Kids who dominate adult conversations

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Anonymous wrote:My kids happen to be excellent conversationalists. Even better, they know when to speak, when to be quiet, and how to assert themselves without dominating a conversation.
In other words, the skills they need to get good feedback from other people.

The are plenty of opportunities to speak when they are wanted. But the #1 skill in life is knowing when you are wanted and when you aren't. The world doesn't revolve around your "genius" kid and it never will.

Geniuses are a dime a dozen. Geniuses with good social skills are extremely successful.

Maybe they are "excellent conversationalists" now, with their schoolgroup. That's a far cry from being excellent conversationalists at, say, a state dinner, or at an elite college, or at a formal dinner with VIPs. If you want to prepare your kid to truly feel comfortable in every social situation, conversing with adults is a great way to do it.

And hey, it's important to remember that kids develop at different rates. Certain kids are happy to play with play-doh and play tag until they're 14. Certain kids can be having conversations about civil war history at 6. Some kids can do both. But there is no need to try to stifle a child's development, and, if you do- you might admit that parenting is not your forte.

My child can talk about many topics. DC can read about something and can remember all of it and discuss it thoroughly. It is impressive. DC is only 8 years old and has the vocabulary of many adults. If you don’t want to listen to my DC speak, you can leave. If you want to discuss “adult topics” my house, with my kids present, you are not welcome to do so. No one wants to discuss your silly sex life or other vacuous topics that you find so interesting.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone is welcome in every conversation all the time. The earlier your kids pick this up, the more likely they are to succeed in life. A little humility is a good thing, as is the ability to pick up social cues.

And not everyone is a skilled conversationalist or intelligent speaker. The more you let your kids practice these skills, the better they will get. Conversations with adults (with mom there) is great practice. And very valuable to life for high earners and intelligent types.

Then mom will have to get used to getting fewer invites from her friends.

Fine with me, see post above. No loss.

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I’m really shocked at these responses.

Do people truly believe that their kids’ rude behavior is because they’re intelligent??!??

At first I though it was sarcasm or trolling, but people do seem genuine in arguing their children are impolite because they’re too smart to have social skills.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids happen to be excellent conversationalists. Even better, they know when to speak, when to be quiet, and how to assert themselves without dominating a conversation.
In other words, the skills they need to get good feedback from other people.

The are plenty of opportunities to speak when they are wanted. But the #1 skill in life is knowing when you are wanted and when you aren't. The world doesn't revolve around your "genius" kid and it never will.

Geniuses are a dime a dozen. Geniuses with good social skills are extremely successful.

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Anonymous wrote:So annoying. Could not really have a conversation with a mom the other day. Child was like a little nosy adult, interrupting, intruding, etc.

Careful now pp, your anxiety is showing. You shouldn't be jealous of an intelligent child.

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Or threatened by one

No matter how much you want it to be, your child isn’t THAT intelligent. They’re just annoying. There’s a reason it’s called ADULT conversation.

You want to have “intellectual” one on ones with your kid at home, all day long, have at it. The rest of us aren’t interested. Only you find your kid charming.

I dont have a child. How about this: YOU are not that intelligent. You're just annoying. You are self centered and childish. And no one is interested in your dislike of children other than yourself. See a therapist.

Oh gosh. We're all debating a snarky 14 year old who feels annoyed that they aren't the center of attention all the time. Please leave DCUM for the adults. Your points aren't as brilliant as you think they are.

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I’m really shocked at these responses.

Do people truly believe that their kids’ rude behavior is because they’re intelligent??!??

At first I though it was sarcasm or trolling, but people do seem genuine in arguing their children are impolite because they’re too smart to have social skills.

I think we have different interpretations of what is happening here.

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

I'm a PP. I can relate to/ have a conversation with anyone. That doesn't mean I want or have to talk to everyone. I don't care what kids are interested in. They have parents to talk to about that.

Oh, you're just a bitch, got it!

I doubt she is. Parents and possibly grandparents are the only ones who care what their kids have to say. I say this as a parent of a wonderful child.

I tell my kid all the time "You are special but only to Mommy and Daddy." I could talk to a kid that isn't mine about school or dinosaurs but dont want to. I dont want to talk to an attention starved brat. I think some of these kids seek attention from other adults because they arent getting it from their parents. I know several kids who are extremely bright but know when to join a conversation and when to exit. That's an even more important skill.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone is welcome in every conversation all the time. The earlier your kids pick this up, the more likely they are to succeed in life. A little humility is a good thing, as is the ability to pick up social cues.

And not everyone is a skilled conversationalist or intelligent speaker. The more you let your kids practice these skills, the better they will get. Conversations with adults (with mom there) is great practice. And very valuable to life for high earners and intelligent types.

Then mom will have to get used to getting fewer invites from her friends.

Fine with me, see post above. No loss.

Seriously OP is the one getting less invitations.

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

I'm a PP. I can relate to/ have a conversation with anyone. That doesn't mean I want or have to talk to everyone. I don't care what kids are interested in. They have parents to talk to about that.

Oh, you're just a bitch, got it!

I doubt she is. Parents and possibly grandparents are the only ones who care what their kids have to say. I say this as a parent of a wonderful child.

I tell my kid all the time "You are special but only to Mommy and Daddy." I could talk to a kid that isn't mine about school or dinosaurs but dont want to. I dont want to talk to an attention starved brat. I think some of these kids seek attention from other adults because they arent getting it from their parents. I know several kids who are extremely bright but know when to join a conversation and when to exit. That's an even more important skill.

Talking about attention starved brats. ^^^^^

Wow! These people.

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

NP. Putting aside your rude post, I have to question your own experience with kids. No one can drag out a story or provide a long-winded response like a kid trying to get attention from adults.

It's amazing you're magically able to intuit their intentions and that they're nefarious. You sound crazy as a MF

Um, what? Who said anything about the kids’ intentions being nefarious?? Some kids simply love to talk and they like the attention. Perhaps take a deep breath before firing off a response.

"Love to talk and love attention" again amazing you can magically know their intentions. Perhaps they were trying to meaningfully engage with you. But I guess it makes you feel better about ignoring small kids when you can chalk it up to them being attention whores. You really are cold individual

Lol. Yes, I guess you magically figured me out by reading things that aren’t in my post. Are you a parent of one of these kids who talks the ear off any adult who comes within 2 feet of them? Cuz you’re taking this awfully personally.

Yeah, just like you magically figure out these children. And no, I'm not. I know you'd love to dismiss me in that way so you can disregard the valid poitns I've made, but I have no horse in the race. Just a dislike for mean spirited a-holes like yourself.

So you don't have kids? Then, with all due respect, GTFO with your opinions on this topic. OP posted about how she wanted some child-free time after taking care of her own kids. If you can't relate to that, your opinion isn't particularly useful.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.

This is one of the most gag-inducing posts I've ever read on DCUM, and that's saying something. OP has every right to not want to listen to someone else's child talk, no matter how smart that child is. One of my daughters happens to have a very, very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I think everyone wants to talk to her all the time. I also happen to have a very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I always want to talk to a gifted child. Sometimes adults want to just converse with other adults.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.

This is one of the most gag-inducing posts I've ever read on DCUM, and that's saying something. OP has every right to not want to listen to someone else's child talk, no matter how smart that child is. One of my daughters happens to have a very, very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I think everyone wants to talk to her all the time. I also happen to have a very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I always want to talk to a gifted child. Sometimes adults want to just converse with other adults.

PP directly above: WELL SAID.

I have a feeling a lot of these posters who think their children are geniuses just can't imagine that everyone else is not as smitten with their children as they are. I like children. I like talking to them. I do not like children dominating conversations or interrupting adults when they are talking. If your child can't learn not to do that, they aren't that bright.

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Anonymous wrote:Being gifted is no excuse for being impolite.

Teach your kids to behave in a way that makes them pleasant to be around. More helpful in life than a high SAT

Engaging in conversation is the opposite of being impolite. And kids who engage in conversations with adults with develop high level social skills much faster

Inserting yourself where you are not welcome is being impolite. They can engage in conversations where they are wanted, but should be able to interpret social cues to move away when they aren't.

There is no reason why a child should feel unwelcome in a situation with their parent and a family friend. And if you make your kids feel that way, then YOU are a bad parent. Hope you're creating a therapy fund for the kid to use one day

Oh really? So you would encourage your child to listen to me tell you about my latest affair? And apparently your child would have lots of wise, intelligent comments to make.

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^^^^^Those kids were “fast” when I was growing up.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.

This is one of the most gag-inducing posts I've ever read on DCUM, and that's saying something. OP has every right to not want to listen to someone else's child talk, no matter how smart that child is. One of my daughters happens to have a very, very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I think everyone wants to talk to her all the time. I also happen to have a very high IQ, but that doesn't mean I always want to talk to a gifted child. Sometimes adults want to just converse with other adults.

I think the joke is on you.