SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My physician friend has definitely used me for babysitting and it got really old. When I started working PT, she would still occasionally ask me to watch her kid on my days off. Never offered to pay. I ended up giving her the number of a sitter I had used. She often talked about how she was so thankful to be part of such a great "village."

I work part time as a physician. I made it known to my friends in two physician couples (particularly residents!) that I am available for emergency childcare on my days off. People have called, but I have never felt put out or like I was someone’s only back-up.

My friends dad was hospitalized and she put out an email asking for help with her kids for 3 days. Only working moms helped and the SAHM's who used her nanny for years... not a peep.

Eh, that just sounds like your friend was closer to her working mom friends than her SAHM friends. People tend to have closer friendships to women who are more like themselves in terms of interests and schedules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My physician friend has definitely used me for babysitting and it got really old. When I started working PT, she would still occasionally ask me to watch her kid on my days off. Never offered to pay. I ended up giving her the number of a sitter I had used. She often talked about how she was so thankful to be part of such a great "village."

I work part time as a physician. I made it known to my friends in two physician couples (particularly residents!) that I am available for emergency childcare on my days off. People have called, but I have never felt put out or like I was someone’s only back-up.

My friends dad was hospitalized and she put out an email asking for help with her kids for 3 days. Only working moms helped and the SAHM's who used her nanny for years... not a peep.

Eh, that just sounds like your friend was closer to her working mom friends than her SAHM friends. People tend to have closer friendships to women who are more like themselves in terms of interests and schedules.

+1

Please don't use a stupid story like that to denigrate SAHMs.

-WOHM

[Anonymous]

The progression of this thread is funny:

OP feels entitled to free labor from SAHMs:

The SAHMs say “No I can’t... I’m busy...”

OP launches into a tirade about how the SAHMs have nothing better to do and they should be giving her a lot more unpaid volunteer work.
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Lots of SAHMs say they don’t like other moms assuming that they will be back up child care, or volunteers, etc. It’s rude. Basically, they remind OP that she’s not entitled to these women’s time.
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WOHM freak out and say the NEVER ask SAHMs for ANYTHING! This is a myth of epic proportions! This never happens!
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Mkay...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The progression of this thread is funny:

OP feels entitled to free labor from SAHMs:

The SAHMs say “No I can’t... I’m busy...”

OP launches into a tirade about how the SAHMs have nothing better to do and they should be giving her a lot more unpaid volunteer work.
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.
Lots of SAHMs say they don’t like other moms assuming that they will be back up child care, or volunteers, etc. It’s rude. Basically, they remind OP that she’s not entitled to these women’s time.
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WOHM freak out and say the NEVER ask SAHMs for ANYTHING! This is a myth of epic proportions! This never happens!
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Mkay...

Talk about hyperbolic. I think this "analysis" proves the point that you need more hobbies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The progression of this thread is funny:

OP feels entitled to free labor from SAHMs:

The SAHMs say “No I can’t... I’m busy...”

OP launches into a tirade about how the SAHMs have nothing better to do and they should be giving her a lot more unpaid volunteer work.
.
.
.
Lots of SAHMs say they don’t like other moms assuming that they will be back up child care, or volunteers, etc. It’s rude. Basically, they remind OP that she’s not entitled to these women’s time.
.
.
WOHM freak out and say the NEVER ask SAHMs for ANYTHING! This is a myth of epic proportions! This never happens!
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.
.
Mkay...

Talk about hyperbolic. I think this "analysis" proves the point that you need more hobbies.

It’s a summary.


Mkay...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The progression of this thread is funny:

OP feels entitled to free labor from SAHMs:

The SAHMs say “No I can’t... I’m busy...”

OP launches into a tirade about how the SAHMs have nothing better to do and they should be giving her a lot more unpaid volunteer work.
.
.
.
Lots of SAHMs say they don’t like other moms assuming that they will be back up child care, or volunteers, etc. It’s rude. Basically, they remind OP that she’s not entitled to these women’s time.
.
.
WOHM freak out and say the NEVER ask SAHMs for ANYTHING! This is a myth of epic proportions! This never happens!
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.
.
Mkay...

Talk about hyperbolic. I think this "analysis" proves the point that you need more hobbies.

It’s a summary.


Mkay...

even that is a stretch.

[Anonymous]

What do you cook for a family of 6 that just takes you half an hour to make?

[Anonymous]

I have ADHD and I am always busy and tired. Right now I am typing from my bed feeling busy and tired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you cook for a family of 6 that just takes you half an hour to make?

Pp here. First if all, I don’t cook alone. Secondly, I make pretty simple meals.
We have some kind of stir fry on Mondays
Tuesdays we have baked fish, a starch (rice/potatoes/pasta), and a veggie
Wednesdays we have spaghetti and meatballs, no knead bread, and salad. I make a huge batch of meatballs one Wednesday a month during that 1:30-3:00 time.
Thursdays we have some kind of sandwich and soup. Corn chowder and tomato soup are fast to make. The bread takes very little hands on time. Sometimes I make mushroom and beef burgers, sometimes grilled cheese, etc.
Friday’s we usually pick up something for dinner after gymnastics and have a family movie night.

[Anonymous]

One of my favorite things about staying home is that I read a lot. 2-3 books a week. Before I quit my job, I had not read anything for pleasure since before law school. It is a great luxury and I am so glad that I am able to read enjoyable books again. Instead of briefs and opinions and cases.

[Anonymous]

Who is talking to who now? LOL

[Anonymous]

If you are that miserable, go get help.

[Anonymous]

yes, I can own that. I shouldn't needle you and I will stop after this post, but I am astounded by the hypocrisy. It's totally fine to be sanctimonious and smug about a busy schedule and bragging about wealth and education, but as soon as I dare to offer my own smug commentary, then I am told to STFU and "go back to my misery hole." I'm not mad at anyone, I'm not miserable, and I also enjoy reading books and playing with puppies.



Honest question. Are you over worked? Finances really tight? Why does it bother you that someone else has it better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The progression of this thread is funny:

OP feels entitled to free labor from SAHMs:

The SAHMs say “No I can’t... I’m busy...”

OP launches into a tirade about how the SAHMs have nothing better to do and they should be giving her a lot more unpaid volunteer work.
.
.
.
Lots of SAHMs say they don’t like other moms assuming that they will be back up child care, or volunteers, etc. It’s rude. Basically, they remind OP that she’s not entitled to these women’s time.
.
.
WOHM freak out and say the NEVER ask SAHMs for ANYTHING! This is a myth of epic proportions! This never happens!
.
.
.
Mkay...

I'm a WOHM. I have never asked a SAHM for anything. Believe me or not, I really don't care. All the WOHMs I know are the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

yes, I can own that. I shouldn't needle you and I will stop after this post, but I am astounded by the hypocrisy. It's totally fine to be sanctimonious and smug about a busy schedule and bragging about wealth and education, but as soon as I dare to offer my own smug commentary, then I am told to STFU and "go back to my misery hole." I'm not mad at anyone, I'm not miserable, and I also enjoy reading books and playing with puppies.

Honest question. Are you over worked? Finances really tight? Why does it bother you that someone else has it better?



NP. Both of you freaking stop, really.