Seems real to me. I first went to South Asia in the 1980s and it's much more modern now than it was then but there are still situations like OP is describing. I have found there are two types of American: those who enjoy the South Asian lifestyle, and those who are freaked-out by it. OP is the latter. It's too bad she is like that because rural Bengal is very nice. |
Plenty of local places serve pizza. I’m quite sure none of those places support Israel. Keep this thread going, please. It’s hilarious to people from the subcontinent. |
Op here as an AMERICAN it feels poor. I am freezing cold. There aren't any heaters here (not even space heaters) and the door is open all day and windows are open all night. It's very hard to take a bucket bath when you are cold. I think a lot of the people posting replies are originally from South Asia or grew up with immigrant parents and took lots of trips abroad. I will be okay but living like this for a month is really hard. |
Op here. If we were in Dhaka I would love it. Bangladesh is also much more conservative than India. I see women covering their entire faces. I can't go out for coffee and strike up conversations with people, especially men. I have to limit my conversations were men in his family. |
The temperature in Faridpur shows a high of 72 and a low of 54. That’s freezing? What are your children doing? |
Your DH should be in charge of bathing the kids and trying to find food for you all that you would enjoy. |
OP has been posting about this for years. She has had plenty of time to research and prepare. She chooses instead to stress out and whine. She goes in 100% expecting to be miserable no matter what, so she doesn't do any of the practical things to prepare properly (like get the right vaccines!! Or learn a few words of the local language!) and then acts horrified that the predictable happens (gets sick from a disease that would have been prevented with the proper vaccine).
OP, if you plan to be miserable, you will be. Or you can open your mind to doing things a new way. Your choice. But please stop the victim act. It's getting old. |
My boyfriend grew up with an outhouse and bucket bath in rural Ohio. They did not get indoor plumbing until he was in high school. He mentioned the house they lived in when he was young was really, really old. Our once a week cleaning lady in Frederick who lived in Brunswick had an outhouse for many many years. It was a big deal when she got indoor plumbing. |
Surely you’re not just sitting around the house all day, OP? Organize a trip to see the local attractions. Do some shopping. Get yourself a jamdani sari. |
But that would mean she has less time to whine, so…. |
I have read all of your posts,Op
across different threads that you started. It really is beyond belief that: - you have been to Bangladesh before and are still unprepared for many things - that even in your second visit you cannot navigate your way around simple cooking things like breakfast other than using a pancake maker that you took from US - there are many ways to get across the street without walking if thats difficult for you - you said your kids like the rickshaw. - LOADS of local places sell pizza there not just Dominoes - you keep saying Bengal this and Bengal that, it’s “Bengali” - please know the difference if you are married to a Bangladeshi, and have kids too so you can teach them - if you visit a place like Serene Garden in “rural Bangladesh “ and still complain about dirty cushions, sorry you are a troll. - you claim no one told you about certain things - you could surely look them up online when in the US, but you didn't because you want to be ignorant, or want dh to spoon feed you everything. Or you love drama. - communication with your dh needs to be a lot more transparent,( and has nothing to do with Bangladesh and its rural cities, ) but thats a different story. |
+10000 Bingo! |
This is what I've done in traditional Ryokan in Japan. Except the ambience is all wood, relaxing and delightful, and the water is a warm temperature. When you're all clean, you steep yourself in a HOT HOT HOT bath up to your neck. Not for those with deep varicose veins. I grew up in the UK, when after cross country runs, my classmates and I were supposed to wash with boiling hot OR glacially cold water coming out of different faucets, no mixer. Since this was the school showers, there were no buckets, no nothing. No one ever took showers. We all went home caked in mud (because it rained nearly every day where I lived, and running in mud gets you caked) and washed at home. But OP has a bucket, she can mix water. I've had to do that once when we lost water in our house in Bethesda! OP, you've got to communicate better with your husband. You're not an adventurous person. Tell him that next time, he's either going by himself, or he has to make some concessions. |
OP,
I've enjoyed the photos that you have posted. Do your kids eat rice? |
When I visit India with my American spouse and our kids we are so busy with meeting family and friends, traveling and shopping that we barely have a moment to sit down. And we eat all the local food like there’s no tomorrow, with sensible precautions. We go for 2 weeks. A month would be heaven. I don’t think I’d be writing essays on DCUM. |