I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

I don't think she's lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she's lying. Too many lies about uncles she did or didn't meet and nanny jobs she did or didn't have.

I'm going to try to move on.

Actually, she's been remarkably consistent on the nanny job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she's lying. Too many lies about uncles she did or didn't meet and nanny jobs she did or didn't have.

I'm going to try to move on.

OP HERE: I LIVED IN VIRGINIA FROM SEPTEMBER 2011-JULY 2012 AS A LIVE-IN NANNY. THAT WAS 3 YEARS AGO WHICH IS WHY I SAID I WAS NOT A NANNY FOR 3 YEARS, I LIVED THERE 3 YEARS AGO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think she's lying.

I don't either, and I'm a MAJOR cynic.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I've totally been supporting you, but one little thing that is bugging me - I thought you did say you lived in VA for 3 years as a nanny and now you just told some poster who mentioned that that you never said that.

I swear you said that! I don't think I can go back and find the page though.

Don't want to derail the thread, just had it say it's bugging me.

I still hope you get some news that makes you feel better. I hope he's alright, but the fact that he has bi-polar and he's disappeared before is worrisome.

I think the person who mentioned the dog made a good point, though.

OP here: I said that I found this thread because 3 years AGO, I was living in Virginia as a live-in nanny for a year.

Okay, thanks for clarifying. I'm just trying to follow all the details and I have believed you, so wanted to make sure.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am really perplexed as to why, in light of the information you just learned, you are spending your time posting on this site arguing with people about how many years you were a nanny in VA. Get off of this site and call or go talk to a friend or family member.

[Anonymous]

Those of you who think she's lying: Uncle J would be easy to contact to confirm/deny the story. I don't advocate harassing the guy but it wouldn't be hard to do at all via email or phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she's lying. Too many lies about uncles she did or didn't meet and nanny jobs she did or didn't have.

I'm going to try to move on.

She didn't lie about any of those things. Her posts aren't always precise, you have to follow carefully because what you think would be the logical conclusion isn't, but she hasn't been caught in any lies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think she's lying. Too many lies about uncles she did or didn't meet and nanny jobs she did or didn't have.

I'm going to try to move on.

OP HERE: I LIVED IN VIRGINIA FROM SEPTEMBER 2011-JULY 2012 AS A LIVE-IN NANNY. THAT WAS 3 YEARS AGO WHICH IS WHY I SAID I WAS NOT A NANNY FOR 3 YEARS, I LIVED THERE 3 YEARS AGO

Got it. I retract my statement. I thought you were saying you weren't a nanny in VA ever.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a grown man. If he wants to leave town to start over again he is allowed to do that.

Are you forreal? And to just leave everybody in this world who actually cares about him wondering about his whereabouts? If he has the right to do it, we all have the right to criticize him for his selfish actions.

Yeah, it might be selfish of him. But he apparently did not feel that he owed the Op an explanation. Maybe in his mind they weren't as serious/committed as they were in the Op's mind. Maybe bobcat man didn't even realize that Op considered him to be her boyfriend. Maybe he thought that a clean break would be the best thing for them both.

He said he loved her and call himself her boyfriend. You are really reaching here.
It's fine for him to up and leave and it's also fine for those he gave the wrong info too to do a wellness check. So what's your point?

Op has been calling this guy an "ex" for quite a few pages now. Correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds as though the "wellness checks" were done after Op was aware that bobcat guy had been lying to her. The distinction may seem sort of subtle, but it's not.

[Anonymous]

im going to start reporting the obnoxious f***ing troll posters and hope that Jeff deletes them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am really perplexed as to why, in light of the information you just learned, you are spending your time posting on this site arguing with people about how many years you were a nanny in VA. Get off of this site and call or go talk to a friend or family member.

OP here: I have been texting my best friend. I'm not going to start bombarding everyone at work and also, I want to keep this to myself right now while I still try to process what the Hell I just found out.

[Anonymous]

Didn't the uncle decline her friend request?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread will be an excellent way to tell who we know in real life is reading DCUM. I'm gonna start dropping bobcat references in my conversations and see who picks them up!

I am dying.

I am totally going to do this. Also, you know how they sometimes plan for DCUM meet ups at a park or playground? We need to find a local fishing spot and meet there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn't the uncle decline her friend request?

he declined a lot of requests