Parents are worried because they know their children will have to fight to achieve even a middle-class lifestyle. It is a fight for dwindling resources and concern for their children’s future. The tension around competition is draining and kids burn out. They lack freshness and optimism because they know more of the same awaits them. |
Interesting wording there. How about teach your kid to be sensitive to others feelings. |
Exactly. Especially blaming others Other teens, teachers, coaches, friends, friend’s parents, neighbors, even objects like a phone. Anyone but themselves |
Teens all over the country at all different socioeconomic levels are suffering from depression and anxiety at alarming rates, and apparently the parents on DCUM made them all that way? |
LOL You once again proved their point. Now you decided this anonymous person’s children are not sensitive to others feelings. You decided that on your own and are judging. So you just blamed imaginary teens on your shortcomings as a parent. |
And parents across this country have blamed everyone else over their own kids or themselves. Have you not seen how teachers are now treated by students and parents? How about coaches or any other adult? Zero self responsibility. |
Who said her kids aren't sensitive to others feelings? You? ![]() |
Dc area schools one up this entirely because your Identity Labels are what make you cool and popular, not your grades, athletic skills or having both. Totally opposite in the other 98% of the country. |
So true |
So much blame the parents on this thread!
I have 3 teens. My oldest is convinced that bc of global warming we are all doomed. Not a message I’ve relayed but one he’s picked up from the news and social media. My younger 2 (twins) are somewhat socially arrested bc of COVID isolation (my husband was extremely worried about COVID so we limited their social activities for 2’years) Are they sad? I think yes. Abnormally so, I hope not. Is it me? Maybe…? I honestly don’t know. All I know is I love my kids and I try my best. I think most parents do. IMO, stop blaming parents. Our world is a bit of a mess and the news cycle (absorbed through tick tock or network news) is relentless is domesday coverage. We are emerging from a 2 year pandemic. It’s not easy for anyone other than COVID deniers. Who, honestly, may have been right but how could we have known? |
Well all this over analysis of the teen psyche fits right in with the parenting inadequacies you all are railing against. LOL Depression was the hallmark of my generation (x) and patents just blamed it on the music and didn’t give it a second thought. |
Nice anti-lgbtq comment in there. |
+1 What teens need and mostly lack is autonomy. And it starts at an early age. They need to be out in the world with friends, making their own choices about ECs, working a part-time job. Generally making their own decisions and figuring out (with parent support) how to deal with the consequences. |
I wish it were as simple as just sending them out to hang out with their friends. But there has to be a critical mass of other kids who want to get together in person for this to work. This article from 2017 delves into why this just isn’t happening like it did when we were teens. (And even when they do get together now, they’re often all staring at their phones anyway.)
Has the Smartphone Destroyed a Generation https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/09/has-the-smartphone-destroyed-a-generation/534198/ And this was 2017. The pandemic was gasoline on an already smoldering issue. |
No, I agree with the PP. I guarantee the DD of the poster who hosts these (otherwise excellent) get-togethers flaunts it. Asks all her friends to tag her on social media and do some hashtag. I bet the DD enjoys the likes and comments the next day even more than the party itself. That’s the only reason she walks around the party like a damn paparazzi instead of… actually participating in the party. Having a party talked about at school the next day is completely different from having all the pictures in your feed so you can look at them over and over again, having them pop back up at the top of the feed every time someone comments on it, etc. I personally have not experienced it (and have young pre-social media kids) but I can imagine how it would be devastating. Yes, a smart teen with self-control will turn off notifications, unfollow or quit social media altogether. But it’s easier said than done with these developing hormone-filled kids. No, not everyone has to be invited to your party, but you don’t have to flaunt it FFS. Teach your kids some empathy. |