Has anyone on here found their spouse on the Ashley Madison list?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of course, you should let fiances/wives/girlfriends know if you found their partner on the site. Why wouldn't you?Wouldn't you want to know? Or would you rather the whole world knew and you were the last to know. I would want to know.
Even if the trying-to-cheat spouse never got anywhere with their account, I know from personal experience, husbands who want to cheat, will keep trying till they find someone willing. Early counseling and testing for STDs can save a marriage/relationship than brushing it under the rug.

My DW and I have an explicit understanding that if one of us cheats, the other doesn't want to know. We have a great marriage, happy home, a great team. I wouldn't divorce her if she screwed up and she feels the same, but I would be very hurt if I found out she cheated. So I would be irate if some busy-body "friend" decided it was their holier-than-thou mission to rub my nose in some fling my wife had. I imagine others feel similarly, even if we are in the minority.

Yes, you are in the minority, and the rest of the world owes you no obligation to choose what they think is the right thing to do based on the possibility you are the kind of couple that has an open agreement about not wanting to know. Your arrangement happens, but is really unusual, so sorry, if I know you and I find out one of you is cheating on someone I consider a friend, I'm going to tell. Unless I know about your agreement.

And if you didn't want to know, oh well, I did it because I thought it was right which is the way we each need to act. Obviously you don't think it's right so you're not going to tell anyone else if you know about it. So be it.

I don't think women should be allowed to feed their infants formula because they are harming their infants. But somehow I manage to not email all my female friends the scientific literature about the benefits of breastfeeding. Because I assume they know this or they could look it up if they cared. Also, I am an asshole.

There, fixed it for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DW told me one of her friends told her on girls night out how she regretted marrying her husband because he is a dud in bed. The husband is a good friend of mine. So I told him how his wife felt about him. He deserves to know his marriage is a lie.

How do you know his wife lied about any of that? Maybe she gave up pretending to have orgasms years ago and he didn't care, and still doesn't care if she has fun... there's no lie there. How'd your friend react?

PP is just trying to make a point. Never happened. A guy isn't going to carry that message back to a friend because he has to deal with his wife in the end.lol That said, the husband in question needs to know he has a bad dick report and feel some shame, so it wouldn't have been a bad thing in a real scenario.

[Anonymous]

In other circumstances I would not get involved. That said the Montgomery County, NOVA and DC lists have been heavily viewed on Fairfax Underground. I have a neighbor who's husband is on there over 20 times. I am afraid everyone will be talking about her and her dh behind her back. I am thinking of printing the pages of him on the list and mailing it to her anonymously. What do others think is the best to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In other circumstances I would not get involved. That said the Montgomery County, NOVA and DC lists have been heavily viewed on Fairfax Underground. I have a neighbor who's husband is on there over 20 times. I am afraid everyone will be talking about her and her dh behind her back. I am thinking of printing the pages of him on the list and mailing it to her anonymously. What do others think is the best to do.

I found a friend's husband on there three times. I am telling no one. She is a lovely person and I don't want to blow her world up. Or, she already knows. Or,she gave him a hall pass. This is keep your mouth shut territory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In other circumstances I would not get involved. That said the Montgomery County, NOVA and DC lists have been heavily viewed on Fairfax Underground. I have a neighbor who's husband is on there over 20 times. I am afraid everyone will be talking about her and her dh behind her back. I am thinking of printing the pages of him on the list and mailing it to her anonymously. What do others think is the best to do.

I found a friend's husband on there three times. I am telling no one. She is a lovely person and I don't want to blow her world up. Or, she already knows. Or,she gave him a hall pass. This is keep your mouth shut territory.

If this is on FFxU then how is this loading for everyone but me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In other circumstances I would not get involved. That said the Montgomery County, NOVA and DC lists have been heavily viewed on Fairfax Underground. I have a neighbor who's husband is on there over 20 times. I am afraid everyone will be talking about her and her dh behind her back. I am thinking of printing the pages of him on the list and mailing it to her anonymously. What do others think is the best to do.

!!! I would DIE if someone did this to me. I would never be able to leave my house again.

Do not do anything and keep your mouth shut. You shouldn't have been on there in the first place, looking at neighbors.

I'm still in shock that you would think it's a good idea to print out pages and mail them to her anonymously. How hurtful and threatening and low class.

You sound like a horrible person. MYOB and go and read a good book or do something good with your time.

[Anonymous]

If you're checking on your own spouse on FFx U, the way it's set up it's really easy to stumble across others you know. I came across two people I know really by accident. Once I didn't see my spouse, I never went back because I don't even like knowing about the two I did see.

[Anonymous]

Myob. You never know the dynamics of what two people have agreed to in their marriage.
You never know what they have set up for themselves. Unless you're asked, stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In other circumstances I would not get involved. That said the Montgomery County, NOVA and DC lists have been heavily viewed on Fairfax Underground. I have a neighbor who's husband is on there over 20 times. I am afraid everyone will be talking about her and her dh behind her back. I am thinking of printing the pages of him on the list and mailing it to her anonymously. What do others think is the best to do.

!!! I would DIE if someone did this to me. I would never be able to leave my house again.

Do not do anything and keep your mouth shut. You shouldn't have been on there in the first place, looking at neighbors.

I'm still in shock that you would think it's a good idea to print out pages and mail them to her anonymously. How hurtful and threatening and low class.

You sound like a horrible person. MYOB and go and read a good book or do something good with your time.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In other circumstances I would not get involved. That said the Montgomery County, NOVA and DC lists have been heavily viewed on Fairfax Underground. I have a neighbor who's husband is on there over 20 times. I am afraid everyone will be talking about her and her dh behind her back. I am thinking of printing the pages of him on the list and mailing it to her anonymously. What do others think is the best to do.

!!! I would DIE if someone did this to me. I would never be able to leave my house again.

Do not do anything and keep your mouth shut. You shouldn't have been on there in the first place, looking at neighbors.

I'm still in shock that you would think it's a good idea to print out pages and mail them to her anonymously. How hurtful and threatening and low class.

You sound like a horrible person. MYOB and go and read a good book or do something good with your time.

I am on a committee and one of the officers brought it to three members attention that their spouses were on there, in front of everyone. As in she went around the room and said "I didn't find your husband or yours but Larla yours was on there, did you know? Didn't find Jane's....etc.... People are assholes. MYOB indeed.

[Anonymous]

See another thread on here, the men that tell their wives they signed up but never had an affair are extremely likely to be telling the truth according to the data.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In other circumstances I would not get involved. That said the Montgomery County, NOVA and DC lists have been heavily viewed on Fairfax Underground. I have a neighbor who's husband is on there over 20 times. I am afraid everyone will be talking about her and her dh behind her back. I am thinking of printing the pages of him on the list and mailing it to her anonymously. What do others think is the best to do.

!!! I would DIE if someone did this to me. I would never be able to leave my house again.

Do not do anything and keep your mouth shut. You shouldn't have been on there in the first place, looking at neighbors.

I'm still in shock that you would think it's a good idea to print out pages and mail them to her anonymously. How hurtful and threatening and low class.

You sound like a horrible person. MYOB and go and read a good book or do something good with your time.

I am on a committee and one of the officers brought it to three members attention that their spouses were on there, in front of everyone. As in she went around the room and said "I didn't find your husband or yours but Larla yours was on there, did you know? Didn't find Jane's....etc.... People are assholes. MYOB indeed.

OMG

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's a lot of "should" in the world, but the answer is still NO, not going to MMOB. If I'm in your world and you're cheating on a friend of mine, I'm going to tell. All the "shoulds" on DCUM can't stop me. Remember that when you are choosing to violate your marriage, lie to your spouse, and have extramarital sex. Because you are the only one who triggered any pain or hurt that comes later.

So all the preachy/judgy people aren't going to stop you from STEPPING IN TO OTHER PEOPLE'S SHIT BECAUSE IT'S YOUR JOB TO TELL EVERYONE WHAT'S RIGHT!!

You are quite possibly the least self-aware person in the universe, and I'd bet the reason no one appreciates you for all the good you do is that you're a horrible self-righteous drama queen (regardless of your gender).

Have a nice life, preferably elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

I found the wife of the dude who my ex wife cheated on me with.

Oh. So. Satisfying.

[Anonymous]

I would say send it anonymously. I would not want everyone to know but me. The person I would and should be furious with would be the husband. Let's be clear maybe 2 percent had these open rationships. I would not want anyone to enable my spouse to cheat on me.

There is a doctor listed on the Montgomery County off topics about 96 times. They live in Potomac. She needs to know. I don't know them, but she is a dentist and I am sure would not want to be the last one to know.