A sad story about terrible parenting.

[Anonymous]

http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/police-4-unattended-boys-die-in-la-home-fire-mother-charged-with-negligent-homicide/2012/04/22/gIQAwsowaT_story.html

Cain said the boys who died were ages 2, 5, 7 and 8. He said their mother, 26-year-old Shaqueta McDade, was arrested and charged with four counts of negligent homicide. She was being held at the Acadia County Jail.

How the hell does a 26yr old have so many children?

[Anonymous]

Really?? Do you really need someone to explain that to you?

[Anonymous]

Something like this happened not too long ago when the mother (again, in her early 20's) was out partying and left her 18mo and 3yo home alone.

Of course, there was also a fire a few years ago in my town where the mother AND all 3 kids were found dead in a first floor bedroom because they were likely sleeping when the fire started.

Let's all check our smoke detectors tonight, ok?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/police-4-unattended-boys-die-in-la-home-fire-mother-charged-with-negligent-homicide/2012/04/22/gIQAwsowaT_story.html

Cain said the boys who died were ages 2, 5, 7 and 8. He said their mother, 26-year-old Shaqueta McDade, was arrested and charged with four counts of negligent homicide. She was being held at the Acadia County Jail.

How the hell does a 26yr old have so many children?

Outside urban areas on the East Coast, I would venture to say this is the norm, not the exception. You are really pretty sheltered.

[Anonymous]

Why is this a story about terrible parenting? It seems to be a tragedy. You are blaming the mother when you know nothing about why the children were alone -- whether they were alone for five minutes because of an emergency or all evening because she was partying.

Bad things happen to people. Blaming them does not mean that you will be spared tragedies.

Have some compassion. This is the face of rural poverty in this country. You look at it and all you have to say is terrible parenting? I think that says more about you than it does about the people involved.

[Anonymous]

The four boys have three different last names, but two of them (the first and third) have the same last name as their mother...Seems likely that each of the boys had a different father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The four boys have three different last names, but two of them (the first and third) have the same last name as their mother...Seems likely that each of the boys had a different father.

So fucking what????

[Anonymous]

She has 5 kids.

She was arrested pretty quickly so it would seem they knew she didn't leave them alone for a few minutes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this a story about terrible parenting? It seems to be a tragedy. You are blaming the mother when you know nothing about why the children were alone -- whether they were alone for five minutes because of an emergency or all evening because she was partying.

Bad things happen to people. Blaming them does not mean that you will be spared tragedies.

Have some compassion. This is the face of rural poverty in this country. You look at it and all you have to say is terrible parenting? I think that says more about you than it does about the people involved.

i'll take the bait (not OP). I think there is plenty evidence of terribly parenting here -- 26 year old mom with five kids (the fifth grader wasn't home at the time of the fire) with at least three different last names living in a mobile home. mom not home when a fire started. ALSO bad parenting because where the heck is/are the father(s)?

be honest with yourself -- these kids weren't left alone for five minutes because of an emergency. that doesn 't mean she was out partying, either. regardless of why and how long they were alone, he fact is that these kids died alone and in a likely painful way. it IS tragic -- not only because these little kids died in a fire, but because they likley never had a chance from the start.

if we stopped trying to bend over backwards to make excuses for selfish people who make bad choices that directly affect people who have no other options (i.e. "parents" who have more kids than they can afford/take care of/want), the next generation might be able to rise out of rural or urban poverty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The four boys have three different last names, but two of them (the first and third) have the same last name as their mother...Seems likely that each of the boys had a different father.

So fucking what????

Really? 4 kids by 4 different men in less than 6 years gets a "so what" reaction?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The four boys have three different last names, but two of them (the first and third) have the same last name as their mother...Seems likely that each of the boys had a different father.

So fucking what????

So fucking what in response to?

Be specific so that the PP can address the "so fucking what?" comment.

some scenerios:- so fucking what that she made babies with three different men
- so fucking what that these kids had 3 different fathers
- so fucking what that the media reported this fact
- so fucking what that . . . fill in your response here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The four boys have three different last names, but two of them (the first and third) have the same last name as their mother...Seems likely that each of the boys had a different father.

So fucking what????

Really? 4 kids by 4 different men in less than 6 years gets a "so what" reaction?

Well, apparently this should be no surprise because it's normal and acceptable. It is common and expected and we should strive for nothing better than to get pregnant by every man we meet. Yup, and then we should feel sorry for her welfare receiving ass because life is so hard for her. Then we should pity her for not having opportunities

Why do I have a feeling she was out working on baby number, what was it now? 7 or 8?

Her ass should have been home with her children. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The four boys have three different last names, but two of them (the first and third) have the same last name as their mother...Seems likely that each of the boys had a different father.

So fucking what????

Really? 4 kids by 4 different men in less than 6 years gets a "so what" reaction?

Well, apparently this should be no surprise because it's normal and acceptable. It is common and expected and we should strive for nothing better than to get pregnant by every man we meet. Yup, and then we should feel sorry for her welfare receiving ass because life is so hard for her. Then we should pity her for not having opportunities

Why do I have a feeling she was out working on baby number, what was it now? 7 or 8?

Her ass should have been home with her children. Period.

i'll take it a step farther -- the kids probably shoul dhave been taken out of the "home" and adopted by parents who want them and would take care of them.

[Anonymous]

But of course the father(s) get a free pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The four boys have three different last names, but two of them (the first and third) have the same last name as their mother...Seems likely that each of the boys had a different father.

So fucking what????

Really? 4 kids by 4 different men in less than 6 years gets a "so what" reaction?

Well, apparently this should be no surprise because it's normal and acceptable. It is common and expected and we should strive for nothing better than to get pregnant by every man we meet. Yup, and then we should feel sorry for her welfare receiving ass because life is so hard for her. Then we should pity her for not having opportunities

Why do I have a feeling she was out working on baby number, what was it now? 7 or 8?

Her ass should have been home with her children. Period.

i'll take it a step farther -- the kids probably shoul dhave been taken out of the "home" and adopted by parents who want them and would take care of them.

Because the mother did not want them??? Because she was living in a mobile home? That's evidence that she does not want her children?

Perhaps -- just suppose -- that she was at work? Because "Welfare to Work" geniuses have mandated that one cannot "sit on one's ass" and collect welfare anymore." She can't by a stay at home mom and stay with her kids. She has to work. See, when one is poor, one can't SAHM. Because that equals sitting on one's ass. But when a poor woman goes to work, that means she doesn't love her children, and they should be adopted by someone who does.

Huh.