Question for older men who date much younger women

[Anonymous]

Live and let live. Others’ dating preferences don’t affect you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

See, like this guy is already unconventional, right? A lot of mid-40’s people are raising children. So what is he going to do, date mid-40’s moms? He’s probably not trying to form a long term partnership leading to a family at this point. So women in their mid-20’s make sense, because neither are they (or at least not with him). There might be older women on the same page out there, but they are probably fewer and harder to find. Most would be divorced. A divorced person still has a family, which really complicates dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Normal apps. Not Tinder, which didn't work well for me.

[Anonymous]

It’s just as easy to pretend to be interested in the conversation of a hot 20-something woman as a wrinkled, sagging 40-something woman, and the payoff for successfully convincing her you’re interested in what she thinks is much higher.

[Anonymous]

The women I date, whether middle aged or younger, all want a real emotional connection, as do I, but they all care a lot about physical appearance and professional success.

The most attractive women in their 40s and 50s tend to choose men who are very attractive because they (the men) are athletic or byprofessionally successful. These women aren't necessarily sex maniacs or gold diggers. They are just going with the men they find most appealing.

I'm decent looking and fairly successful professionally so I'm doing ok with women 20 years younger to 10 years older. But I always know there's a risk any woman I'm with will try to upgrade. It's been a sad aspect of dating. I know this is tough for the women too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s just as easy to pretend to be interested in the conversation of a hot 20-something woman as a wrinkled, sagging 40-something woman, and the payoff for successfully convincing her you’re interested in what she thinks is much higher.

Who told you all 40-something women are wrinkled? Maybe 60 y.o. women are, but there are many women in 40-50s who take a very good care of themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The women I date, whether middle aged or younger, all want a real emotional connection, as do I, but they all care a lot about physical appearance and professional success.

The most attractive women in their 40s and 50s tend to choose men who are very attractive because they (the men) are athletic or byprofessionally successful. These women aren't necessarily sex maniacs or gold diggers. They are just going with the men they find most appealing.

I'm decent looking and fairly successful professionally so I'm doing ok with women 20 years younger to 10 years older. But I always know there's a risk any woman I'm with will try to upgrade. It's been a sad aspect of dating. I know this is tough for the women too.

Maybe you just can't get past "dating" stage to a commitment stage with someone.If she thinks you're not relationship oriented yes, she will keep looking. Women in their 40-50s don't want to be left single in their 60s. I hope to be solidly re-partnered by my 50, which is why I am dating. Not necessarily remarrying but sharing the same household and life plans for sure.

But the same applies to 20 something: they want to get married at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman in my 40’s and I don’t get why people obsess over this. It’s icky, and I can see why people are grossed out when it’s their dad or ex-husband. But otherwise, it’s none of my business. People are gross and weird, and I certainly don’t want the job. Sometimes it’s sex work, sometimes it’s sex-work-adjacent, sometimes a young woman is just doing it for fun. All are fine with me. Being young and dating young people can be a drag. An older guy can be fun, for a time. Are they ultimately icky? Yes. But I’m not here to tell people what to do. Lots of things people do in relationships are icky but harder to see.

Icky? Like when someone has a boogie?

But we don’t think men can have adult conversations with women in their 20’s?

[Anonymous]

It mostly the comingling of her firm, young body with the withered flesh, sagging moobs, and flabby belly that makes me want to vomit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It mostly the comingling of her firm, young body with the withered flesh, sagging moobs, and flabby belly that makes me want to vomit.

It’s in your head. Many 40+ women don’t have what you described, and do my mother it’s not even there at 70. You must be gay or have ED

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The women I date, whether middle aged or younger, all want a real emotional connection, as do I, but they all care a lot about physical appearance and professional success.

The most attractive women in their 40s and 50s tend to choose men who are very attractive because they (the men) are athletic or byprofessionally successful. These women aren't necessarily sex maniacs or gold diggers. They are just going with the men they find most appealing.

I'm decent looking and fairly successful professionally so I'm doing ok with women 20 years younger to 10 years older. But I always know there's a risk any woman I'm with will try to upgrade. It's been a sad aspect of dating. I know this is tough for the women too.

Maybe you just can't get past "dating" stage to a commitment stage with someone.If she thinks you're not relationship oriented yes, she will keep looking. Women in their 40-50s don't want to be left single in their 60s. I hope to be solidly re-partnered by my 50, which is why I am dating. Not necessarily remarrying but sharing the same household and life plans for sure.

But the same applies to 20 something: they want to get married at some point.

Same here but the men who want to date me are in their 60s which means I’d be alone in my 60s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It mostly the comingling of her firm, young body with the withered flesh, sagging moobs, and flabby belly that makes me want to vomit.

It’s in your head. Many 40+ women don’t have what you described, and do my mother it’s not even there at 70. You must be gay or have ED

This. It’s like men have no idea that womens bodues don’t age the way their faces/necks and hands do. I’m 51 and my body still looks 36.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The women I date, whether middle aged or younger, all want a real emotional connection, as do I, but they all care a lot about physical appearance and professional success.

The most attractive women in their 40s and 50s tend to choose men who are very attractive because they (the men) are athletic or byprofessionally successful. These women aren't necessarily sex maniacs or gold diggers. They are just going with the men they find most appealing.

I'm decent looking and fairly successful professionally so I'm doing ok with women 20 years younger to 10 years older. But I always know there's a risk any woman I'm with will try to upgrade. It's been a sad aspect of dating. I know this is tough for the women too.

Maybe you just can't get past "dating" stage to a commitment stage with someone.If she thinks you're not relationship oriented yes, she will keep looking. Women in their 40-50s don't want to be left single in their 60s. I hope to be solidly re-partnered by my 50, which is why I am dating. Not necessarily remarrying but sharing the same household and life plans for sure.

But the same applies to 20 something: they want to get married at some point.

Same here but the men who want to date me are in their 60s which means I’d be alone in my 60s.

So would be those 20 yo women if their 40 yo dates marry them. I’m 45 very slim and young looking, have no issues dating within 5 years of my own age. Current BF of 6 months is 1.5 years younger and very accomplished and mature. Being slim on dating market does change the game. You’ve got to be super slim, not just normal size. Men associate thin with youthfulness. Few women over 40 are like that but they attract majority of serious relationship minded men. I don’t want to brag, but I had 2-3 weekly dates and dozens of inquiries per day when I was looking. Ended up short listing an early 50s man and a 44 yo, eventually settling with the younger one. I actually thought the 50s yo guy was a better match sexually (took him longer to finish giving me more Os, younger men carry intercourse faster). But I had more in common (interests, lifestyle, aspirations) with someone around my own age. The 50s man didn’t believe in remarriage and seemed to have too much baggage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It mostly the comingling of her firm, young body with the withered flesh, sagging moobs, and flabby belly that makes me want to vomit.

It’s in your head. Many 40+ women don’t have what you described, and do my mother it’s not even there at 70. You must be gay or have ED

On DCUM anyone who disagrees with you is a gay racist misogynist with ED. It is quite fascinating how when liberal women want to put down a man they call him a homosexual.

And there is a reason that actresses and prostitutes have to retire once they are over 40.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I’m 45 very slim and young looking, have no issues dating within 5 years of my own age. Current BF of 6 months is 1.5 years younger and very accomplished and mature. Being slim on dating market does change the game. You’ve got to be super slim, not just normal size. Men associate thin with youthfulness. Few women over 40 are like that but they attract majority of serious relationship minded men. I don’t want to brag, but I had 2-3 weekly dates and dozens of inquiries per day when I was looking

I have no doubt you can get plenty of dates, but you are the exception. Most women in their 40s are not as attractive as you.

I just got back from church and was looking at the families with parents in their 50s, usually with teenaged or college-aged kids with them. Overall, the men looked more attractive than the women. More fit, better dressed. Many of the men had grey hair, but they wore it well.