Woman here earning seven figures for the first time -- plan to date only men who earn more

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I understand this logic but it’s not the way to find love. You can tie up your wealth in trusts and create a prenup where your new husband won’t take your money but you don’t need a guy with money.

There are amazing human souls that could make $5M a year and have chosen to devote their lives to service through DOJ, foreign service, military, firefighters, etc. There are incredible inventors, musicians, chefs. Please find love. You found money and success.

I’m also a 40s lawyer with good earning in private practice and don’t want a man who is just going to live off me but you can get billionaire leeches.

This is an absurd statement. If they could make $5M, they would and wouldn’t be in relatively low paying jobs

You are so self absorbed that you can’t even fathom someone not putting their own net worth goals over service to society and community, recognizing that every opportunity they do have is owing to those who came before.

My circle is full of highly educated people, many of the m elite college athletes; most are in medicine, education, and public service. Many have come from more lucrative career paths and found that fulfillment in serving others is more valuable than anything you can buy.

I’m not being snarky when I say: you should try it. You will find much more happiness than you can from a Hermes bag.

I find more happiness from a Hermes bag. I’m sorry you never had one. Try it. You’ll find happiness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand this logic but it’s not the way to find love. You can tie up your wealth in trusts and create a prenup where your new husband won’t take your money but you don’t need a guy with money.

There are amazing human souls that could make $5M a year and have chosen to devote their lives to service through DOJ, foreign service, military, firefighters, etc. There are incredible inventors, musicians, chefs. Please find love. You found money and success.

I’m also a 40s lawyer with good earning in private practice and don’t want a man who is just going to live off me but you can get billionaire leeches.

This is an absurd statement. If they could make $5M, they would and wouldn’t be in relatively low paying jobs

You are so self absorbed that you can’t even fathom someone not putting their own net worth goals over service to society and community, recognizing that every opportunity they do have is owing to those who came before.

My circle is full of highly educated people, many of the m elite college athletes; most are in medicine, education, and public service. Many have come from more lucrative career paths and found that fulfillment in serving others is more valuable than anything you can buy.

I’m not being snarky when I say: you should try it. You will find much more happiness than you can from a Hermes bag.

I find more happiness from a Hermes bag. I’m sorry you never had one. Try it. You’ll find happiness.

And the claws are out! 🐈

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand this logic but it’s not the way to find love. You can tie up your wealth in trusts and create a prenup where your new husband won’t take your money but you don’t need a guy with money.

There are amazing human souls that could make $5M a year and have chosen to devote their lives to service through DOJ, foreign service, military, firefighters, etc. There are incredible inventors, musicians, chefs. Please find love. You found money and success.

I’m also a 40s lawyer with good earning in private practice and don’t want a man who is just going to live off me but you can get billionaire leeches.

This is an absurd statement. If they could make $5M, they would and wouldn’t be in relatively low paying jobs

You are so self absorbed that you can’t even fathom someone not putting their own net worth goals over service to society and community, recognizing that every opportunity they do have is owing to those who came before.

My circle is full of highly educated people, many of the m elite college athletes; most are in medicine, education, and public service. Many have come from more lucrative career paths and found that fulfillment in serving others is more valuable than anything you can buy.

I’m not being snarky when I say: you should try it. You will find much more happiness than you can from a Hermes bag.

I find more happiness from a Hermes bag. I’m sorry you never had one. Try it. You’ll find happiness.

What a sad, sad statement. OP: if this is you, please do a bit of self-evaluation. If an overpriced bag (that most people aren’t interested in anyway) has more value to you than people, then your life took a bad turn somewhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are so self absorbed that you can’t even fathom someone not putting their own net worth goals over service to society and community, recognizing that every opportunity they do have is owing to those who came before.

My circle is full of highly educated people, many of the m elite college athletes; most are in medicine, education, and public service. Many have come from more lucrative career paths and found that fulfillment in serving others is more valuable than anything you can buy.

I’m not being snarky when I say: you should try it. You will find much more happiness than you can from a Hermes bag.

I find more happiness from a Hermes bag. I’m sorry you never had one. Try it. You’ll find happiness.

What a sad, sad statement. OP: if this is you, please do a bit of self-evaluation. If an overpriced bag (that most people aren’t interested in anyway) has more value to you than people, then your life took a bad turn somewhere.

I’m a 40-year-old woman with over 20 Kelly and Birkin bags, and I’d give every one of them up to become an advanced pickleball player. Those bags aren’t that special anyway.

[Anonymous]

[list]

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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

I’m surprised OP posted that. The level of stupidity does not sound like something a millionaire would say. I am the PP and I was talking about the average young women exposed to social media messaging telling her to value being fully supported by a man and that she should never consider 50/50. I surely wasn’t alluding to the minority of young women like OP’s daughter who have wealthy parents. Those girls either don’t need men at all or have access to high value young men and don’t need to consider older rich men.

OP is either a dimwit or a troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:[list]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

I’m surprised OP posted that. The level of stupidity does not sound like something a millionaire would say. I am the PP and I was talking about the average young women exposed to social media messaging telling her to value being fully supported by a man and that she should never consider 50/50. I surely wasn’t alluding to the minority of young women like OP’s daughter who have wealthy parents. Those girls either don’t need men at all or have access to high value young men and don’t need to consider older rich men.

OP is either a dimwit or a troll.

This board is full of middle aged women. It should be our jobs to make sure our daughters have plenty of options besides being fully supported by old men. You sound like a dimwit or troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[list]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

I’m surprised OP posted that. The level of stupidity does not sound like something a millionaire would say. I am the PP and I was talking about the average young women exposed to social media messaging telling her to value being fully supported by a man and that she should never consider 50/50. I surely wasn’t alluding to the minority of young women like OP’s daughter who have wealthy parents. Those girls either don’t need men at all or have access to high value young men and don’t need to consider older rich men.

OP is either a dimwit or a troll.

Like we’ve been telling you, it’s only desperate girls who date decades older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[list]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

I’m surprised OP posted that. The level of stupidity does not sound like something a millionaire would say. I am the PP and I was talking about the average young women exposed to social media messaging telling her to value being fully supported by a man and that she should never consider 50/50. I surely wasn’t alluding to the minority of young women like OP’s daughter who have wealthy parents. Those girls either don’t need men at all or have access to high value young men and don’t need to consider older rich men.

OP is either a dimwit or a troll.

This board is full of middle aged women. It should be our jobs to make sure our daughters have plenty of options besides being fully supported by old men. You sound like a dimwit or troll.

You don’t have a job do you. No critical thinking going on up there.

I am simply describing a social media trend, not issuing any normative calls for women to date old men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[list]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

I’m surprised OP posted that. The level of stupidity does not sound like something a millionaire would say. I am the PP and I was talking about the average young women exposed to social media messaging telling her to value being fully supported by a man and that she should never consider 50/50. I surely wasn’t alluding to the minority of young women like OP’s daughter who have wealthy parents. Those girls either don’t need men at all or have access to high value young men and don’t need to consider older rich men.

OP is either a dimwit or a troll.

This board is full of middle aged women. It should be our jobs to make sure our daughters have plenty of options besides being fully supported by old men. You sound like a dimwit or troll.

You don’t have a job do you. No critical thinking going on up there.

I am simply describing a social media trend, not issuing any normative calls for women to date old men.

A social media trend? Who cares. Talk about lack of critical thinking skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[list]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Why?

Is it disgusting and demeaning when men only date beautiful women?

I’m surprised OP posted that. The level of stupidity does not sound like something a millionaire would say. I am the PP and I was talking about the average young women exposed to social media messaging telling her to value being fully supported by a man and that she should never consider 50/50. I surely wasn’t alluding to the minority of young women like OP’s daughter who have wealthy parents. Those girls either don’t need men at all or have access to high value young men and don’t need to consider older rich men.

OP is either a dimwit or a troll.

This board is full of middle aged women. It should be our jobs to make sure our daughters have plenty of options besides being fully supported by old men. You sound like a dimwit or troll.

You don’t have a job do you. No critical thinking going on up there.

I am simply describing a social media trend, not issuing any normative calls for women to date old men.

A social media trend? Who cares. Talk about lack of critical thinking skills.

DP. I get that you’re simply trying to be dismissive and insulting. (That’s not very useful, by the way.) I know of the trend the poster is referencing, and it is something we should care about if we are parents who want our daughters to develop into independent, capable women. If you are comfortable with your daughter relying on you or someone else for money, then maybe this negative messaging doesn’t bother you as much.

So the other poster is illustrating those critical thinking skills. Perhaps, PP, you should take your own advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand this logic but it’s not the way to find love. You can tie up your wealth in trusts and create a prenup where your new husband won’t take your money but you don’t need a guy with money.

There are amazing human souls that could make $5M a year and have chosen to devote their lives to service through DOJ, foreign service, military, firefighters, etc. There are incredible inventors, musicians, chefs. Please find love. You found money and success.

I’m also a 40s lawyer with good earning in private practice and don’t want a man who is just going to live off me but you can get billionaire leeches.

This is an absurd statement. If they could make $5M, they would and wouldn’t be in relatively low paying jobs

I’m not motivated by money at all. I’m motivated by seeing progress and helping others, so I teach. I could have gone into any field; I’m intelligent and driven enough to succeed at any job.

But money isn’t my end goal; I don’t want to be on my deathbed knowing the only person who benefited from my existence is myself. My parents told me to make this world better, and as trite as that sounds, that’s my goal. I don’t see how hoarding money I don’t need does that.

So don’t assume those of us who don’t make money CAN’T make money. You had an easier path making your millions because people like me elected not to join the competition.

OP’s premise is that I’m not worth meeting because my salary doesn’t meet her requirement. That’s not a shortcoming on my part; it’s a shortcoming on anyone who thinks that matters.

If you haven't done it, you don't know if you could have been successful. And no one could succeed at any job, because it takes a lot more than being smart and hardworking, and it varies by field.

People get to have preferences that exclude us and it's not a shortcoming for either them or us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer in my mid-forties, and for the first time I average low seven figures. My XH consistently made low seven figures, too (not lawyer). I plan to start dating soon after having gotten out of my 20 year marriage.

Partly because of his earning history, but now especially because of my own, I cannot imagine dating a man who earns less (either through his work or passive income). I realize that this will hugely reduce the candidate pool.

Are there any dating sites where people are pre-selected based on income and/or assets?

What do you expect to get out of the marriage? Money? Kids?

[Anonymous]

OP, even without seeing you or meeting you, I can see the following drawbacks
- You are a divorcee
- You are not young.
- You are in a field that does not provide you with lots of leisure time
- If you have children, that is more baggage

Why would any high net worth man want to marry you?