Christmas travel-leaving 2 year old home while whole family goes to Caribbean?

[Anonymous]

OP, go enjoy your vacation. It's alright. No one else has to live your life. You all need the break. Your two year old will be fine. He would probably rather be at home with the nanny he's known his whole life in a relaxed setting than a totally new place with stress. If your five year old questions it in a year or two, just explain the situation more or less like you explained here -- bought tickets way in advance, covid still a thing, masks required; 2yo won't wear onr, everyone spent Christmas Eve together, 2yo stayed with nanny he's always known, whose family was also out of town at the time.

It's FINE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, go enjoy your vacation. It's alright. No one else has to live your life. You all need the break. Your two year old will be fine. He would probably rather be at home with the nanny he's known his whole life in a relaxed setting than a totally new place with stress. If your five year old questions it in a year or two, just explain the situation more or less like you explained here -- bought tickets way in advance, covid still a thing, masks required; 2yo won't wear onr, everyone spent Christmas Eve together, 2yo stayed with nanny he's always known, whose family was also out of town at the time.

It's FINE.

agreed. make sure to let your 5 year old know that if he has struggles, it won't take much for his family to leave him behind!

[Anonymous]

I don’t think leaving the 2yo behind is a big deal. My bff left her 4yo with the grandparents when she and her family (with older kids) went to Thailand with us for two weeks. My parents left us at home with our nanny to attend my aunt’s wedding overseas when my sister and I were 3 and 4.

I feel like parents have been doing this since forever. It’s not like the kid is going to know the difference or even remember.

[Anonymous]

I think leaving your 2 year old behind is horrifying.

[Anonymous]

I am pretty sure I was left behind while my parents went on vacation with my brother at a similar age. I have no memory of this, of course, and I think any issues I have from how my parents treated me as a child has much more to do with my mother's anxiety and isolation than the particular choice to leave me behind that one time. I wish she could have gotten more breaks.

OP, I know it's hard, but ignore the sanctimommy noise on DCUM. It's all about their insecurities and not about you at all. If you can feel certain your son will be well-cared-for and tolerate your absence, then I say go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am pretty sure I was left behind while my parents went on vacation with my brother at a similar age. I have no memory of this, of course, and I think any issues I have from how my parents treated me as a child has much more to do with my mother's anxiety and isolation than the particular choice to leave me behind that one time. I wish she could have gotten more breaks.

OP, I know it's hard, but ignore the sanctimommy noise on DCUM. It's all about their insecurities and not about you at all. If you can feel certain your son will be well-cared-for and tolerate your absence, then I say go.

You're fortunate nothing happened to you while she left you behind. Many kids aren't, so stop belittling concern as "sanctimommy noise".

[Anonymous]

I cannot freaking imagine leaving my child behind on Christmas. What the ACTUAL hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can’t leave him behind
Do they require masks for 2 year olds?

Masks are absolutely required and there have been many news stories of families being kicked off planes for not complying, even with 2 yos, and even while making a good faith effort.

Really? I haven’t seen this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL Sounds like you don't like your 2-year-old very much. Who even contemplates taking their entire family but one child and abandoning them for a week at Christmas?

This! Cancel the trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am pretty sure I was left behind while my parents went on vacation with my brother at a similar age. I have no memory of this, of course, and I think any issues I have from how my parents treated me as a child has much more to do with my mother's anxiety and isolation than the particular choice to leave me behind that one time. I wish she could have gotten more breaks.

OP, I know it's hard, but ignore the sanctimommy noise on DCUM. It's all about their insecurities and not about you at all. If you can feel certain your son will be well-cared-for and tolerate your absence, then I say go.

You're fortunate nothing happened to you while she left you behind. Many kids aren't, so stop belittling concern as "sanctimommy noise".

You know things can happen to children even if their mother is literally with them every second of every minute of every day right?

[Anonymous]

OP, you aren't going to convince people on this thread who don't already agree with you. Do what is best for your family and don't worry what DCUM thinks.

[Anonymous]

Op- I am torn for you but I'm leaning toward cancelling it. And I'm saying this as a parent who left a 1 year old way back in the 2000's to take our older kids to Disney. That was a great trip and we got to do so much without worrying about naps etc. with a baby. And he stayed with grandparents, got to see tons of out of town cousins and had a blast. But it was a different time and I think the pandemic changed things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am pretty sure I was left behind while my parents went on vacation with my brother at a similar age. I have no memory of this, of course, and I think any issues I have from how my parents treated me as a child has much more to do with my mother's anxiety and isolation than the particular choice to leave me behind that one time. I wish she could have gotten more breaks.

OP, I know it's hard, but ignore the sanctimommy noise on DCUM. It's all about their insecurities and not about you at all. If you can feel certain your son will be well-cared-for and tolerate your absence, then I say go.

You're fortunate nothing happened to you while she left you behind. Many kids aren't, so stop belittling concern as "sanctimommy noise".

You know things can happen to children even if their mother is literally with them every second of every minute of every day right?

Yes, but at least that wouldn't be the fault of the mother abandoning their child.

[Anonymous]

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon.
Little boy blue and the man in the moon.
When you coming home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then dad.
You know we’ll have a good time then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think leaving the 2yo behind is a big deal. My bff left her 4yo with the grandparents when she and her family (with older kids) went to Thailand with us for two weeks. My parents left us at home with our nanny to attend my aunt’s wedding overseas when my sister and I were 3 and 4.

I feel like parents have been doing this since forever. It’s not like the kid is going to know the difference or even remember.

Was your trip to Thailand over Christmas? Did she leave her 4 year old behind over CHRISTMAS??