Question for older men who date much younger women

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve always assumed there was a fundamental flaw or personality deficiency in a man who would go for a woman that much younger than him. Friends’ experiences have generally proven this to be true

There is. It’s wild to see how the op doesn’t get it.

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

No one mature wants to date you silly. You’re a loser. It’s so funny but sad how you seem to think you’re a prize women are fighting over. The only ones who will date (and dump) you are the ones who don’t know any better, until they do. You are not looking for a serious relationship either, except you are 25 years older, so who’s the manchild?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

No one mature wants to date you silly. You’re a loser. It’s so funny but sad how you seem to think you’re a prize women are fighting over. The only ones who will date (and dump) you are the ones who don’t know any better, until they do. You are not looking for a serious relationship either, except you are 25 years older, so who’s the manchild?

You are wasting your GF’s time every bit as much as the losers her own age. Your gf is either a loser herself or needs to find a real man.

[Anonymous]

I have three daughters in their 20s - I always tell them to enjoy guys their age now, they are so much hotter then old guys. You can get one of those later but why be with an icky old man when you don't have to be.

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

No one mature wants to date you silly. You’re a loser. It’s so funny but sad how you seem to think you’re a prize women are fighting over. The only ones who will date (and dump) you are the ones who don’t know any better, until they do. You are not looking for a serious relationship either, except you are 25 years older, so who’s the manchild?

There are different men who date younger here. I’ve dated (and was married to) women my own age at State, Senate Staff, Wash Post, DOJ, World Bank, etc and have zero doubt I’ll shamelessly slide back to a similar relationship once I age out of being able to attract 22yos. (With the caveat that disease or tragedy can strike anyone at any time, so perhaps I’ll get my comeuppance)

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

No one mature wants to date you silly. You’re a loser. It’s so funny but sad how you seem to think you’re a prize women are fighting over. The only ones who will date (and dump) you are the ones who don’t know any better, until they do. You are not looking for a serious relationship either, except you are 25 years older, so who’s the manchild?

There are different men who date younger here. I’ve dated (and was married to) women my own age at State, Senate Staff, Wash Post, DOJ, World Bank, etc and have zero doubt I’ll shamelessly slide back to a similar relationship once I age out of being able to attract 22yos. (With the caveat that disease or tragedy can strike anyone at any time, so perhaps I’ll get my comeuppance)

Money will always attract 22 ups temporarily. Your “ability to attract” them is neither here nor there. You are just an experience for them to look back on with a raised eyebrow. It doesn’t change the fact that you yourself are a douche.

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

This post is pretty much on brand for older men who date much younger. So much so that I wonder if it’s a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

No one mature wants to date you silly. You’re a loser. It’s so funny but sad how you seem to think you’re a prize women are fighting over. The only ones who will date (and dump) you are the ones who don’t know any better, until they do. You are not looking for a serious relationship either, except you are 25 years older, so who’s the manchild?

There are different men who date younger here. I’ve dated (and was married to) women my own age at State, Senate Staff, Wash Post, DOJ, World Bank, etc and have zero doubt I’ll shamelessly slide back to a similar relationship once I age out of being able to attract 22yos. (With the caveat that disease or tragedy can strike anyone at any time, so perhaps I’ll get my comeuppance)

Money will always attract 22 ups temporarily. Your “ability to attract” them is neither here nor there. You are just an experience for them to look back on with a raised eyebrow. It doesn’t change the fact that you yourself are a douche.

Guy here. I’m happily married and not dating, so I don’t really have a horse in this race. In the May/December relationships I know of, the guys are definitely not rich. Honestly, they probably don’t even have a good credit score. Lol. It seems like some women just like older men - my sister in law has always been one of them. People have prederences - go figure.

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

No one mature wants to date you silly. You’re a loser. It’s so funny but sad how you seem to think you’re a prize women are fighting over. The only ones who will date (and dump) you are the ones who don’t know any better, until they do. You are not looking for a serious relationship either, except you are 25 years older, so who’s the manchild?

There are different men who date younger here. I’ve dated (and was married to) women my own age at State, Senate Staff, Wash Post, DOJ, World Bank, etc and have zero doubt I’ll shamelessly slide back to a similar relationship once I age out of being able to attract 22yos. (With the caveat that disease or tragedy can strike anyone at any time, so perhaps I’ll get my comeuppance)

Money will always attract 22 ups temporarily. Your “ability to attract” them is neither here nor there. You are just an experience for them to look back on with a raised eyebrow. It doesn’t change the fact that you yourself are a douche.

Guy here. I’m happily married and not dating, so I don’t really have a horse in this race. In the May/December relationships I know of, the guys are definitely not rich. Honestly, they probably don’t even have a good credit score. Lol. It seems like some women just like older men - my sister in law has always been one of them. People have prederences - go figure.

*preferences*

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

No one mature wants to date you silly. You’re a loser. It’s so funny but sad how you seem to think you’re a prize women are fighting over. The only ones who will date (and dump) you are the ones who don’t know any better, until they do. You are not looking for a serious relationship either, except you are 25 years older, so who’s the manchild?

There are different men who date younger here. I’ve dated (and was married to) women my own age at State, Senate Staff, Wash Post, DOJ, World Bank, etc and have zero doubt I’ll shamelessly slide back to a similar relationship once I age out of being able to attract 22yos. (With the caveat that disease or tragedy can strike anyone at any time, so perhaps I’ll get my comeuppance)

Money will always attract 22 ups temporarily. Your “ability to attract” them is neither here nor there. You are just an experience for them to look back on with a raised eyebrow. It doesn’t change the fact that you yourself are a douche.

If that’s how you want to cope, fine. The women I’ve dated in the past remain friends and have a different impression of me.

And I was autocorrected to shamelessly, but I meant seamlessly.

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

No one mature wants to date you silly. You’re a loser. It’s so funny but sad how you seem to think you’re a prize women are fighting over. The only ones who will date (and dump) you are the ones who don’t know any better, until they do. You are not looking for a serious relationship either, except you are 25 years older, so who’s the manchild?

There are different men who date younger here. I’ve dated (and was married to) women my own age at State, Senate Staff, Wash Post, DOJ, World Bank, etc and have zero doubt I’ll shamelessly slide back to a similar relationship once I age out of being able to attract 22yos. (With the caveat that disease or tragedy can strike anyone at any time, so perhaps I’ll get my comeuppance)

Money will always attract 22 ups temporarily. Your “ability to attract” them is neither here nor there. You are just an experience for them to look back on with a raised eyebrow. It doesn’t change the fact that you yourself are a douche.

Guy here. I’m happily married and not dating, so I don’t really have a horse in this race. In the May/December relationships I know of, the guys are definitely not rich. Honestly, they probably don’t even have a good credit score. Lol. It seems like some women just like older men - my sister in law has always been one of them. People have prederences - go figure.

May / December is different from 45/20. No one here is arguing about 40/65. We’re talking about 45/20.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve always assumed there was a fundamental flaw or personality deficiency in a man who would go for a woman that much younger than him. Friends’ experiences have generally proven this to be true

There is. It’s wild to see how the op doesn’t get it.

OP. Oh, I get it. We're divorced because of his flaws. It's just gross.

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

No one mature wants to date you silly. You’re a loser. It’s so funny but sad how you seem to think you’re a prize women are fighting over. The only ones who will date (and dump) you are the ones who don’t know any better, until they do. You are not looking for a serious relationship either, except you are 25 years older, so who’s the manchild?

There are different men who date younger here. I’ve dated (and was married to) women my own age at State, Senate Staff, Wash Post, DOJ, World Bank, etc and have zero doubt I’ll shamelessly slide back to a similar relationship once I age out of being able to attract 22yos. (With the caveat that disease or tragedy can strike anyone at any time, so perhaps I’ll get my comeuppance)

Money will always attract 22 ups temporarily. Your “ability to attract” them is neither here nor there. You are just an experience for them to look back on with a raised eyebrow. It doesn’t change the fact that you yourself are a douche.

If that’s how you want to cope, fine. The women I’ve dated in the past remain friends and have a different impression of me.

And I was autocorrected to shamelessly, but I meant seamlessly.

lol I “cope” by being happily married to a high earning man 5 years younger while I work when I want to and raise my family well, and to recognize a sleazeball when they see one. Married in our thirties and going on 15 years together. Enjoy becoming a laughing stock.

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Anonymous wrote:What is so strange about this thread is that the old women complaining about me dating young women are the cause of my relationship with my gf. Those old women raised the loser 20s sons who can't get into a relationship with 20s women.

Here is what my gf has said about young men her age: they are all on drugs, they have poor manners, they all lack ambition and are lazy, they are all anti-intellectual, they are all mommy's boys, they are all polyamorous, and they all state they are not looking for a serious relationship or any relationship beyond hooking up. For my gf any single one of those is a deal breaker.

So thank you DC Urban Moms, for being such terrible mothers that I am able to date young women. If you weren't so awful, I'd be dating you.

No one mature wants to date you silly. You’re a loser. It’s so funny but sad how you seem to think you’re a prize women are fighting over. The only ones who will date (and dump) you are the ones who don’t know any better, until they do. You are not looking for a serious relationship either, except you are 25 years older, so who’s the manchild?

There are different men who date younger here. I’ve dated (and was married to) women my own age at State, Senate Staff, Wash Post, DOJ, World Bank, etc and have zero doubt I’ll shamelessly slide back to a similar relationship once I age out of being able to attract 22yos. (With the caveat that disease or tragedy can strike anyone at any time, so perhaps I’ll get my comeuppance)

Money will always attract 22 ups temporarily. Your “ability to attract” them is neither here nor there. You are just an experience for them to look back on with a raised eyebrow. It doesn’t change the fact that you yourself are a douche.

Guy here. I’m happily married and not dating, so I don’t really have a horse in this race. In the May/December relationships I know of, the guys are definitely not rich. Honestly, they probably don’t even have a good credit score. Lol. It seems like some women just like older men - my sister in law has always been one of them. People have prederences - go figure.

May / December is different from 45/20. No one here is arguing about 40/65. We’re talking about 45/20.

45-50/25 are the ones I see. I don’t really know anyone dating someone under drinking age.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are hard wired to want women in their early 20's. It's just biology. I date younger women because I want them and I can get them, don't care if that pisses off the feminists.

Do you have daughters?

I find it hard to believe men who have daughters and thus realize how very young women in their EARLY 20s really are would feel okay with this.

And I am a man. My colleague, who was in his late 40’s, started up an affair with a 20 year old. I could never look at him the same way; it’s completely predatory. But he doesn’t have daughters, and I think that might be why he could wrap his mind around it

This. They are mostly not really adults on the inside no matter what the outside look like. They may be intellectually precocious but emotionally are usually very young still.

Perhaps they should not be allowed to vote then.

Or drink, or have jobs, or go out in public without a responsible adult as their protector / duenna.

Actually he is literally talking about people who aren’t old enough to drink or graduate from college. You want your collegesged daughter sleeping with a 45 year old promiscuous slime who gives her an STD?

He is literally talking about "very young women in their EARLY 20s". They may be old enough to drink - but it hardly matters because we all know they ARE drinking anyway.

When my daughter goes to college, I will have ZERO control over who she sleeps with. She will do whatever she wants. There is no point in me even thinking about it.

No one is talking about you needing to control your daughter. People are wondering how middle-aged men feel morally okay “dating” young women in their early 20s, because anyone who has ANY context at all realizes that how emotionally young they are at that stage.

I am morally ok with any adult consensually dating any other adult. If you are not morally ok with that, then you have to argue that adult women need to be controlled in some way, to prevent them from dating objectionable men, which you consider immoral, otherwise your moral position is futile and senseless.

You can't stop women from having sex with whoever they want, so you might as well not be mad about it.

DP.. wouldn't you find it weird if your DD was serious about a man who might be older than you, her father. That's just so weird, and gross, tbh. You would have to wonder what happened in her childhood that would make her go after someone *that* old.

My DD isn't old enough to date yet. When she is, I hope she makes good choices. But the point is - and I don't understand why this is so hard for everyone to get - is what I think about it won't matter a bit. She will do whatever she wants.

When I was in grad school in my mid 20s, I knew women in their 20s who dated guys in their 40s. I knew those women well enough to know there wasn't anything that "happened" in their childhoods to make them date much older guys. They just liked those guys at that time. They also dated guys their own age.

It's not even like "dating a much older guy" is the only or the worst mistake a woman in her 20s can make. Why are you so hung up on this?

of course she will date whomever she wants. That wasn't the question.

The question is, as a dad, would you not feel weird if your DD was in a serious relationship with a man who might be older than you or your age? Would you not worry about what would happen to her when he is in his 70s/80s while she is still pretty young? If you say you don't care what she does, then I guess I can understand why stuff like this wouldn't bother you. But, I would definitely think the younger woman has some issue if she is in a serious relationship with such an old man.