Dating a conservative

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

Only in America could someone find a job in gender equity. What do you actually do in that sphere?? An agnostic woman who works in gender equity. Has to be a troll post.

It could be worse, she could be a DE&I sicko.

Standard run-of-the-mill HR lady is worse than all those made up jobs combined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know Who do you need to stay away from are white women and men. The majority of them voted for Trump.

100%. OP only should date POC, it is a safe bet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

Please tell him to run as fast and as far away as he can.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

Only in America could someone find a job in gender equity. What do you actually do in that sphere?? An agnostic woman who works in gender equity. Has to be a troll post.

Lol what?!? You don’t think people work in gender equity in developing countries?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

It sounds like he’s willing to respect your views if you respect his, and you both could adopt an “agree to disagree” posture to keep the peace. What’s more important to you: (1) finding someone that respects your views, or (2) finding someone that agrees with your views?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

It sounds like he’s willing to respect your views if you respect his, and you both could adopt an “agree to disagree” posture to keep the peace. What’s more important to you: (1) finding someone that respects your views, or (2) finding someone that agrees with your views?

Generally, if they agree with their views, and not just lip service, then they also would respect OP's views, too.

I'm moderate, but I couldn't deal with a progressive liberal or a MAGA type.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

He knows that you have a certain...morally casual attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on how much conservative (more center or middle would be ideal. )- and find out his views on children, abortion. Been married to a conservative last 16 years and have to say they make great husbands and fathers long term.

please. Conservative men don't believe in equal housework and childcare.

I grew up in a conservative household.

Liberal men are much more aware of women's rights than conservative men, who really don't care much about women's rights.

Also, the highly educated tend to be liberal.

I disagree, I’m very liberal.

Conservative men fix things, take care of the lawn/yard, paint rooms, fix light fixtures, do the taxes, grill, take orders when there is a party, plan tail gates, do the dishes, take their plates to the sink, set up tvs, move furniture, coach kids sports teams, help with nighttime routine (anything family), etc.

Things are equal but fall on gender norm lines.

haha .. my liberal DH does all of it, and cooks, not just grill, bakes, fixes all kinds of things (neighbors all come to him for help fixing stuff), and he's an engineer. But, I do the taxes.

Conservative men aren't doing much childcare or cooking and baking. Please.

Tail gate? LOL That's super important housework. LOL

You missed the point!

Yes conservative men to care for children but just not in the way you agree.

And southerners tailgate Friday night/Saturday and Sunday.

Grilling is cooking

You aren’t talking about conservatives you are talking about jerks. There are plenty of liberal men who can’t cut a lawn or install a light fixture.

I didn't miss the point. Conservative men mostly have traditional gender roles, and doing housechorse and childcare is a traditionally female's role. If you mean they care for their children by working, guess what.. most women work and do housechores/childcare, too.

I didn't realize Conservative only meant "southerners". LOL. I think you mean "traditional southern" people, not "conservatives". But, I'm sure you know that there are conservatives in other parts of the country,right? LOL

No taking care of children is not "traditional female roles" after men get home from work. Actually it's the opposite. Conservative men are actually very involved in care of children after they get home from work, but yes, they work so they are not involved from 9-5 but neither are working women.

Conservative is not a Monolith nor is Liberal, you are joking if you think all liberal men are doing bedtime routine 50/50. I was giving and example.

Conservative men are coaching teams, boy scouts, church groups, football games, baseball games, etc.

51% of conservatives support LGBT rights/marriage.
40% support immigration support
50% support gun control

You really have been snowed by the Trump GOP and have forgotten there is a whole group of conservative that are not them.

lol. I need a source for your %s.

The front runner for 2024 for the GOP is Trump. He has a much bigger lead than the next R. So yes, Trump GOP = GOP.

I seriously doubt that most conservative men are doing childcare duty, cooking, cleaning after work. I'm sure there are a few, but I doubt the vast majority of conservative men are what you are describing.

Most hilarious to see in this thread repeated warnings that conservative men won’t do housework, cooking, childcare.

The most common complaint in DCUM Relationships is that men don’t do those things. I’d venture to guess that the vast majority of DCUM women making these complaints are married to liberal men (Democrats, anyway). So it’s liberal men, in reality, who don’t do housework, cooking, childcare…

LOL.. re-read your own statement. The vast majority of posters on here are Dems, that's why they complain about their probably Dem DH.

R women have been brainwashed to believe that housechores and childcare are their responsibility, and that a man just needs to take their dirty plates to the sink and organize tailgates and grill. LOL. That's why they don't complain as much. I'm betting those R men don't do diaper duty or middle of the night feeds.

When the "grab'em by the p*s" tape came out, I recall some conservative women saying that this was all locker talk, and boys being boys, and it's not a big deal if a man/boy gropes women. It's "normal". Conservative women have been brainwashed.

And btw I never stated that all liberal men do the housechores; I stated that they support policies regarding women's rights, and conservative men largely do not.

But, the poster who did start out with "conservative men make great husbands and dads" is a man. I'm sure of it. No woman thinks taking their dirty dishes to the sink and organizing tailgating = great husband. Or maybe conservative women do.

Hilarious, indeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

It sounds like he’s willing to respect your views if you respect his, and you both could adopt an “agree to disagree” posture to keep the peace. What’s more important to you: (1) finding someone that respects your views, or (2) finding someone that agrees with your views?

Generally, if they agree with their views, and not just lip service, then they also would respect OP's views, too.

I'm moderate, but I couldn't deal with a progressive liberal or a MAGA type.

Sure. But for existing “topics of potential political disagreement”, people can and do change their perspective over time. And, of course, new issues continually come up. If a relationship is premised on mutual respect first, I imagine that has a more likely chance of long term success, than a “we must agree politically” relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

It sounds like he’s willing to respect your views if you respect his, and you both could adopt an “agree to disagree” posture to keep the peace. What’s more important to you: (1) finding someone that respects your views, or (2) finding someone that agrees with your views?

Generally, if they agree with their views, and not just lip service, then they also would respect OP's views, too.

I'm moderate, but I couldn't deal with a progressive liberal or a MAGA type.

Sure. But for existing “topics of potential political disagreement”, people can and do change their perspective over time. And, of course, new issues continually come up. If a relationship is premised on mutual respect first, I imagine that has a more likely chance of long term success, than a “we must agree politically” relationship.

I think if you base your relationship on shared morality and not politics, then when 1 party goes off the deep end they won’t jump off the end with them.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on how much conservative (more center or middle would be ideal. )- and find out his views on children, abortion. Been married to a conservative last 16 years and have to say they make great husbands and fathers long term.

please. Conservative men don't believe in equal housework and childcare.

I grew up in a conservative household.

Liberal men are much more aware of women's rights than conservative men, who really don't care much about women's rights.

Also, the highly educated tend to be liberal.

I disagree, I’m very liberal.

Conservative men fix things, take care of the lawn/yard, paint rooms, fix light fixtures, do the taxes, grill, take orders when there is a party, plan tail gates, do the dishes, take their plates to the sink, set up tvs, move furniture, coach kids sports teams, help with nighttime routine (anything family), etc.

Things are equal but fall on gender norm lines.

haha .. my liberal DH does all of it, and cooks, not just grill, bakes, fixes all kinds of things (neighbors all come to him for help fixing stuff), and he's an engineer. But, I do the taxes.

Conservative men aren't doing much childcare or cooking and baking. Please.

Tail gate? LOL That's super important housework. LOL

You missed the point!

Yes conservative men to care for children but just not in the way you agree.

And southerners tailgate Friday night/Saturday and Sunday.

Grilling is cooking

You aren’t talking about conservatives you are talking about jerks. There are plenty of liberal men who can’t cut a lawn or install a light fixture.

I didn't miss the point. Conservative men mostly have traditional gender roles, and doing housechorse and childcare is a traditionally female's role. If you mean they care for their children by working, guess what.. most women work and do housechores/childcare, too.

I didn't realize Conservative only meant "southerners". LOL. I think you mean "traditional southern" people, not "conservatives". But, I'm sure you know that there are conservatives in other parts of the country,right? LOL

No taking care of children is not "traditional female roles" after men get home from work. Actually it's the opposite. Conservative men are actually very involved in care of children after they get home from work, but yes, they work so they are not involved from 9-5 but neither are working women.

Conservative is not a Monolith nor is Liberal, you are joking if you think all liberal men are doing bedtime routine 50/50. I was giving and example.

Conservative men are coaching teams, boy scouts, church groups, football games, baseball games, etc.

51% of conservatives support LGBT rights/marriage.
40% support immigration support
50% support gun control

You really have been snowed by the Trump GOP and have forgotten there is a whole group of conservative that are not them.

lol. I need a source for your %s.

The front runner for 2024 for the GOP is Trump. He has a much bigger lead than the next R. So yes, Trump GOP = GOP.

I seriously doubt that most conservative men are doing childcare duty, cooking, cleaning after work. I'm sure there are a few, but I doubt the vast majority of conservative men are what you are describing.

Most hilarious to see in this thread repeated warnings that conservative men won’t do housework, cooking, childcare.

The most common complaint in DCUM Relationships is that men don’t do those things. I’d venture to guess that the vast majority of DCUM women making these complaints are married to liberal men (Democrats, anyway). So it’s liberal men, in reality, who don’t do housework, cooking, childcare…

LOL.. re-read your own statement. The vast majority of posters on here are Dems, that's why they complain about their probably Dem DH.

R women have been brainwashed to believe that housechores and childcare are their responsibility, and that a man just needs to take their dirty plates to the sink and organize tailgates and grill. LOL. That's why they don't complain as much. I'm betting those R men don't do diaper duty or middle of the night feeds.

When the "grab'em by the p*s" tape came out, I recall some conservative women saying that this was all locker talk, and boys being boys, and it's not a big deal if a man/boy gropes women. It's "normal". Conservative women have been brainwashed.

And btw I never stated that all liberal men do the housechores; I stated that they support policies regarding women's rights, and conservative men largely do not.

But, the poster who did start out with "conservative men make great husbands and dads" is a man. I'm sure of it. No woman thinks taking their dirty dishes to the sink and organizing tailgating = great husband. Or maybe conservative women do.

Hilarious, indeed.

Just like women who think PTA and birthday parties make a good mom/wife.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on how much conservative (more center or middle would be ideal. )- and find out his views on children, abortion. Been married to a conservative last 16 years and have to say they make great husbands and fathers long term.

please. Conservative men don't believe in equal housework and childcare.

I grew up in a conservative household.

Liberal men are much more aware of women's rights than conservative men, who really don't care much about women's rights.

Also, the highly educated tend to be liberal.

I disagree, I’m very liberal.

Conservative men fix things, take care of the lawn/yard, paint rooms, fix light fixtures, do the taxes, grill, take orders when there is a party, plan tail gates, do the dishes, take their plates to the sink, set up tvs, move furniture, coach kids sports teams, help with nighttime routine (anything family), etc.

Things are equal but fall on gender norm lines.

haha .. my liberal DH does all of it, and cooks, not just grill, bakes, fixes all kinds of things (neighbors all come to him for help fixing stuff), and he's an engineer. But, I do the taxes.

Conservative men aren't doing much childcare or cooking and baking. Please.

Tail gate? LOL That's super important housework. LOL

You missed the point!

Yes conservative men to care for children but just not in the way you agree.

And southerners tailgate Friday night/Saturday and Sunday.

Grilling is cooking

You aren’t talking about conservatives you are talking about jerks. There are plenty of liberal men who can’t cut a lawn or install a light fixture.

I didn't miss the point. Conservative men mostly have traditional gender roles, and doing housechorse and childcare is a traditionally female's role. If you mean they care for their children by working, guess what.. most women work and do housechores/childcare, too.

I didn't realize Conservative only meant "southerners". LOL. I think you mean "traditional southern" people, not "conservatives". But, I'm sure you know that there are conservatives in other parts of the country,right? LOL

No taking care of children is not "traditional female roles" after men get home from work. Actually it's the opposite. Conservative men are actually very involved in care of children after they get home from work, but yes, they work so they are not involved from 9-5 but neither are working women.

Conservative is not a Monolith nor is Liberal, you are joking if you think all liberal men are doing bedtime routine 50/50. I was giving and example.

Conservative men are coaching teams, boy scouts, church groups, football games, baseball games, etc.

51% of conservatives support LGBT rights/marriage.
40% support immigration support
50% support gun control

You really have been snowed by the Trump GOP and have forgotten there is a whole group of conservative that are not them.

lol. I need a source for your %s.

The front runner for 2024 for the GOP is Trump. He has a much bigger lead than the next R. So yes, Trump GOP = GOP.

I seriously doubt that most conservative men are doing childcare duty, cooking, cleaning after work. I'm sure there are a few, but I doubt the vast majority of conservative men are what you are describing.

Most hilarious to see in this thread repeated warnings that conservative men won’t do housework, cooking, childcare.

The most common complaint in DCUM Relationships is that men don’t do those things. I’d venture to guess that the vast majority of DCUM women making these complaints are married to liberal men (Democrats, anyway). So it’s liberal men, in reality, who don’t do housework, cooking, childcare…

LOL.. re-read your own statement. The vast majority of posters on here are Dems, that's why they complain about their probably Dem DH.

R women have been brainwashed to believe that housechores and childcare are their responsibility, and that a man just needs to take their dirty plates to the sink and organize tailgates and grill. LOL. That's why they don't complain as much. I'm betting those R men don't do diaper duty or middle of the night feeds.

When the "grab'em by the p*s" tape came out, I recall some conservative women saying that this was all locker talk, and boys being boys, and it's not a big deal if a man/boy gropes women. It's "normal". Conservative women have been brainwashed.

And btw I never stated that all liberal men do the housechores; I stated that they support policies regarding women's rights, and conservative men largely do not.

But, the poster who did start out with "conservative men make great husbands and dads" is a man. I'm sure of it. No woman thinks taking their dirty dishes to the sink and organizing tailgating = great husband. Or maybe conservative women do.

Hilarious, indeed.

Just like women who think PTA and birthday parties make a good mom/wife.

Yes, that's part of it - a mom who is engaged with her kids lives, and does stuff for her kids.

Tailgating really has nothing to do with your kid's life. It's about you and your desire to party and drink booze.

Hilarious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

It sounds like he’s willing to respect your views if you respect his, and you both could adopt an “agree to disagree” posture to keep the peace. What’s more important to you: (1) finding someone that respects your views, or (2) finding someone that agrees with your views?

Generally, if they agree with their views, and not just lip service, then they also would respect OP's views, too.

I'm moderate, but I couldn't deal with a progressive liberal or a MAGA type.

Sure. But for existing “topics of potential political disagreement”, people can and do change their perspective over time. And, of course, new issues continually come up. If a relationship is premised on mutual respect first, I imagine that has a more likely chance of long term success, than a “we must agree politically” relationship.

I think if you base your relationship on shared morality and not politics, then when 1 party goes off the deep end they won’t jump off the end with them.

^PP here.. yes, exactly. And yes I have changed my views over time. I used to be a R, and now I'm an Ind. DH is a Dem. We have disagreed over some issues, but over time (20+ years), we've both met in the middle. DH doesn't agree with a lot of the progressive liberal stuff. Clearly, I don't agree with Rs anymore (I left that party a while ago).

We still disagree on some things, but we can respect each other's views, and just agree to disagree. But we agree on the really important stuff and have shared values.

But, OP is a progressive. I can't imagine any conservative respecting in the long term progressive ideology.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on how much conservative (more center or middle would be ideal. )- and find out his views on children, abortion. Been married to a conservative last 16 years and have to say they make great husbands and fathers long term.

please. Conservative men don't believe in equal housework and childcare.

I grew up in a conservative household.

Liberal men are much more aware of women's rights than conservative men, who really don't care much about women's rights.

Also, the highly educated tend to be liberal.

I disagree, I’m very liberal.

Conservative men fix things, take care of the lawn/yard, paint rooms, fix light fixtures, do the taxes, grill, take orders when there is a party, plan tail gates, do the dishes, take their plates to the sink, set up tvs, move furniture, coach kids sports teams, help with nighttime routine (anything family), etc.

Things are equal but fall on gender norm lines.

Liberal men don't do any of those things?

Can you name something conservative men never do?

Do all liberal men do those things?

Liberal men vote for politicians who support women's rights.

Conservative men do not support women's right.

That is absolutely not true and why Liberals got bad name. You’re like the antifa of liberals.

…tell us who are these conservative champions of women’s rights?

Barry Goldwater. Ronald Reagan.

LOL!! I won't even bother looking to see if you're right, but you do know they're both dead, right?
How about a live conservative champion of women's rights? Got any names?

[Anonymous]

A mixed party marriage wouldn't and shouldn't work today. No one would remain a Republican today without having a serious issues with their values . This isn't about politics. It's about personality and values.
Yes, several marriages didn't make it in these last years.