault.

I'll somewhat agree with this, except that I'm a pro-choice, non-religious liberal minority female who has found it surprising that there are so many PPs who feel the need to defend this woman murderer. There is definitely some sort of peverse sense that because she was black and poor that she is entitled to make poor decisions.

This lady had 5 kids and left four of them alone while she was out clubbing. WTF??

Her actions resulted in 4 young, innocent children dying! Because of that, we are most certainly allowed to judge her behaviors. I wouldn't care about her sexual history or the number of sexual partners if her kids hadn't died. It's her business. But, when her actions result in harm to others - it becomes our business.

So why were people so upset when the family in the recent car accident were judged for THEIR decisions? One child dies at 2 because they didn't put a fence around the pool or supervise, one child dies at 16 because the parents didn't make anyone buckle up or even ride in the backseat and dad fell asleep at the wheel. Yet anyone who judged those decisions was LAMBASTED in that thread because "these people have just lost another child!" Rich local white people do it= so sad, we cannot criticize in their time of grief. Poor black woman in Louisiana does it = tried and convicted in court of DCUM opinion before her whereabouts that night were even disclosed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I learned from this thread:

Liberals think its ok to have 6 kids by 6 different men starting at age 16, and to lock my kids in a trailer at night and go clubbing as long as I'm black. Being black excuses me from any for of responsibility or personal accountability. It's the slave owners fault that I make terrible decisions. My brain isn't developed enough to have the innate sense not to do something as stupid as this. It's George Bush's fault.

Uh, what I've learned is that you've lumped all posts of a certain kind into the "liberal" post when there are liberals on this thread who have taken a variety of positions that don't follow this line. I don't know what your politics are but you show a lack of reasoning ability. Oh, but then you're probably just a troll - I forgot - your job is to upset the liberals so you don't have to pay attention to your own miserable life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing that makes me most upset. Say this woman got herself in a situation where she had 5 kids and realized she couldn't or didn't want to take care of them. There are tons of families who would love to adopt a healthy child under the age of 5. Yes, I know people prefer babies, but younger kids without health issues still get adopted. Why didn't she give them up so that a family who would value them and be able to and want to take care of them would be able to do so?

Yes, that's a good question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black woman here.

I will say that the general "she is a ghetto welfare whore" theme is a bit distasteful on this thread. Especially considering that four beautiful souls lost their lives in a tragic way. It tears me up to think about how scared and frightened they must have been all alone without anyone to help them. And it makes me incredibly sad that the oldest child has lost his/her siblings and mother.

I don't think anyone is saying that this woman should be nominated for Mother of the Year. However, there was a rush to judgment. We were discussing her sexual history, her status as a welfare recipient, her possible mental retardation, etc....all without knowing the facts.

It is distasteful that when it comes to a black person the WORST is always assumed, while others get the benefit of the doubt. Someone posted a story not too long ago about a SAHM who was reading a magazine while her toddler drowned in the washing machine. I don't recall her being harshly judged.

In the end, the facts reveal that this woman was shockingly and disgustingly negligent and I am so angry with her. She really should be tried for Murder 1. The thought of a child being abused and neglected just tears me up, so when I read this story, all I can think about are the innocent children and the absence of a responsible person in their lives.

May their sweet souls rest in peace and may their surviving sibling heal from this grief and go on to live a successful life in their honor.

Beautifully put, pp. Thanks.