I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Okay, I just found another relevant recent thread by the OP about her bipolar boyfriend:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/456093.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think she's lying: Uncle J would be easy to contact to confirm/deny the story. I don't advocate harassing the guy but it wouldn't be hard to do at all via email or phone.

I thought that Uncle J said that he hadn't seen bobcat guy in 2 years??

[Anonymous]

OP I am so sorry this is all happening to you. I do believe you and hope people will stop posting nasty things.

[Anonymous]

Wait, one thing- in your first thread you said you were 27 and here you say you are 26. That's the only 'lie' I can prove, and it doesn't make me think everything else in the story is a lie.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think she's lying: Uncle J would be easy to contact to confirm/deny the story. I don't advocate harassing the guy but it wouldn't be hard to do at all via email or phone.

I thought that Uncle J said that he hadn't seen bobcat guy in 2 years??

I mean that she talked to him, he knows SV, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I am really perplexed as to why, in light of the information you just learned, you are spending your time posting on this site arguing with people about how many years you were a nanny in VA. Get off of this site and call or go talk to a friend or family member.

OP here: I have been texting my best friend. I'm not going to start bombarding everyone at work and also, I want to keep this to myself right now while I still try to process what the Hell I just found out.

Don't you work alone from home?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I am really perplexed as to why, in light of the information you just learned, you are spending your time posting on this site arguing with people about how many years you were a nanny in VA. Get off of this site and call or go talk to a friend or family member.

OP here: I have been texting my best friend. I'm not going to start bombarding everyone at work and also, I want to keep this to myself right now while I still try to process what the Hell I just found out.

How would that even be possible?

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Anonymous wrote:Didn't the uncle decline her friend request?

he declined a lot of requests

That is what I thought. Very odd indeed, because if someone friend requested me multiple times and I didn't know them, I would start probing.

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Anonymous wrote:I think she's lying. Too many lies about uncles she did or didn't meet and nanny jobs she did or didn't have.

I'm going to try to move on.

OP HERE: I LIVED IN VIRGINIA FROM SEPTEMBER 2011-JULY 2012 AS A LIVE-IN NANNY. THAT WAS 3 YEARS AGO WHICH IS WHY I SAID I WAS NOT A NANNY FOR 3 YEARS, I LIVED THERE 3 YEARS AGO

Got it. I retract my statement. I thought you were saying you weren't a nanny in VA ever.

OP, please stop posting personal information about yourself and about this guy you were dating.

[Anonymous]

OP, there are some good detectives on here. Maybe you can think back about details he told you about his life/hobbies/friends/past travels, and we can help piece something together. I know that you must have spent a lot of time talking with him since it was long distance, so maybe some of the details he shared might be meaningful, and we can help seize upon those.

[Anonymous]

I am the PP that first questioned if he were bi-polar. People that are bi-polar oscillate from feeling they are invincible and can do anything to feeling of worthlessness. The problem with Bipolar is the highs are so high that people often resist the meds -- they do not want to lose the high.

People in the highs and lows can be incredibly self-centered.

Read up a little on bi-polar....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am really perplexed as to why, in light of the information you just learned, you are spending your time posting on this site arguing with people about how many years you were a nanny in VA. Get off of this site and call or go talk to a friend or family member.

OP here: I have been texting my best friend. I'm not going to start bombarding everyone at work and also, I want to keep this to myself right now while I still try to process what the Hell I just found out.

How would that even be possible?

NP. I'm sure she means that she doesn't want to bother her friends while they are at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I've totally been supporting you, but one little thing that is bugging me - I thought you did say you lived in VA for 3 years as a nanny and now you just told some poster who mentioned that that you never said that.

I swear you said that! I don't think I can go back and find the page though.

Don't want to derail the thread, just had it say it's bugging me.

I still hope you get some news that makes you feel better. I hope he's alright, but the fact that he has bi-polar and he's disappeared before is worrisome.

I think the person who mentioned the dog made a good point, though.

I was going to make all of these points, but you beat me to it.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a grown man. If he wants to leave town to start over again he is allowed to do that.

Are you forreal? And to just leave everybody in this world who actually cares about him wondering about his whereabouts? If he has the right to do it, we all have the right to criticize him for his selfish actions.

Yeah, it might be selfish of him. But he apparently did not feel that he owed the Op an explanation. Maybe in his mind they weren't as serious/committed as they were in the Op's mind. Maybe bobcat man didn't even realize that Op considered him to be her boyfriend. Maybe he thought that a clean break would be the best thing for them both.

He said he loved her and call himself her boyfriend. You are really reaching here.
It's fine for him to up and leave and it's also fine for those he gave the wrong info too to do a wellness check. So what's your point?

Op has been calling this guy an "ex" for quite a few pages now. Correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds as though the "wellness checks" were done after Op was aware that bobcat guy had been lying to her. The distinction may seem sort of subtle, but it's not.

She was going to do a wellness check even earlier, but folks were telling her she was crazy. She called the sheriff yesterday about a wellness check, before she found out he was lying to her, but she didn't get a call back. She called again today after she knew of the lies, and after the uncle confirmed more lies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I just found another relevant recent thread by the OP about her bipolar boyfriend:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/456093.page

I remember that thread. Hmmmm. Are we sure it is the same poster.