Why vacation without the kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Vacations are in way perfect for spending more time and connecting with your family, so why many people vacation without their kids? I am not trying to be judging, I want to understand what the thought process.

To neglect our relationship is to do a disservice to our kids.

You don’t have to neglect your kids for a week to avoid neglecting your relationship. Date night works well.

We do both. Date night and couples trips!

Wow I feel sorry for your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Vacations are in way perfect for spending more time and connecting with your family, so why many people vacation without their kids? I am not trying to be judging, I want to understand what the thought process.

To neglect our relationship is to do a disservice to our kids.

You don’t have to neglect your kids for a week to avoid neglecting your relationship. Date night works well.

We do both. Date night and couples trips!

Wow I feel sorry for your kids.

You're nutty.

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Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

I don’t think we are superior but you or pp kept pressing like, how can this be??? Like it’s unheard of for parents to genuinely enjoy their own children.

People who vacation without their kids do not NOT enjoy their kids. They just also like adult time. I'm a wholly formed person outside of my children. Thanks! I do girl trips without my husband too. GASP! I must not like him!! (eye roll)

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People are nutty. Under their logic, if my husband and I take our kids on vacation but not our extended family we don't love them and people should feel sad. You can love people and not take them on every vacation. I need people to get a life!

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Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

I don’t think we are superior but you or pp kept pressing like, how can this be??? Like it’s unheard of for parents to genuinely enjoy their own children.

People who vacation without their kids do not NOT enjoy their kids. They just also like adult time. I'm a wholly formed person outside of my children. Thanks! I do girl trips without my husband too. GASP! I must not like him!! (eye roll)

Right! I take trips with my whole family, I take trips with my husband without our kids. I do girl trips without my husband or kids. I have done trips with my kids, my sister and my sisters kids without our husbands. And oddly enough I LOVE everyone I've left behind on vacation. Shocker!

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Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t value my time away from them. It makes me sad to be away from them.

And that statement makes me sad.

Why would this make you sad?

Fwiw, my oldest is 11. I can already see that our remaining time with him living at home is so fleeting. I've really been loving the elementary school aged years: 5-12ish. It's such a fun age: the kids are old enough to be interesting and interactive and funny but still young enough to think we hung the stars and to want to spend time with us. It won't last forever. I'm trying to soak it up as much as I can.

I think I will probably look back at these years as the best in my life.

Well I have 2 under 2. It’s not fleeting. There is no way I could go on a vacation with them. They go to bed at 7. They nap twice a day. They would hate art museums or long dinners. Sure I could wait 16 more years until they’re at college to do anything I want to do but grandparents love them and are excited to stay with them. It’s a win all around.

How did I manage to go to the Caribbean with a three month old? It's not rocket science.

We changed from art museums/ long dinners to something kid friendly! Imagine that. Something that doesn't put YOU first. Yes, we would go to bed early on vacation NBD. We would get wine and sit in the balcony. You seem spoiled, like compromise is foreign to you.

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Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t value my time away from them. It makes me sad to be away from them.

And that statement makes me sad.

Why would this make you sad?

Fwiw, my oldest is 11. I can already see that our remaining time with him living at home is so fleeting. I've really been loving the elementary school aged years: 5-12ish. It's such a fun age: the kids are old enough to be interesting and interactive and funny but still young enough to think we hung the stars and to want to spend time with us. It won't last forever. I'm trying to soak it up as much as I can.

I think I will probably look back at these years as the best in my life.

Well I have 2 under 2. It’s not fleeting. There is no way I could go on a vacation with them. They go to bed at 7. They nap twice a day. They would hate art museums or long dinners. Sure I could wait 16 more years until they’re at college to do anything I want to do but grandparents love them and are excited to stay with them. It’s a win all around.

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Ok but surely you can use your imagination to envision what it will be like when your kids are 6and 7 or 7 and 8 or 9 and 10 and so on and so forth? You're not going to want to leave them behind then. It's actually a really fun age. That's what the PP is talking about.

Yeah, they still don't want to do adult type museums.

Nothing wrong with a few days away from your kids, helicopter moms!

Why do you need to go to musesums? Seriously? Obsessed much?

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Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

+1.
I spend 51 weeks per year with my kids. It's ok if I want to spend 1 week per year without them.

But how many weeks vacation do you get?
The question is why are you okay with spending 1/2 1/3 or 1/4 of your vacation time away from your kids?

I get 3 weeks of vacation.

I'm ok with it because I enjoy time alone with my husband and my children have fun at their grandparents.

So your give up 33% of your vacation time for travel without the kids. You truly suck.

I do. Maybe you would like to adopt my poor, abused children with the sucky mother.

Nope, they probably have damage from the neglectful parenting. Don't want them.

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Bc it’s less work.

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Anonymous wrote:The answer is kinky, hot hotel sex. If you don’t get that now, give it a shot and report back.

Airbnb or Vrbo - rent a whole house, apartment, or villa so you can get it on and they can’t hear.

Hotel sex is way better than air bnb sex and lot lest risk of hidden cams recording your sexual activities. Plus a lot of people, like me, don't find airbnb/vrbo relaxing at all.

So I will take my wife to a nice hotel for the weekend trips as we do every 4-6 weeks and on a week long vacation, where we can be together sans kids and enjoy both the literal and figurative F out of each other without giving an F.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

I don’t think we are superior but you or pp kept pressing like, how can this be??? Like it’s unheard of for parents to genuinely enjoy their own children.

People who vacation without their kids do not NOT enjoy their kids. They just also like adult time. I'm a wholly formed person outside of my children. Thanks! I do girl trips without my husband too. GASP! I must not like him!! (eye roll)

See you're pressing the point even now! I'll tell you how the conversation always goes in our home. My in laws offer to watch our kids. Dh and I start talking about where we'd want to go. Then one of us always says, "but wouldn't it be nice for the kids to see London, Croatia, Positano, Santorini, Costa Rica, Machu Picchu too" and then we end up bringing them along.

Fwiw, no one was offering to watch our kids when they were really little and we would have left them (babies and toddlers). Now that they're older, they're honestly fun to bring along. They add to the overall enjoyment rather than detract. We have limited vacation time and I want them to see as much of the world as they can before college.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

I don’t think we are superior but you or pp kept pressing like, how can this be??? Like it’s unheard of for parents to genuinely enjoy their own children.

People who vacation without their kids do not NOT enjoy their kids. They just also like adult time. I'm a wholly formed person outside of my children. Thanks! I do girl trips without my husband too. GASP! I must not like him!! (eye roll)

See you're pressing the point even now! I'll tell you how the conversation always goes in our home. My in laws offer to watch our kids. Dh and I start talking about where we'd want to go. Then one of us always says, "but wouldn't it be nice for the kids to see London, Croatia, Positano, Santorini, Costa Rica, Machu Picchu too" and then we end up bringing them along.

Fwiw, no one was offering to watch our kids when they were really little and we would have left them (babies and toddlers). Now that they're older, they're honestly fun to bring along. They add to the overall enjoyment rather than detract. We have limited vacation time and I want them to see as much of the world as they can before college.

Me again. Like I said in my first post, the only problem with bringing them is that it's obviously much more expensive to travel with 5 people than 2. But we prioritize travel in our budget and try to cut costs elsewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

I don’t think we are superior but you or pp kept pressing like, how can this be??? Like it’s unheard of for parents to genuinely enjoy their own children.

People who vacation without their kids do not NOT enjoy their kids. They just also like adult time. I'm a wholly formed person outside of my children. Thanks! I do girl trips without my husband too. GASP! I must not like him!! (eye roll)

See you're pressing the point even now! I'll tell you how the conversation always goes in our home. My in laws offer to watch our kids. Dh and I start talking about where we'd want to go. Then one of us always says, "but wouldn't it be nice for the kids to see London, Croatia, Positano, Santorini, Costa Rica, Machu Picchu too" and then we end up bringing them along.

Fwiw, no one was offering to watch our kids when they were really little and we would have left them (babies and toddlers). Now that they're older, they're honestly fun to bring along. They add to the overall enjoyment rather than detract. We have limited vacation time and I want them to see as much of the world as they can before college.

Me again. Like I said in my first post, the only problem with bringing them is that it's obviously much more expensive to travel with 5 people than 2. But we prioritize travel in our budget and try to cut costs elsewhere.

Thank you! This is how it SHOULD be done. Period. Don’t have kids if you can’t take care of them.

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Anonymous wrote:People are nutty. Under their logic, if my husband and I take our kids on vacation but not our extended family we don't love them and people should feel sad. You can love people and not take them on every vacation. I need people to get a life!

I didn't say anything about love. I said we enjoy being with our kids and that they add to our trips rather than subtract. I'll give you an example. We're going to Belize in February. We're going to be ziplining, snorkeling, horseback riding, tubing, exploring caves, and going to Guatemala to see Tikkal. We could have left our kids but when I thought about whether I want my kids to have an opportunity to see Belize, I realized we have to bring them. We most likely won't get back there before they go to college. Plus those are all activities that they'd enjoy too so we're bringing them. We're going to Turks and Caicos in April and probably Scotland in the summer (I'm the OP of the SF, Vancouver, or Scotland thread).

We're doing kid friendly stuff that we'd like to do now and saving the more adventurous (and more expensive things) like Peru or an African safari for when they're in high school.

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Anonymous wrote:People are nutty. Under their logic, if my husband and I take our kids on vacation but not our extended family we don't love them and people should feel sad. You can love people and not take them on every vacation. I need people to get a life!

I didn't say anything about love. I said we enjoy being with our kids and that they add to our trips rather than subtract. I'll give you an example. We're going to Belize in February. We're going to be ziplining, snorkeling, horseback riding, tubing, exploring caves, and going to Guatemala to see Tikkal. We could have left our kids but when I thought about whether I want my kids to have an opportunity to see Belize, I realized we have to bring them. We most likely won't get back there before they go to college. Plus those are all activities that they'd enjoy too so we're bringing them. We're going to Turks and Caicos in April and probably Scotland in the summer (I'm the OP of the SF, Vancouver, or Scotland thread).

We're doing kid friendly stuff that we'd like to do now and saving the more adventurous (and more expensive things) like Peru or an African safari for when they're in high school.

You sound like a loving parent.
Some others don’t enjoy their kids. Period. They are a burden they need a break from.