Question for older men who date much younger women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Why did you need to date so many mid 20s women, and didn’t stop on one ? Are you poly or smth ?

They weren't concurrent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Why did you need to date so many mid 20s women, and didn’t stop on one ? Are you poly or smth ?

Writing “something” as “smth” doesn't make you seem younger, PP.

-NP

You still didn’t answer the question. I wonder what makes people date that much younger. I date within 5 years of my own age. No, 20 years younger men don’t have many common interests with me, or even appear sexually attractive.
My BF is a few years younger, we f…k like 20 year olds. He comes 2-3 times, I do 4-6 a night. Sessions 2-3 hrs long. We are together over a year.

Why would a man go to events to hook up with multiple 20 years younger women, and what do they get from these short lived flings ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Why did you need to date so many mid 20s women, and didn’t stop on one ? Are you poly or smth ?

They weren't concurrent.

Exactly, a sequence of multiple short lived relationships. Even sex is a developing story, partners have to grow into this to truly enjoy. Don’t get it as a woman at all. Do you have some sort of hurt ego by ex wife ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you guys meeting these younger women on the normal apps (Tinder/Bumble/Hinge) or in some other way?

Bumble and Hinge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you guys meeting these younger women on the normal apps (Tinder/Bumble/Hinge) or in some other way?

Bumble and Hinge.

Basically these women find them guess what they are looking for of course a big heart and wonderful personality !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm over 50. I don't think older women are all hags. I've gone on dates with women 5-10 years older whom I found very attractive. I've been in a serious relationship with one of them. We connected emotionally and physically.

More recently, though, I've mostly dated women 13-22 years younger than I am. I definitely go out in public with them. It hasn't been embarrassing. They haven't met my kids but the one I'm with now probably will.

In the last year I've been in relationships with two women more than 20 years younger. I had very strong emotional connections with both. Unfortunately one of them really liked very rough sex and I'm not into that. Our sexual chemistry was terrible. Fortunately the other one and I are compatible in pretty much every way. I've stopped commenting on her age because my comments made her angry. She told me she was an adult and knew exactly what she was doing when she decided to be with me. She wasn't embarrassed to be seen with me but she found me condescending when I talked about her age compared to mine. She also says she finds me easy to talk to and is very sexually attracted to me.

She obviously is. Often she wakes me up to have sex a second time. I didn't know whether I could do that at my age but I can with her.

Most of the women I've dated have been emotionally needy. They all live within their means. I haven't paid rent or car repair costs, but I do pay for dinner or tickets when we go somewhere. Some of them have nice homes and some are living in small apartments.

They drop you once they figured you won't pay rent or car repairs, and won't marry them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You still didn’t answer the question. I wonder what makes people date that much younger. I date within 5 years of my own age. No, 20 years younger men don’t have many common interests with me, or even appear sexually attractive.
My BF is a few years younger, we f…k like 20 year olds. He comes 2-3 times, I do 4-6 a night. Sessions 2-3 hrs long. We are together over a year.

Why would a man go to events to hook up with multiple 20 years younger women, and what do they get from these short lived flings ?

Yes, what man would want sex with a younger, beautiful woman? That's incomprehensible!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You still didn’t answer the question. I wonder what makes people date that much younger. I date within 5 years of my own age. No, 20 years younger men don’t have many common interests with me, or even appear sexually attractive.
My BF is a few years younger, we f…k like 20 year olds. He comes 2-3 times, I do 4-6 a night. Sessions 2-3 hrs long. We are together over a year.

Why would a man go to events to hook up with multiple 20 years younger women, and what do they get from these short lived flings ?

Yes, what man would want sex with a younger, beautiful woman? That's incomprehensible!

Yes, some men are only interested in their own pleasure. They don’t care/or want to believe that their younger partner is faking it because they haven’t put the time and built the trust necessary for a mutually fulfilling sex life. A woman their age might actually be too sexually sophisticated for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You still didn’t answer the question. I wonder what makes people date that much younger. I date within 5 years of my own age. No, 20 years younger men don’t have many common interests with me, or even appear sexually attractive.
My BF is a few years younger, we f…k like 20 year olds. He comes 2-3 times, I do 4-6 a night. Sessions 2-3 hrs long. We are together over a year.

Why would a man go to events to hook up with multiple 20 years younger women, and what do they get from these short lived flings ?

Yes, what man would want sex with a younger, beautiful woman? That's incomprehensible!

What's incomprehensible is why you seem to believe that only 20 yo younger women are beautiful or sexy. Not 1 year, 5 years, 10 years younger. It MUST be 20!

Seems like early ED. A man should be able to get hard NP with an attractive fit woman of any age between 18-65

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Especially if there is an obvious age difference (like you could easily be mistaken for her dad), and said young woman came into your life in a “needy” position. Do you go out in public on dates? Do your friends and family know about her? Do you see a long-term relationship or marriage happening? Is it just to get through to the next “real” relationship? What do you have to talk about?

Circumstances. 23 year age difference. Definitely wasn't looking for that. Nothing online or anything like that. Wasn't even looking. Recently divorced. Bad divorce too. Just clicked with someone. Self aware enough to know that this is not quite right. Will not be introducing her to fam. There will be no marriage. Have been totally straight up about that. It's a here and now situation. Enjoy each other's company and that's good enough for now. When she meets her pediatric neurosurgeon or whoever it is that's right for her, I will have no problem letting go. Moment in time situation. But it's fun in the meantime. Genuinely enjoy her company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Especially if there is an obvious age difference (like you could easily be mistaken for her dad), and said young woman came into your life in a “needy” position. Do you go out in public on dates? Do your friends and family know about her? Do you see a long-term relationship or marriage happening? Is it just to get through to the next “real” relationship? What do you have to talk about?

Circumstances. 23 year age difference. Definitely wasn't looking for that. Nothing online or anything like that. Wasn't even looking. Recently divorced. Bad divorce too. Just clicked with someone. Self aware enough to know that this is not quite right. Will not be introducing her to fam. There will be no marriage. Have been totally straight up about that. It's a here and now situation. Enjoy each other's company and that's good enough for now. When she meets her pediatric neurosurgeon or whoever it is that's right for her, I will have no problem letting go. Moment in time situation. But it's fun in the meantime. Genuinely enjoy her company.

This is the reality of most guys that I know that are with much younger women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Why did you need to date so many mid 20s women, and didn’t stop on one ? Are you poly or smth ?

They weren't concurrent.

Exactly, a sequence of multiple short lived relationships. Even sex is a developing story, partners have to grow into this to truly enjoy. Don’t get it as a woman at all. Do you have some sort of hurt ego by ex wife ?

He doesn’t think about his ex at all.

Very predictable that this thread is older women seething that if men date younger, there’s something wrong with him, or her, or both of them, lmao.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you guys meeting these younger women on the normal apps (Tinder/Bumble/Hinge) or in some other way?

Bumble and Hinge.

Basically these women find them guess what they are looking for of course a big heart and wonderful personality !

Thanks for the laugh!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You still didn’t answer the question. I wonder what makes people date that much younger. I date within 5 years of my own age. No, 20 years younger men don’t have many common interests with me, or even appear sexually attractive.
My BF is a few years younger, we f…k like 20 year olds. He comes 2-3 times, I do 4-6 a night. Sessions 2-3 hrs long. We are together over a year.

Why would a man go to events to hook up with multiple 20 years younger women, and what do they get from these short lived flings ?

Yes, what man would want sex with a younger, beautiful woman? That's incomprehensible!

What's incomprehensible is why you seem to believe that only 20 yo younger women are beautiful or sexy. Not 1 year, 5 years, 10 years younger. It MUST be 20!

Seems like early ED. A man should be able to get hard NP with an attractive fit woman of any age between 18-65

It's not me, it's society. Go look at the Victoria's Secret models or the actresses in the latest films. You'll notice a trend age-wise.

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman in my 40’s and I don’t get why people obsess over this. It’s icky, and I can see why people are grossed out when it’s their dad or ex-husband. But otherwise, it’s none of my business. People are gross and weird, and I certainly don’t want the job. Sometimes it’s sex work, sometimes it’s sex-work-adjacent, sometimes a young woman is just doing it for fun. All are fine with me. Being young and dating young people can be a drag. An older guy can be fun, for a time. Are they ultimately icky? Yes. But I’m not here to tell people what to do. Lots of things people do in relationships are icky but harder to see.