Beach house extended family vacation- why do women spend 80% of their time in the kitchen?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

[Anonymous]

Robot women don't know how to sit around the pool and talk?
Must be cooking and cleaning to bond and talk?
Geez, how evolved compared to men! Those dimwits don't know what they are missing when they sit around the pool with a beer and chat!

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of people who like to cook who are obtuse.

And OP, you needed to phrase your question better. The real question is why women are expected to do all the domestic work even on vacation.

Whether an individual woman enjoys cooking is not the point here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

Nailed it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.theonion.com/mom-spends-beach-vacation-assuming-all-household-duties-1819575406

+1 million

I don’t go anywhere. I send my kids to camp or a sitter and take myself out for a nice lunch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

That sounds like too much for for OP. It's Fruit Loops or bust it sounds like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.theonion.com/mom-spends-beach-vacation-assuming-all-household-duties-1819575406

Was coming here to post this!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

And OP would rather send out for pizza and mozzarella sticks than be involved in something as ungodly as salmon on the grill with a fresh mango salsa and a salad on the side. Oh, the horrors of healthy eating! All she is worried about is seen as a sloth by her relatives who couldn't care less what she does or doesn't do. But she's going to trash them every chance she gets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh? There’s work to be done, and they women get stuck doing it. I doubt that is a “want.”

Your way to help solve this is not to skip out on the work but rather insist your husband step up and do his share. If you have teens, make them help too.

And if they don’t, tell them you aren’t going next year.

Did you even read the OP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

And OP would rather send out for pizza and mozzarella sticks than be involved in something as ungodly as salmon on the grill with a fresh mango salsa and a salad on the side. Oh, the horrors of healthy eating! All she is worried about is seen as a sloth by her relatives who couldn't care less what she does or doesn't do. But she's going to trash them every chance she gets.

The meal you wrote up takes like 1 hour to prepare. Clearly OP is referring to much more elaborate things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

GOOD FOR YOU THAT'S NOT WHAT OP WANTS TO DO

Jesus with the toxic mommyhood

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- I guess I'm asking, what makes my SILs want to prepare every single meal from scratch- like homemade pancakes (flour, egg, etc), homemade pizzas, homemade salad dressings, homemade noodles. Dozens of pots/pans/ cooking utensils for every meal...

Why not just go the simple route? the kids and dads don't care if they eat cereal or carryout or PB&J sandwiches, so why do they overengineer every meal?

I work full-time in an office, so I WANT to be OUTSIDE with the kids as much as possible.
Basically, I want a real vacation. Not a new full-time kitchen job for a week.

I'm with you, OP! I love to cook, but not on vacation.

OK? No one is stopping either you or OP. No one has so much has asked OP to cook or anything. Like, why does it matter to you how other people like to spend their vacation time?

Just sending solidarity to OP...you know it's possible for everyone to do what they want on vacation! Don't be so defensive about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

GOOD FOR YOU THAT'S NOT WHAT OP WANTS TO DO

Jesus with the toxic mommyhood

OP doesn't have to do anything. She's martyring herself for no reason. Her family would probably prefer she get out of the way since she's probably no use anyway.