Dating a conservative

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're fine and dandy with him thinking he has control over your uterus by virtue of Sky Daddy, then go for it.

Personally, I'd hate f--k him and then run far away.

Conservative here. Tragically God has never given me control over anyone’s uterus, lol. Guess I should keep praying though. 🙄

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming you aren't a troll, he probably thinks your career is a joke and has zero respect for the work you do. If you're ok with that, then you're fine.

Conservative here. Wrong. My mom was a doctor and my wife is a lawyer. I respect their work.

Good for you. OP said she works in gender equity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're fine and dandy with him thinking he has control over your uterus by virtue of Sky Daddy, then go for it.

Personally, I'd hate f--k him and then run far away.

Conservative here. Tragically God has never given me control over anyone’s uterus, lol. Guess I should keep praying though. 🙄

Anyone who frames the abortion issue in this way should certainly never date a conservative. Lol

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Nope. I would never. I would not date or marry someone anti choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

Conservative here: sadly I think the world has become too polarized. Men, in general, tend to be live-and-let-live on political issues in their relationships, but IME women often tend to see political disagreements through the lens of “our values are not aligned” and all of your progressive female friends are going to react the way a lot of the people in this thread have, which is going to cause problems.

Oh, absolutely. When I look at conservative male politicians and all the laws they’re enacting right now, all I can think of is “wow, they really are a live-and-let-live bunch! Boy are they ever reducing the role of government in my personal life!”

[Anonymous]

What does conservative/republican mean to him/you? My deal breaker issues are aligned views on abortion access, LGBTQ+ rights, and systematic racism is a real thing. If he's going to disagree/debate with me on those, I'm going to feel like he thinks me/my friends aren't human and/or don't deserve fundamental human rights and not be able to be rational about him in other areas at all. Other issues that I feel strongly about but am less emotionally close to personally like gun rights, the role of law enforcement, taxation, the role of government, immigration policy, etc it would depend how far on the republican/conservative spectrum he was and if we both were able to respect each other and our respective opinions on these subjects.

[Anonymous]

You want to date an ignorant person more power to you. Yeah conservatives are book banners and pedo lover so...

Long term will not end well.

At this point in time all conservatives are traitors to the US.
There are no two sides here Democracy=US
it does not equal Russia and supporting the current Republican party.

[Anonymous]

I married a man that was Republican up until Trump became the nominee. I always believed our deeper values were the same, and ultimately I was correct. That said, it could have all gone very, very badly. The moment trump became the nominee, he walked up to me in the house and said “I guess im going to hold my nose and vote for Hilary” and he did. He voted a Republican ticket otherwise. Then, he saw that the vast majority of republicans were supporting the trump craziness and becoming anti-democracy so he started voting against them. He most recently made himself unaffiliated because he is so mad about where the Republican Party has gone.

But the reality is that this is not what happened with the vast majority of conservatives. My husband was one of the very few that jumped ship. And frankly, I used to vote Republican in my earlier years also. I jumped ship during Obama’s first term. I never realized until the trump era just how deeply wedded people are to their “party” even when the party no longer reflects who they are.

I would be asking this guy A LOT of questions about his views on many topics. For example, my hsuband still cringes when I call him a feminist — but he is a feminist. He has supported me in my career in ways that many “liberal” men would not. And he supports women more broadly in the work force. He realizes how much is at stake in womens healthcare, etc.

[Anonymous]

My parents are like this. It's funny to see the political signs they put on their lawn, as it will be for both candidates, but for the local elections not national.

As kids, I don't remember them talking about politics a lot. There are so many other topics.

I was assigned on a month-long assignment in a "red" city outside of this area and would go out to bars in the evenings. No one I met would talk politics. There are a million other things to talk about, and "Washington" seemed so far away that it just didn't come up.

[Anonymous]

I only date pro-choice men, full stop. I’d also be concerned that he lacked the ability to be empathetic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

Conservative here: sadly I think the world has become too polarized. Men, in general, tend to be live-and-let-live on political issues in their relationships, but IME women often tend to see political disagreements through the lens of “our values are not aligned” and all of your progressive female friends are going to react the way a lot of the people in this thread have, which is going to cause problems.

Oh, absolutely. When I look at conservative male politicians and all the laws they’re enacting right now, all I can think of is “wow, they really are a live-and-let-live bunch! Boy are they ever reducing the role of government in my personal life!”

Umm, reading comprehension check? I was talking about how men with conservative views think about political differences in the context of relationships. Obviously “live and let live” mindset is seldom found in politicians of any sort, as that field tends to attract those who want power over others.

[Anonymous]

Don't think it will work out long term. I know a couple like this, well, ex-couple now. They started to not respect each others views.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on how much conservative (more center or middle would be ideal. )- and find out his views on children, abortion. Been married to a conservative last 16 years and have to say they make great husbands and fathers long term.

please. Conservative men don't believe in equal housework and childcare.

I grew up in a conservative household.

Liberal men are much more aware of women's rights than conservative men, who really don't care much about women's rights.

Also, the highly educated tend to be liberal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman that is pretty progressive and liberal and works in gender equity. I've been on a few dates with a conservative/republican. He's super respectful, but do any of you see any long term issues or have any experience? We are both agnostic.

Conservative here: sadly I think the world has become too polarized. Men, in general, tend to be live-and-let-live on political issues in their relationships, but IME women often tend to see political disagreements through the lens of “our values are not aligned” and all of your progressive female friends are going to react the way a lot of the people in this thread have, which is going to cause problems.

Oh, absolutely. When I look at conservative male politicians and all the laws they’re enacting right now, all I can think of is “wow, they really are a live-and-let-live bunch! Boy are they ever reducing the role of government in my personal life!”

Umm, reading comprehension check? I was talking about how men with conservative views think about political differences in the context of relationships. Obviously “live and let live” mindset is seldom found in politicians of any sort, as that field tends to attract those who want power over others.

I don’t see much of a distinction between politicians who want power over others and the people who give those politicians power over others. You may have the luxury of disassociating from the direct consequences of your vote, but that’s because you’re a man. They don’t want power over you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does conservative/republican mean to him/you? My deal breaker issues are aligned views on abortion access, LGBTQ+ rights, and systematic racism is a real thing. If he's going to disagree/debate with me on those, I'm going to feel like he thinks me/my friends aren't human and/or don't deserve fundamental human rights and not be able to be rational about him in other areas at all. Other issues that I feel strongly about but am less emotionally close to personally like gun rights, the role of law enforcement, taxation, the role of government, immigration policy, etc it would depend how far on the republican/conservative spectrum he was and if we both were able to respect each other and our respective opinions on these subjects.

PP again. I should add that my parents (not American) voted for different political parties before they immigrated: socialist and mainstream liberal respectively. They rarely talked about political parties growing up, more about individual votes/political initiatives. I think that kind of relationship would be harder in the US with our two-party system and especially now given how polarized and nationalized our politics has become.