Beach house extended family vacation- why do women spend 80% of their time in the kitchen?

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

GOOD FOR YOU THAT'S NOT WHAT OP WANTS TO DO

Jesus with the toxic mommyhood

If you take a breath and stop shouting, then go ***read the original post,*** the OP is literally asking why some women want to spend time in the kitchen on vacation. I then answered her question. Asked and answered. I don't care what OP chooses to do, but those of you picking apart my answer/other people's answers to a posed question are absurd...and likely insecure.

[Anonymous]

We take a trip every year like this too. In my family, my two SILs like to cook. I don’t. I stay out of the way. I feel it’s okay though because we (my husband and I) pay for the rental, which is by far the biggest expense of the trip.

I think they cook as a contribution.

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Save the pancakes for a staycation at your own home. Don’t annoy others with your need to overdo the cooking. Also, plan some more active vacations! We usually do hiking or something active in the morning followed by beach bumming in the afternoon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

Save the pancakes for a staycation at your own home. Don’t annoy others with your need to overdo the cooking. Also, plan some more active vacations! We usually do hiking or something active in the morning followed by beach bumming in the afternoon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Save the pancakes for a staycation at your own home. Don’t annoy others with your need to overdo the cooking. Also, plan some more active vacations! We usually do hiking or something active in the morning followed by beach bumming in the afternoon.

Just know your audience and who you're vacationing with. Dh gets up at 5 am. Goes for a run. Makes pancakes and everyone can eat at 7:30/8 and roll out for an adventure.

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

GOOD FOR YOU THAT'S NOT WHAT OP WANTS TO DO

Jesus with the toxic mommyhood

OP doesn't have to do anything. She's martyring herself for no reason. Her family would probably prefer she get out of the way since she's probably no use anyway.

You are a toxic personality. I hope you know that, deep in your mango salsa-filled soul.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We take a trip every year like this too. In my family, my two SILs like to cook. I don’t. I stay out of the way. I feel it’s okay though because we (my husband and I) pay for the rental, which is by far the biggest expense of the trip.

I think they cook as a contribution.

So jealous. I wish I had the money to pay for the rental and then be off the hook from cooking! Unfortunately we don’t have the money to pay so in the kitchen I go!

DH does the cleaning.

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

GOOD FOR YOU THAT'S NOT WHAT OP WANTS TO DO

Jesus with the toxic mommyhood

OP doesn't have to do anything. She's martyring herself for no reason. Her family would probably prefer she get out of the way since she's probably no use anyway.

You are a toxic personality. I hope you know that, deep in your mango salsa-filled soul.

A mango salsa filled soul sounds quite good. What a weird attempt at an insult. So you don't like to cook, yet you are foaming at the mouth because other people are different. Take a look in the mirror, you might not be able to handle what's looking back at you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Save the pancakes for a staycation at your own home. Don’t annoy others with your need to overdo the cooking. Also, plan some more active vacations! We usually do hiking or something active in the morning followed by beach bumming in the afternoon.

Ugh, the beach sounds boring. Why don't you do something even more active like water ski or scuba diving
Do people not realize that there's more than one way to vacation and people like different things? There is no right or wrong way.

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

Save the pancakes for a staycation at your own home. Don’t annoy others with your need to overdo the cooking. Also, plan some more active vacations! We usually do hiking or something active in the morning followed by beach bumming in the afternoon.

It may shock and amaze you to realize that some of us can make pancakes, go for a hike and spend time in the beach on the very same day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

Save the pancakes for a staycation at your own home. Don’t annoy others with your need to overdo the cooking. Also, plan some more active vacations! We usually do hiking or something active in the morning followed by beach bumming in the afternoon.

It may shock and amaze you to realize that some of us can make pancakes, go for a hike and spend time in the beach on the very same day.

Do you have reading comprehension issues? If you’re spending 80% of your day making pancakes and other meals, you’re clearly not going for hikes or to the beach. If you choose to hide in the kitchen out of insecurity, so be it.

[Anonymous]

The answer was already posted I think. OP needs to figure out a reasonable amount of time she and her husband should contribute to meal prep/cooking/clean-up each day, and then split that time between them. When you have put in your time just… leave the kitchen. But for the love of God stop complaining that other people are cooking for you

[Anonymous]

I had similar feelings about a trip with friends. I clearly said I wanted to keep things simple. Pretty much, that’s what we did.

Maybe set the parameters early or stay in your own house.

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Anonymous wrote:I had similar feelings about a trip with friends. I clearly said I wanted to keep things simple. Pretty much, that’s what we did.

Maybe set the parameters early or stay in your own house.

So you got to dictate for a whole group? Interesting. When I travel with friends, we do a mix of what everyone wants to do.

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Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love. It's how people show love for the people around them. They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food. Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.

Oh god. No wonder there is so many obese people in society with all this “Food is love” crap.

You think the Uber Eats crowd and "let's just order pizza" people are setting the examples for healthy eating?

There is an in-between option. Scrambled eggs for breakfast is just as (or more) healthier than scratch-made waffles and bacon. And takes a fraction of the time to make

Right. Which is why I make scrambled eggs on a workday/school day morning. Pancakes and the like are perfect for vacation—we got to sleep in, there’s no agenda for the day beyond beach bumming, we’re going to take our time and celebrate with eggs, bacon, and pancakes.

Save the pancakes for a staycation at your own home. Don’t annoy others with your need to overdo the cooking. Also, plan some more active vacations! We usually do hiking or something active in the morning followed by beach bumming in the afternoon.

It may shock and amaze you to realize that some of us can make pancakes, go for a hike and spend time in the beach on the very same day.

Do you have reading comprehension issues? If you’re spending 80% of your day making pancakes and other meals, you’re clearly not going for hikes or to the beach. If you choose to hide in the kitchen out of insecurity, so be it.

Um, I read YOUR POST, which didn’t have any time percentages in it. Go on, scroll up and read the post I responded to. I’ll wait.

Plus, if it it takes “80% of your day” to…cook and clean up after pancakes, you must be one of the hapless, bumbling idiots in the “Has This Ever Happened To You?” Infomercial genre.