Bringing toddler to lunch with friends

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Anonymous wrote:I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch. If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee. Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver. If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.

That's your choice then. My choice is to spend time with you when you actually GAF about spending time with me. So, kind of goes both ways.

Meh. Would you demand a friend use annual leave to meet you for lunch? A SAHM’s job is to care for her child during the work day. If you are rigid enough to demand a SAHM’s undivided attention during a midweek lunch and are unavailable on evenings or weekends (when the father could watch the child), then yeah, the friendship is over.

Oh, so you don't eat lunch during the workday? That's funny. I do. And sometimes I do it with friends.

Of course I do, but I do it while watching my children.

Sigh. Then the question wasn't for you. The PP discussed "demanding" a friend use annual leave to meet her for lunch. Those of us who work also, shockingly, eat lunch. So I don't take leave in order to dine with friends. It's not rocket science.

Sure, but how long is your lunch break? Mine is 30 minutes, which isn’t really long enough to walk to even a fast-casual place downtown, order, eat, and return to work. If the friend wanted longer than that, or to meet at a sit-down restaurant, I’d have to take annual leave.

Not everyone works at target and has to clock back in after 30m.

I apologize for being misleading—I don’t work at Target. I’m a federal employee. I thought most federal agencies had similar rules regarding lunch break.

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Anonymous wrote:I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch. If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee. Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver. If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.

That's your choice then. My choice is to spend time with you when you actually GAF about spending time with me. So, kind of goes both ways.

Meh. Would you demand a friend use annual leave to meet you for lunch? A SAHM’s job is to care for her child during the work day. If you are rigid enough to demand a SAHM’s undivided attention during a midweek lunch and are unavailable on evenings or weekends (when the father could watch the child), then yeah, the friendship is over.

Oh, so you don't eat lunch during the workday? That's funny. I do. And sometimes I do it with friends.

Of course I do, but I do it while watching my children.

Sigh. Then the question wasn't for you. The PP discussed "demanding" a friend use annual leave to meet her for lunch. Those of us who work also, shockingly, eat lunch. So I don't take leave in order to dine with friends. It's not rocket science.

Sure, but how long is your lunch break? Mine is 30 minutes, which isn’t really long enough to walk to even a fast-casual place downtown, order, eat, and return to work. If the friend wanted longer than that, or to meet at a sit-down restaurant, I’d have to take annual leave.

Not everyone works at target and has to clock back in after 30m.

Even in most office jobs, lunch is only an hour. That’s hardly enough time to have a leisurely lunch with friends.

An hour is plenty, no one said it has to be “leisurely”. Stop trying to move the goal posts.

Found the Target/fast food employee!

?? Do target/fast food employees normally get hour long breaks? I'm confused at this 'gotcha'.

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Anonymous wrote:I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch. If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee. Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver. If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.

That's your choice then. My choice is to spend time with you when you actually GAF about spending time with me. So, kind of goes both ways.

Meh. Would you demand a friend use annual leave to meet you for lunch? A SAHM’s job is to care for her child during the work day. If you are rigid enough to demand a SAHM’s undivided attention during a midweek lunch and are unavailable on evenings or weekends (when the father could watch the child), then yeah, the friendship is over.

Oh, so you don't eat lunch during the workday? That's funny. I do. And sometimes I do it with friends.

Of course I do, but I do it while watching my children.

Sigh. Then the question wasn't for you. The PP discussed "demanding" a friend use annual leave to meet her for lunch. Those of us who work also, shockingly, eat lunch. So I don't take leave in order to dine with friends. It's not rocket science.

Sure, but how long is your lunch break? Mine is 30 minutes, which isn’t really long enough to walk to even a fast-casual place downtown, order, eat, and return to work. If the friend wanted longer than that, or to meet at a sit-down restaurant, I’d have to take annual leave.

Not everyone works at target and has to clock back in after 30m.

Even in most office jobs, lunch is only an hour. That’s hardly enough time to have a leisurely lunch with friends.

An hour is plenty, no one said it has to be “leisurely”. Stop trying to move the goal posts.

Found the Target/fast food employee!

What a nasty thing to type. I can't imagine having such a vile spirit that you think it's a flex to look down on and mock retail and fast food workers.

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Anonymous wrote:I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch. If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee. Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver. If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.

That's your choice then. My choice is to spend time with you when you actually GAF about spending time with me. So, kind of goes both ways.

Meh. Would you demand a friend use annual leave to meet you for lunch? A SAHM’s job is to care for her child during the work day. If you are rigid enough to demand a SAHM’s undivided attention during a midweek lunch and are unavailable on evenings or weekends (when the father could watch the child), then yeah, the friendship is over.

Oh, so you don't eat lunch during the workday? That's funny. I do. And sometimes I do it with friends.

Of course I do, but I do it while watching my children.

Sigh. Then the question wasn't for you. The PP discussed "demanding" a friend use annual leave to meet her for lunch. Those of us who work also, shockingly, eat lunch. So I don't take leave in order to dine with friends. It's not rocket science.

Sure, but how long is your lunch break? Mine is 30 minutes, which isn’t really long enough to walk to even a fast-casual place downtown, order, eat, and return to work. If the friend wanted longer than that, or to meet at a sit-down restaurant, I’d have to take annual leave.

Not everyone works at target and has to clock back in after 30m.

I apologize for being misleading—I don’t work at Target. I’m a federal employee. I thought most federal agencies had similar rules regarding lunch break.

Well at least you wouldn’t have to bring a baby to a 30 minute lunch if your friends invited you, which is what this is actually about.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 12 months old and in the last couple months I’m finally feeling like I have a handle on getting out of the house and doing things with her. I have been getting lunch with friends (most of whom don’t have kids yet) and typically bring her along. We obviously don’t go to any fancy spots. Is this annoying?

Yes super annoying

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Anonymous wrote:I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch. If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee. Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver. If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.

That's your choice then. My choice is to spend time with you when you actually GAF about spending time with me. So, kind of goes both ways.

Meh. Would you demand a friend use annual leave to meet you for lunch? A SAHM’s job is to care for her child during the work day. If you are rigid enough to demand a SAHM’s undivided attention during a midweek lunch and are unavailable on evenings or weekends (when the father could watch the child), then yeah, the friendship is over.

Oh, so you don't eat lunch during the workday? That's funny. I do. And sometimes I do it with friends.

Of course I do, but I do it while watching my children.

Sigh. Then the question wasn't for you. The PP discussed "demanding" a friend use annual leave to meet her for lunch. Those of us who work also, shockingly, eat lunch. So I don't take leave in order to dine with friends. It's not rocket science.

Sure, but how long is your lunch break? Mine is 30 minutes, which isn’t really long enough to walk to even a fast-casual place downtown, order, eat, and return to work. If the friend wanted longer than that, or to meet at a sit-down restaurant, I’d have to take annual leave.

Not everyone works at target and has to clock back in after 30m.

I apologize for being misleading—I don’t work at Target. I’m a federal employee. I thought most federal agencies had similar rules regarding lunch break.

Well at least you wouldn’t have to bring a baby to a 30 minute lunch if your friends invited you, which is what this is actually about.

Oh, I’m sorry, I thought the lunch with friends was longer. My mistake.

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Only if your daughter is difficult to discipline.

If she is a relatively good kid then she likely is simply an added pleasure to have along! ✨

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Anonymous wrote:Only if your daughter is difficult to discipline.

If she is a relatively good kid then she likely is simply an added pleasure to have along! ✨

How do you discipline a 12-month-old? It's not like the kid is four or five and can understand being reprimanded.

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Anonymous wrote:I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch. If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee. Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver. If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.

That's your choice then. My choice is to spend time with you when you actually GAF about spending time with me. So, kind of goes both ways.

Meh. Would you demand a friend use annual leave to meet you for lunch? A SAHM’s job is to care for her child during the work day. If you are rigid enough to demand a SAHM’s undivided attention during a midweek lunch and are unavailable on evenings or weekends (when the father could watch the child), then yeah, the friendship is over.

Oh, so you don't eat lunch during the workday? That's funny. I do. And sometimes I do it with friends.

Of course I do, but I do it while watching my children.

Sigh. Then the question wasn't for you. The PP discussed "demanding" a friend use annual leave to meet her for lunch. Those of us who work also, shockingly, eat lunch. So I don't take leave in order to dine with friends. It's not rocket science.

Sure, but how long is your lunch break? Mine is 30 minutes, which isn’t really long enough to walk to even a fast-casual place downtown, order, eat, and return to work. If the friend wanted longer than that, or to meet at a sit-down restaurant, I’d have to take annual leave.

My lunch break is as long as I want it to be. I am no longer a fed but I used to be. All of my co-workers would go out to lunch, sometimes with our boss, and that was never done in 30 minutes.