Bringing toddler to lunch with friends

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Anonymous wrote:Ladies, I’m not saying that men NEVER meet up with their male friends for lunch outside of work. Of course it happens. But not as much as women. It’s just not a thing. There ARE some differences between male and female social interactions you know. Stop getting all worked up over something so obvious.

Huh? Have you been in public lately? Time to get out of your mommys basement. Plenty of men have lunch with their male friends outside of work. Do you actually believe his doesn't happen?

DP. It’s rare. It’s why you’ve heard “ladies who lunch” and not “gentlemen who lunch.”

Really though this argument is a waste of time and distracting.

Ok Gradma! Calmmmm down

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, I’m not saying that men NEVER meet up with their male friends for lunch outside of work. Of course it happens. But not as much as women. It’s just not a thing. There ARE some differences between male and female social interactions you know. Stop getting all worked up over something so obvious.

I never listen to anyone who begins their speech with "ladies."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ladies, I’m not saying that men NEVER meet up with their male friends for lunch outside of work. Of course it happens. But not as much as women. It’s just not a thing. There ARE some differences between male and female social interactions you know. Stop getting all worked up over something so obvious.

I never listen to anyone who begins their speech with "ladies."

Why does it always sound like Mansplaining 101

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, I’m not saying that men NEVER meet up with their male friends for lunch outside of work. Of course it happens. But not as much as women. It’s just not a thing. There ARE some differences between male and female social interactions you know. Stop getting all worked up over something so obvious.

Huh? Have you been in public lately? Time to get out of your mommys basement. Plenty of men have lunch with their male friends outside of work. Do you actually believe his doesn't happen?

DP. It’s rare. It’s why you’ve heard “ladies who lunch” and not “gentlemen who lunch.”

Really though this argument is a waste of time and distracting.

oh FFS. "Ladies who lunch" is from the 1970's. Are you seriously trying to use that to say men don't have lunch with their friends? Grasping at straws or what.

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NP but my dad had regular lunches with a group of his friends (not co-workers) and my husband does the same. So do I for that matter. We both work full-time and we have two kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ladies, I’m not saying that men NEVER meet up with their male friends for lunch outside of work. Of course it happens. But not as much as women. It’s just not a thing. There ARE some differences between male and female social interactions you know. Stop getting all worked up over something so obvious.

Huh? Have you been in public lately? Time to get out of your mommys basement. Plenty of men have lunch with their male friends outside of work. Do you actually believe his doesn't happen?

Not really. It’s like how they don’t go on walks together. It’s out of fear they will be assumed to be gay.

Also considering many men can’t plan or manage a schedule, they are going to struggle to get friends together at a specific time and place.

This made me spit my water out. My husband definitely goes for walks with his guy friends (we all have dogs and it's an easy activity to do that doesn't require a shower afterwards and can therefore be done before or during work as a quick break) and I can guarantee you they're not all gay. What a weird way to live that this would be your assumption about men who walk together.

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Any husbands have this issue?

They definitely aren't dragging kids to meet up with their friends ..

Husbands don’t go out to lunch with their guy friends. Nice try though.

Uh yes they do. Does having a penis mean they don't eat lunch?

I never said guys don’t eat lunch. I said guys don’t get together with their friends for lunch. They just don’t.

They do though. My husband works DT and if one of his friends is down there they will always message him if he wants to go to lunch. My BIL works PT and will go golfing and then lunch with his friends. Either you don't know men or you are a man with no friends. Other men do have lunch together on occasion. Odd you're trying to say that none of the 4 billion men in the world engage in this wild activity.

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I know tons of men who eat lunch with their friends. Or breakfast or dinner. Your husband must not have an friends. (Not PP's husband but PPP's husband)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, I’m not saying that men NEVER meet up with their male friends for lunch outside of work. Of course it happens. But not as much as women. It’s just not a thing. There ARE some differences between male and female social interactions you know. Stop getting all worked up over something so obvious.

People are getting worked up because YOU ARE WRONG.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch. If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee. Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver. If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.

That's your choice then. My choice is to spend time with you when you actually GAF about spending time with me. So, kind of goes both ways.

Meh. Would you demand a friend use annual leave to meet you for lunch? A SAHM’s job is to care for her child during the work day. If you are rigid enough to demand a SAHM’s undivided attention during a midweek lunch and are unavailable on evenings or weekends (when the father could watch the child), then yeah, the friendship is over.

Oh, so you don't eat lunch during the workday? That's funny. I do. And sometimes I do it with friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Any husbands have this issue?

They definitely aren't dragging kids to meet up with their friends ..

Husbands don’t go out to lunch with their guy friends. Nice try though.

Uh yes they do. Does having a penis mean they don't eat lunch?

I never said guys don’t eat lunch. I said guys don’t get together with their friends for lunch. They just don’t.

They do though. My husband works DT and if one of his friends is down there they will always message him if he wants to go to lunch. My BIL works PT and will go golfing and then lunch with his friends. Either you don't know men or you are a man with no friends. Other men do have lunch together on occasion. Odd you're trying to say that none of the 4 billion men in the world engage in this wild activity.

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I know tons of men who eat lunch with their friends. Or breakfast or dinner. Your husband must not have an friends. (Not PP's husband but PPP's husband)

It's such clear projection by some guy terminally online. A homophobic terminally online incel with no friends =\

Like, there's a whole male loneliness epidemic, but you can't go for a walk with another man because - GAY. Self inflicted loneliness!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch. If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee. Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver. If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.

Ok. Most people don't want to go to an adult lunch with one toddler in attendance. That's your call as a SAHM to not find a way to socialize with people without your kid.

It's dependent on the situation.

There are times where it is extremely rude to bring kids along, especially younger kids under 10. Some people posting here are selfish and abusing their friendships.

There are other times where it is rude to not allow kids, and wanting to exclude a friend's kids is extremely rude.

Really depends. It's not 100% either way.

Please tell me these times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, I’m not saying that men NEVER meet up with their male friends for lunch outside of work. Of course it happens. But not as much as women. It’s just not a thing. There ARE some differences between male and female social interactions you know. Stop getting all worked up over something so obvious.

Huh? Have you been in public lately? Time to get out of your mommys basement. Plenty of men have lunch with their male friends outside of work. Do you actually believe his doesn't happen?

Not really. It’s like how they don’t go on walks together. It’s out of fear they will be assumed to be gay.

Also considering many men can’t plan or manage a schedule, they are going to struggle to get friends together at a specific time and place.

This made me spit my water out. My husband definitely goes for walks with his guy friends (we all have dogs and it's an easy activity to do that doesn't require a shower afterwards and can therefore be done before or during work as a quick break) and I can guarantee you they're not all gay. What a weird way to live that this would be your assumption about men who walk together.

I’d question your husband’s sexuality. I live in a liberal suburb and have not once seen two straight men going on a walk together. There is even a recent meme that golf was invented so men can go on walks together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, I’m not saying that men NEVER meet up with their male friends for lunch outside of work. Of course it happens. But not as much as women. It’s just not a thing. There ARE some differences between male and female social interactions you know. Stop getting all worked up over something so obvious.

Huh? Have you been in public lately? Time to get out of your mommys basement. Plenty of men have lunch with their male friends outside of work. Do you actually believe his doesn't happen?

Not really. It’s like how they don’t go on walks together. It’s out of fear they will be assumed to be gay.

Also considering many men can’t plan or manage a schedule, they are going to struggle to get friends together at a specific time and place.

This made me spit my water out. My husband definitely goes for walks with his guy friends (we all have dogs and it's an easy activity to do that doesn't require a shower afterwards and can therefore be done before or during work as a quick break) and I can guarantee you they're not all gay. What a weird way to live that this would be your assumption about men who walk together.

I’d question your husband’s sexuality. I live in a liberal suburb and have not once seen two straight men going on a walk together. There is even a recent meme that golf was invented so men can go on walks together.

Doesn't sound like you get out much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, I’m not saying that men NEVER meet up with their male friends for lunch outside of work. Of course it happens. But not as much as women. It’s just not a thing. There ARE some differences between male and female social interactions you know. Stop getting all worked up over something so obvious.

Huh? Have you been in public lately? Time to get out of your mommys basement. Plenty of men have lunch with their male friends outside of work. Do you actually believe his doesn't happen?

Not really. It’s like how they don’t go on walks together. It’s out of fear they will be assumed to be gay.

Also considering many men can’t plan or manage a schedule, they are going to struggle to get friends together at a specific time and place.

This made me spit my water out. My husband definitely goes for walks with his guy friends (we all have dogs and it's an easy activity to do that doesn't require a shower afterwards and can therefore be done before or during work as a quick break) and I can guarantee you they're not all gay. What a weird way to live that this would be your assumption about men who walk together.

I’d question your husband’s sexuality. I live in a liberal suburb and have not once seen two straight men going on a walk together. There is even a recent meme that golf was invented so men can go on walks together.

Huh. My husband goes on walks with my dad when we are in town. You seem to live in a sheltered bubble making assumptions because you have so little contact with other people whether it be for walking, having lunch, or anything else for that matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch. If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee. Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver. If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.

Ok. Most people don't want to go to an adult lunch with one toddler in attendance. That's your call as a SAHM to not find a way to socialize with people without your kid.

It's dependent on the situation.

There are times where it is extremely rude to bring kids along, especially younger kids under 10. Some people posting here are selfish and abusing their friendships.

There are other times where it is rude to not allow kids, and wanting to exclude a friend's kids is extremely rude.

Really depends. It's not 100% either way.

Please tell me these times.

+1 Please share ..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch. If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee. Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver. If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.

Ok. Most people don't want to go to an adult lunch with one toddler in attendance. That's your call as a SAHM to not find a way to socialize with people without your kid.

It's dependent on the situation.

There are times where it is extremely rude to bring kids along, especially younger kids under 10. Some people posting here are selfish and abusing their friendships.

There are other times where it is rude to not allow kids, and wanting to exclude a friend's kids is extremely rude.

Really depends. It's not 100% either way.

Please tell me these times.

+1 Please share ..

Pretty sure the answer for this PP will be: weddings.