SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fine - don’t help out. But then don’t put your kid into activities like scouts or sports that require volunteers to make it happen. Your child should not benefit from these activities if you are a free loader.

Stop attacking SAHMs. Grow up and do you, miseryguts.

Start pitching in on activities that your child benefits from, freeloader.

I don’t freeload, and your anger is nuts. Is that helpful to you? If you’re mad at a SAHM friend, just talk to her about it! It might actually help.

[Anonymous]

All you bitches STFU and smash the patriarchy instead of bashing each other. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All you bitches STFU and smash the patriarchy instead of bashing each other. Grow up.

It's completely bonkers that men aren't help accountable for any of this crap. Where do you all even get the time and energy to be so hateful all the time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All you bitches STFU and smash the patriarchy instead of bashing each other. Grow up.

It's completely bonkers that men aren't help accountable for any of this crap. Where do you all even get the time and energy to be so hateful all the time?

The OP doesn’t see men/fathers just as Stephen Colbert ca. The Colbert Report didn’t see race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fine - don’t help out. But then don’t put your kid into activities like scouts or sports that require volunteers to make it happen. Your child should not benefit from these activities if you are a free loader.

Stop attacking SAHMs. Grow up and do you, miseryguts.

Start pitching in on activities that your child benefits from, freeloader.

I don’t freeload, and your anger is nuts. Is that helpful to you? If you’re mad at a SAHM friend, just talk to her about it! It might actually help.

If you don’t pitch in when everyone else is helping out with your child’s activities, then you are a freeloader. And trust me, everyone sees you as such.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fine - don’t help out. But then don’t put your kid into activities like scouts or sports that require volunteers to make it happen. Your child should not benefit from these activities if you are a free loader.

Stop attacking SAHMs. Grow up and do you, miseryguts.

Start pitching in on activities that your child benefits from, freeloader.

I don’t freeload, and your anger is nuts. Is that helpful to you? If you’re mad at a SAHM friend, just talk to her about it! It might actually help.

If you don’t pitch in when everyone else is helping out with your child’s activities, then you are a freeloader. And trust me, everyone sees you as such.

Dude, take a breath. This doesn’t describe me or anyone I know. Calm down and try to have an actual talk with the person(s) bothering you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fine - don’t help out. But then don’t put your kid into activities like scouts or sports that require volunteers to make it happen. Your child should not benefit from these activities if you are a free loader.

Stop attacking SAHMs. Grow up and do you, miseryguts.

Start pitching in on activities that your child benefits from, freeloader.

I don’t freeload, and your anger is nuts. Is that helpful to you? If you’re mad at a SAHM friend, just talk to her about it! It might actually help.

If you don’t pitch in when everyone else is helping out with your child’s activities, then you are a freeloader. And trust me, everyone sees you as such.

Dude, take a breath. This doesn’t describe me or anyone I know. Calm down and try to have an actual talk with the person(s) bothering you.

Seriously. Silently seething about this does not help. You either address it or you let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fine - don’t help out. But then don’t put your kid into activities like scouts or sports that require volunteers to make it happen. Your child should not benefit from these activities if you are a free loader.

Stop attacking SAHMs. Grow up and do you, miseryguts.

Start pitching in on activities that your child benefits from, freeloader.

I don’t freeload, and your anger is nuts. Is that helpful to you? If you’re mad at a SAHM friend, just talk to her about it! It might actually help.

If you don’t pitch in when everyone else is helping out with your child’s activities, then you are a freeloader. And trust me, everyone sees you as such.

Dude, take a breath. This doesn’t describe me or anyone I know. Calm down and try to have an actual talk with the person(s) bothering you.

Yeah... this is not a thing.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t even read this thread because the title says it all. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fine - don’t help out. But then don’t put your kid into activities like scouts or sports that require volunteers to make it happen. Your child should not benefit from these activities if you are a free loader.

Stop attacking SAHMs. Grow up and do you, miseryguts.

Start pitching in on activities that your child benefits from, freeloader.

I don’t freeload, and your anger is nuts. Is that helpful to you? If you’re mad at a SAHM friend, just talk to her about it! It might actually help.

If you don’t pitch in when everyone else is helping out with your child’s activities, then you are a freeloader. And trust me, everyone sees you as such.

Dude, take a breath. This doesn’t describe me or anyone I know. Calm down and try to have an actual talk with the person(s) bothering you.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t even read this thread because the title says it all. Get a grip.

Seriously. OP (and others) - worry about your own lives, not what others choose to do with theirs.

[Anonymous]

Wow this thread got so bizarre.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have just one child (due to secondary infertility--we cannot have more) and I work from home very part-time (10 hours per week). My daughter is in full-day Kindergarten, so this is the first year that I have a lot of time to myself (previously she was in morning preschool 9:30-1 pm).

My husband has a job with crazy hours, and we have no local family/no childcare help. I do all drop offs, pick ups, sick days and snow days because my husband is in the type of field where he can't do any of this. I also do everything in the mornings (husband leaves for work at 5 am). I also do the dinner/bedtime routine myself at least twice a week, and do all childcare 2 weekends per month when my husband travels for work.

During the school day, when not doing my 10hours/week of work I:

-get all grocery shopping/errands during the week when it's not crowded
-clean the house daily, do all deep cleaning
-cook all meals from scratch (we eat out once per week)
-deal with all appointments, car stuff
-shop leisurely at the mall
-take care of personal grooming (hair cut/color every 6 weeks)
-take care of all Dr. appts in a timely fashion
-work out during the day
-meet friends for lunch/coffee during the day
-work on job certifications for my career

On weekends, since all the boring stuff is out of the day, we often do day trips or weekend trips. We also spend most of the weekends on our child's sports/activities, going out for lunch, meeting up with friends, and just relaxing

Are you saying all this to say your are busy? So confused. I'm a working mom and I have to do all of that sort of stuff, too, I mean besides meeting friends for lunch and working out during the day. What is your point?

+1. Please don't think WOHPs don't cook from scratch. I cook from scratch at least four times a week, and leftovers stretches that to seven. We dine out less than any family I know.

I get most of my "boring stuff" during the work week, too.

+1
I have a full-time job and do everything you do except shop leisurely at the mall because that sounds awful to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fine - don’t help out. But then don’t put your kid into activities like scouts or sports that require volunteers to make it happen. Your child should not benefit from these activities if you are a free loader.

Stop attacking SAHMs. Grow up and do you, miseryguts.

Start pitching in on activities that your child benefits from, freeloader.

I don’t freeload, and your anger is nuts. Is that helpful to you? If you’re mad at a SAHM friend, just talk to her about it! It might actually help.

If you don’t pitch in when everyone else is helping out with your child’s activities, then you are a freeloader. And trust me, everyone sees you as such.

Who are you people?!? I have never once considered parents who are not at an event I am helping with to be freeloaders. What a miserable and unhappy way to live. Help out because you want to spend time with your kids and maybe do something nice for another parent who couldn’t be there. I seriously pity those of you who waste your mental energy being upset about this. And I volunteer for everything so you can’t call me a freeloader. I also work full-time so I’m not even sure whose wrath I will be on the receiving end on this board of lunatics. All of you need to calm down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have just one child (due to secondary infertility--we cannot have more) and I work from home very part-time (10 hours per week). My daughter is in full-day Kindergarten, so this is the first year that I have a lot of time to myself (previously she was in morning preschool 9:30-1 pm).

My husband has a job with crazy hours, and we have no local family/no childcare help. I do all drop offs, pick ups, sick days and snow days because my husband is in the type of field where he can't do any of this. I also do everything in the mornings (husband leaves for work at 5 am). I also do the dinner/bedtime routine myself at least twice a week, and do all childcare 2 weekends per month when my husband travels for work.

During the school day, when not doing my 10hours/week of work I:

-get all grocery shopping/errands during the week when it's not crowded
-clean the house daily, do all deep cleaning
-cook all meals from scratch (we eat out once per week)
-deal with all appointments, car stuff
-shop leisurely at the mall
-take care of personal grooming (hair cut/color every 6 weeks)
-take care of all Dr. appts in a timely fashion
-work out during the day
-meet friends for lunch/coffee during the day
-work on job certifications for my career

On weekends, since all the boring stuff is out of the day, we often do day trips or weekend trips. We also spend most of the weekends on our child's sports/activities, going out for lunch, meeting up with friends, and just relaxing

Are you saying all this to say your are busy? So confused. I'm a working mom and I have to do all of that sort of stuff, too, I mean besides meeting friends for lunch and working out during the day. What is your point?

+1. Please don't think WOHPs don't cook from scratch. I cook from scratch at least four times a week, and leftovers stretches that to seven. We dine out less than any family I know.

I get most of my "boring stuff" during the work week, too.

+1
I have a full-time job and do everything you do except shop leisurely at the mall because that sounds awful to me.

She didn’t say you didn’t do what she does. She explained what she does. Your trophy is in the mail, congratulations!