How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is up with all the psycho bridezillas on this thread?! I truly never meet people who get so wrapped around the axle about this nonsense in real life. I think there must be maybe a few dozen psycho women in the country who are actually like this and they’ve all congregated on this thread because they have no IRL friends or family who want to spend time with them.

It happens every time there is a thread about kids and weddings. They attract unpleasant people who attack anyone who expresses a concern about the logistics of a child free wedding. Why would anyone comfortable with a choice be so angry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t attend child free weddings - love, love, love seeing kids on the dance floor.

I don’t either, because every child-free wedding I’ve been to, the couple has been extremely uptight and not pleasant to be around. The last child-free wedding I went to, they demanded cash only instead of gifts, then spent the next decade complaining about everyone who didn’t comply. Also lots of complaints about what people wore.

I prefer to be around happy, fun, joyful people. If that means I miss out on some lame weddings, so be it. I don’t think either of us are that distraught over it.

Uh huh. Boy, you lay it on thick. Fewer “details” would have made for a more believable story.

I have fun at all the weddings I go to, whether children are included or not. Sorry you can only be pleased when things include your kids.

I mean, you kinda proved my point. You’re not a pleasant person.

Also, the whole attitude of trying to prove a stranger on DCUM is lying is…..bizarre. If I was like “yup, you got me, totally made that up that my BIL and SIL still complain about people at their wedding 12 years ago”, would you feel better?

[Anonymous]

Are you sure that your 13 and 16 yo will be "disappointed" at having to stay in the hotel and watch movies instead of attending? Or is it you who wants to make a point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t attend child free weddings - love, love, love seeing kids on the dance floor.

I don’t either, because every child-free wedding I’ve been to, the couple has been extremely uptight and not pleasant to be around. The last child-free wedding I went to, they demanded cash only instead of gifts, then spent the next decade complaining about everyone who didn’t comply. Also lots of complaints about what people wore.

I prefer to be around happy, fun, joyful people. If that means I miss out on some lame weddings, so be it. I don’t think either of us are that distraught over it.

Uh huh. Boy, you lay it on thick. Fewer “details” would have made for a more believable story.

I have fun at all the weddings I go to, whether children are included or not. Sorry you can only be pleased when things include your kids.

I mean, you kinda proved my point. You’re not a pleasant person.

Also, the whole attitude of trying to prove a stranger on DCUM is lying is…..bizarre. If I was like “yup, you got me, totally made that up that my BIL and SIL still complain about people at their wedding 12 years ago”, would you feel better?

There has been a rash of trolling lately where the OP lies. She pretends like she’s the MIL, or pretends like something that has already been rehashed on DCUM ad nauseam (like this scenario) is just now happening. Jeff just today deleted one of her pretending-to-be-a-MIL threads. It’s enough already.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing to interpret. Nobody under 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t attend child free weddings - love, love, love seeing kids on the dance floor.

I don’t either, because every child-free wedding I’ve been to, the couple has been extremely uptight and not pleasant to be around. The last child-free wedding I went to, they demanded cash only instead of gifts, then spent the next decade complaining about everyone who didn’t comply. Also lots of complaints about what people wore.

I prefer to be around happy, fun, joyful people. If that means I miss out on some lame weddings, so be it. I don’t think either of us are that distraught over it.

Uh huh. Boy, you lay it on thick. Fewer “details” would have made for a more believable story.

I have fun at all the weddings I go to, whether children are included or not. Sorry you can only be pleased when things include your kids.

I mean, you kinda proved my point. You’re not a pleasant person.

Also, the whole attitude of trying to prove a stranger on DCUM is lying is…..bizarre. If I was like “yup, you got me, totally made that up that my BIL and SIL still complain about people at their wedding 12 years ago”, would you feel better?

There has been a rash of trolling lately where the OP lies. She pretends like she’s the MIL, or pretends like something that has already been rehashed on DCUM ad nauseam (like this scenario) is just now happening. Jeff just today deleted one of her pretending-to-be-a-MIL threads. It’s enough already.

Was the thread where a MIL wanted to throw her DIL a shower a fake thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t attend child free weddings - love, love, love seeing kids on the dance floor.

I don’t either, because every child-free wedding I’ve been to, the couple has been extremely uptight and not pleasant to be around. The last child-free wedding I went to, they demanded cash only instead of gifts, then spent the next decade complaining about everyone who didn’t comply. Also lots of complaints about what people wore.

I prefer to be around happy, fun, joyful people. If that means I miss out on some lame weddings, so be it. I don’t think either of us are that distraught over it.

Uh huh. Boy, you lay it on thick. Fewer “details” would have made for a more believable story.

I have fun at all the weddings I go to, whether children are included or not. Sorry you can only be pleased when things include your kids.

I mean, you kinda proved my point. You’re not a pleasant person.

Also, the whole attitude of trying to prove a stranger on DCUM is lying is…..bizarre. If I was like “yup, you got me, totally made that up that my BIL and SIL still complain about people at their wedding 12 years ago”, would you feel better?

There has been a rash of trolling lately where the OP lies. She pretends like she’s the MIL, or pretends like something that has already been rehashed on DCUM ad nauseam (like this scenario) is just now happening. Jeff just today deleted one of her pretending-to-be-a-MIL threads. It’s enough already.

Was the thread where a MIL wanted to throw her DIL a shower a fake thread?

Yep. Look under “Website Feedback.”

I’m tired of the trolls in this forum in particular.

[Anonymous]

JFC the OP updated. Read the thread, people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here -- whoever said that OP slept in late after posting at 3 am -- that's exactly what happened.

Grateful for all the responses -- even the snarky ones. Of course this was going to get some heated replies, just did not understand how heated.

For context, yes, we are a large family and most cousins have been really close. Our lovely niece is the eldest, and closer in age to us than the kids. I clearly understand the need to manage a large guest list. We watched her small backyard ceremony last year over zoom, and this is just the party she could not have during covid. Unfortunately, as many have pointed out, covid is still around us.

The invitations were sent online, both because less paper means less covid tracking, and because this is a big party for the wedding that had no guests last year. Kids were in fact named in the invitation, which is why we had assumed we were all going.

My spouse reached out to his sister for clarifications and it turns out that indeed, our kids (her youngest cousins) are invited. We will confirm with the bride, to make sure.

This now turns into our internal decision whether it's safe to go. All in my family are rearing to go. I'm concerned about stirring the covid pot, even though we are all vaccinated. Eastern WA where this is has low (<50%) vaccination rates and high COVID incidence. Wedding does require vaccination. but still. A lot of pressure to go, but I may still have to opt out. This covid resurgence really sucks.

Wear masks. Maybe do an Air BnB or hotel with a kitchenette so you don't have to eat out every meal?

It'll be ok. Go and have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t attend child free weddings - love, love, love seeing kids on the dance floor.

I don’t either, because every child-free wedding I’ve been to, the couple has been extremely uptight and not pleasant to be around. The last child-free wedding I went to, they demanded cash only instead of gifts, then spent the next decade complaining about everyone who didn’t comply. Also lots of complaints about what people wore.

I prefer to be around happy, fun, joyful people. If that means I miss out on some lame weddings, so be it. I don’t think either of us are that distraught over it.

Uh huh. Boy, you lay it on thick. Fewer “details” would have made for a more believable story.

I have fun at all the weddings I go to, whether children are included or not. Sorry you can only be pleased when things include your kids.

I mean, you kinda proved my point. You’re not a pleasant person.

Also, the whole attitude of trying to prove a stranger on DCUM is lying is…..bizarre. If I was like “yup, you got me, totally made that up that my BIL and SIL still complain about people at their wedding 12 years ago”, would you feel better?

There has been a rash of trolling lately where the OP lies. She pretends like she’s the MIL, or pretends like something that has already been rehashed on DCUM ad nauseam (like this scenario) is just now happening. Jeff just today deleted one of her pretending-to-be-a-MIL threads. It’s enough already.

Np. I think that person has a personality disorder. I don't get that feel from this post. Might still be a troll, but I do think there's a decent chance OP just had a moment of idiocy wherein she forgot to check the listed names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here -- whoever said that OP slept in late after posting at 3 am -- that's exactly what happened.

Grateful for all the responses -- even the snarky ones. Of course this was going to get some heated replies, just did not understand how heated.

For context, yes, we are a large family and most cousins have been really close. Our lovely niece is the eldest, and closer in age to us than the kids. I clearly understand the need to manage a large guest list. We watched her small backyard ceremony last year over zoom, and this is just the party she could not have during covid. Unfortunately, as many have pointed out, covid is still around us.

The invitations were sent online, both because less paper means less covid tracking, and because this is a big party for the wedding that had no guests last year. Kids were in fact named in the invitation, which is why we had assumed we were all going.

My spouse reached out to his sister for clarifications and it turns out that indeed, our kids (her youngest cousins) are invited. We will confirm with the bride, to make sure.

This now turns into our internal decision whether it's safe to go. All in my family are rearing to go. I'm concerned about stirring the covid pot, even though we are all vaccinated. Eastern WA where this is has low (<50%) vaccination rates and high COVID incidence. Wedding does require vaccination. but still. A lot of pressure to go, but I may still have to opt out. This covid resurgence really sucks.

Wear masks. Maybe do an Air BnB or hotel with a kitchenette so you don't have to eat out every meal?

It'll be ok. Go and have fun.

WTF. First, you're complaining that your teens weren't invited, and you were sad.

Now, it was all a misunderstanding and you're not sure you want to go anyway, even though you claim to love the niece and seem so close to her.

And, what, sending paper invitations spreads covid? And flying around the country and staying in strange places and gathering at a wedding is ok? Even though you say you're concerned.

[Anonymous]

I honestly think you are overestimating how disappointed your kids will be to not go to the event. Yeah, it'll be a little of a bummer. But my teen DDs would be just as happy getting to be in the room ordering room service and watching what they want or playing games on their laptops to their hearts' content while we're gone. They would be quickly bored at the wedding and reception with a bunch of adults. And we'd get them together with their cousins at a brunch or other event(s) while we're there. If you're planning on doing anything out there other than going to the wedding and then flying back, I'd bring the kids, have them have fun with room service while at the wedding, and then do family vacation stuff together and family gettogethers with other relatives. Maybe take them somewhere where they can dress up if they're bummed about that.

I would NOT ask if they can attend anyway.

[Anonymous]

^^ PP here, so sorry, just saw the most recent posts that they were invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here -- whoever said that OP slept in late after posting at 3 am -- that's exactly what happened.

Grateful for all the responses -- even the snarky ones. Of course this was going to get some heated replies, just did not understand how heated.

For context, yes, we are a large family and most cousins have been really close. Our lovely niece is the eldest, and closer in age to us than the kids. I clearly understand the need to manage a large guest list. We watched her small backyard ceremony last year over zoom, and this is just the party she could not have during covid. Unfortunately, as many have pointed out, covid is still around us.

The invitations were sent online, both because less paper means less covid tracking, and because this is a big party for the wedding that had no guests last year. Kids were in fact named in the invitation, which is why we had assumed we were all going.

My spouse reached out to his sister for clarifications and it turns out that indeed, our kids (her youngest cousins) are invited. We will confirm with the bride, to make sure.

This now turns into our internal decision whether it's safe to go. All in my family are rearing to go. I'm concerned about stirring the covid pot, even though we are all vaccinated. Eastern WA where this is has low (<50%) vaccination rates and high COVID incidence. Wedding does require vaccination. but still. A lot of pressure to go, but I may still have to opt out. This covid resurgence really sucks.

Wear masks. Maybe do an Air BnB or hotel with a kitchenette so you don't have to eat out every meal?

It'll be ok. Go and have fun.

WTF. First, you're complaining that your teens weren't invited, and you were sad.

Now, it was all a misunderstanding and you're not sure you want to go anyway, even though you claim to love the niece and seem so close to her.

And, what, sending paper invitations spreads covid? And flying around the country and staying in strange places and gathering at a wedding is ok? Even though you say you're concerned.

Yeah, her kids were explicitly invited, but she was offended that maybe they weren't, and now there's all this awful pressure to attend. Make up your mind, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 9yo. Just knowing the Wedding was in a brewery would not make me think no kids unless the invite specifically said so. Breweries have family events all the time..

Except the bride and groom have literally said no guests under 21. So would you still be in the dark?

I don't understand why the bride and groom felt the need to make this "brewery, therefore no children" declaration. If they sent their invites appropriately and thoughtfully addressed there should be no need to throw out this weird blanket statement. If invites are not extended to children then "Family" or children's names would not be on the invite.