Kids who dominate adult conversations

[Anonymous]

I think the posters saying how smart their kids are are half joking here. They know their kids are bright and love antagonizing you because your reactions are so juvenile.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.

This is one of the most gag-inducing posts I've ever read on DCUM, and that's saying something. OP has every right to not want to listen to someone else's child talk, no matter how smart that child is. One of my daughters happens to have a very, very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I think everyone wants to talk to her all the time. I also happen to have a very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I always want to talk to a gifted child. Sometimes adults want to just converse with other adults.

Agreed.

I also don't get why wanting to talk to one person and not another seems to be verboten to some PPs. Honestly, you could be the best conversationalist in the world and God's veritable gift to humanity, and if I wanted to talk to my best friend? You'd be in the way. Not a little chitchat or social small talk, but DOMINATING THE CONVERSATION (which is the point of OP's complaint -- it's even in the title).

And if you were another adult that always dominated the conversaiton when I wanted to talk to my friend, I wouldn't be rude to you. I just would be really regretful about not being able to talk with my friend. If I couldn't find another way to sustain the friendship, well, that would be really sad. But I wouldn't adore you, or think you're the bestest thing ever, or anything other than think you had pretty bad social skills and your own issues. Kids get a lot more slack -- let me say that again, kids get a lot more slack -- but the judgment process is the same.

That is absolutely fine! Maybe my best friend has changed over time, and maybe with where she is in her life, she needs to be talking with other parents who are obsessed with their kids, or other people as enraptured with her kid as she is, or whatever. She doesn't owe me the same relationship we had at an earlier stage in her life.

But yeah, anyone dominating the conversation when it was set up primarily as a conversation between two other people is lacking in some social skills. Kids hopefully will learn, and the adults you just work around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Being gifted is no excuse for being impolite.

Teach your kids to behave in a way that makes them pleasant to be around. More helpful in life than a high SAT

Engaging in conversation is the opposite of being impolite. And kids who engage in conversations with adults with develop high level social skills much faster

Inserting yourself where you are not welcome is being impolite. They can engage in conversations where they are wanted, but should be able to interpret social cues to move away when they aren't.

There is no reason why a child should feel unwelcome in a situation with their parent and a family friend. And if you make your kids feel that way, then YOU are a bad parent. Hope you're creating a therapy fund for the kid to use one day

NP. This is not remotely true. Like at all.

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Anonymous wrote:So annoying. Could not really have a conversation with a mom the other day. Child was like a little nosy adult, interrupting, intruding, etc.

Careful now pp, your anxiety is showing. You shouldn't be jealous of an intelligent child.

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Or threatened by one

No matter how much you want it to be, your child isn’t THAT intelligent. They’re just annoying. There’s a reason it’s called ADULT conversation.

You want to have “intellectual” one on ones with your kid at home, all day long, have at it. The rest of us aren’t interested. Only you find your kid charming.

I dont have a child. How about this: YOU are not that intelligent. You're just annoying. You are self centered and childish. And no one is interested in your dislike of children other than yourself. See a therapist.

I love kids! I have 2. I just can’t stand the parents who let their kids dominate everything. Can’t you see the difference?

Not really! You're wanting to punish the kids for being bright and precocious. Sad. I wonder if your kids feel beaten down?

You have a very strange understanding of the word punish.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Being gifted is no excuse for being impolite.

Teach your kids to behave in a way that makes them pleasant to be around. More helpful in life than a high SAT

Engaging in conversation is the opposite of being impolite. And kids who engage in conversations with adults with develop high level social skills much faster

Inserting yourself where you are not welcome is being impolite. They can engage in conversations where they are wanted, but should be able to interpret social cues to move away when they aren't.

There is no reason why a child should feel unwelcome in a situation with their parent and a family friend. And if you make your kids feel that way, then YOU are a bad parent. Hope you're creating a therapy fund for the kid to use one day

Your kid is going to struggle when they can't pick up cues from other people who want to be left alone and have a private conversation. It is a very basic social skill and I'm sorry your kids won't have it. You are making your kids life more difficult.

And your kid is going to struggle when they dont have the same vernacular and vocabulary and conversation ability as kids who were enabled and empowered by their parents to speak with adults from a young age. It is an upper level social skill and you are doing them a great disservice. If you intend for them to achieve much in life, you are doing them a great disservice.

You're either a troll or a moron. OP never said kids are not allowed to talk to adults in any capacity. She said sometimes she wants to be able to talk to her adult friends without their kids. Your inability to see the difference mean, as I said, that you're either a troll just trying to see if you can rile people up, or a moron who can't understand what OP means.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone is welcome in every conversation all the time. The earlier your kids pick this up, the more likely they are to succeed in life. A little humility is a good thing, as is the ability to pick up social cues.

And not everyone is a skilled conversationalist or intelligent speaker. The more you let your kids practice these skills, the better they will get. Conversations with adults (with mom there) is great practice. And very valuable to life for high earners and intelligent types.

Then mom will have to get used to getting fewer invites from her friends.

Fine with me, see post above. No loss.

Seriously OP is the one getting less invitations.

No, you are. Most of us are happy to hang out with OP and have an adult conversation. But you and your brilliant kid can stay at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.

This is one of the most gag-inducing posts I've ever read on DCUM, and that's saying something. OP has every right to not want to listen to someone else's child talk, no matter how smart that child is. One of my daughters happens to have a very, very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I think everyone wants to talk to her all the time. I also happen to have a very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I always want to talk to a gifted child. Sometimes adults want to just converse with other adults.

I think the joke is on you.

You just don't get it, and that's ok. We just won't invite you to hang out with us anymore. Not our loss, trust me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone is welcome in every conversation all the time. The earlier your kids pick this up, the more likely they are to succeed in life. A little humility is a good thing, as is the ability to pick up social cues.

And not everyone is a skilled conversationalist or intelligent speaker. The more you let your kids practice these skills, the better they will get. Conversations with adults (with mom there) is great practice. And very valuable to life for high earners and intelligent types.

Then mom will have to get used to getting fewer invites from her friends.

Fine with me, see post above. No loss.

Seriously OP is the one getting less invitations.

No, you are. Most of us are happy to hang out with OP and have an adult conversation. But you and your brilliant kid can stay at home.

Well let's just agree that there are 2 big parties going on and we are not inviting you and you are not inviting us.

I have no problem with that, I like to surround myself with good, kind people.

You like to surround yourself with self important, self absorbed people. Do you hashtag your FB posts with #housewivesof<nameoftown>?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.

This is one of the most gag-inducing posts I've ever read on DCUM, and that's saying something. OP has every right to not want to listen to someone else's child talk, no matter how smart that child is. One of my daughters happens to have a very, very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I think everyone wants to talk to her all the time. I also happen to have a very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I always want to talk to a gifted child. Sometimes adults want to just converse with other adults.

I think the joke is on you.

You just don't get it, and that's ok. We just won't invite you to hang out with us anymore. Not our loss, trust me.

No loss here, go back to junior high my friend.

[Anonymous]

This thread is like the bridezilla posts that don't want children at the wedding and the brides sister had a baby 3 weeks ago and can't understand why the baby can't stay home with the nanny.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.

This is one of the most gag-inducing posts I've ever read on DCUM, and that's saying something. OP has every right to not want to listen to someone else's child talk, no matter how smart that child is. One of my daughters happens to have a very, very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I think everyone wants to talk to her all the time. I also happen to have a very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I always want to talk to a gifted child. Sometimes adults want to just converse with other adults.

I think the joke is on you.

You just don't get it, and that's ok. We just won't invite you to hang out with us anymore. Not our loss, trust me.

No loss here, go back to junior high my friend.

She literally threw out the "your not invited to my birthday party" line. Are these women real... are Russian trolls on this thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone is welcome in every conversation all the time. The earlier your kids pick this up, the more likely they are to succeed in life. A little humility is a good thing, as is the ability to pick up social cues.

And not everyone is a skilled conversationalist or intelligent speaker. The more you let your kids practice these skills, the better they will get. Conversations with adults (with mom there) is great practice. And very valuable to life for high earners and intelligent types.

Then mom will have to get used to getting fewer invites from her friends.

Fine with me, see post above. No loss.

Seriously OP is the one getting less invitations.

No, you are. Most of us are happy to hang out with OP and have an adult conversation. But you and your brilliant kid can stay at home.

Well let's just agree that there are 2 big parties going on and we are not inviting you and you are not inviting us.

I have no problem with that, I like to surround myself with good, kind people.

You like to surround yourself with self important, self absorbed people. Do you hashtag your FB posts with #housewivesof<nameoftown>?

People who don’t want kids to DOMINATE adult conversation are self important and self absorbed?!?

WHO ARE YOU PEOPLE?!?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone is welcome in every conversation all the time. The earlier your kids pick this up, the more likely they are to succeed in life. A little humility is a good thing, as is the ability to pick up social cues.

And not everyone is a skilled conversationalist or intelligent speaker. The more you let your kids practice these skills, the better they will get. Conversations with adults (with mom there) is great practice. And very valuable to life for high earners and intelligent types.

Then mom will have to get used to getting fewer invites from her friends.

Fine with me, see post above. No loss.

Seriously OP is the one getting less invitations.

No, you are. Most of us are happy to hang out with OP and have an adult conversation. But you and your brilliant kid can stay at home.

Well let's just agree that there are 2 big parties going on and we are not inviting you and you are not inviting us.

I have no problem with that, I like to surround myself with good, kind people.

You like to surround yourself with self important, self absorbed people. Do you hashtag your FB posts with #housewivesof<nameoftown>?

People who don’t want kids to DOMINATE adult conversation are self important and self absorbed?!?

WHO ARE YOU PEOPLE?!?

They are playing you.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the age of the kids. For little kids, it is incredibly annoying. I don't mind if my 11 year old son's friends participate in adult conversations, since they know about current events etc. It's not as much fun as talking with just adults, but it is ok.

[Anonymous]

People need to relax and if they don’t want kids around find babysitters, or just don’t have children.