Never get second or third date. Why am I so easy to pass over?

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Anonymous wrote:I am turned off by women’s epic travel stories. Reading profiles from women that post all their pictures from Tibet, Rome, on safari etc and blather on and on about passport stamps is annoying and sets an unrealistic expectation for others. Like it’s all you talk about, all your interested in and it’s a sneak peak into the future relationship. People who haven’t been to those exotic locales can’t relate.

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It's not even not being to those places; everyone can buy a cheap ticket and go anywhere. It's making it your entire personality that's the issue, which sounds like a defense mechanism against actually having one.

It's actually about your low self-esteem and that you won't easily be able to impress a woman like OP.

Maybe you are right, but I'm a woman and I can't stand all the travel talk that people get into.

Frankly, I think if you buy into travel and exotic destination porn, you are selfishly destroying the environment both through you own air travel and by visiting some place that is probably pretty special on our earth. The earth is not here as our plaything. We need to respect and protect it. If you think you are exempt, you are wrong. Watch travel tv or explore the wildlife in your own area first.

So sure, maybe it is low self-esteem I totally own that I have it, but i'm not impressed by that level of selfishness. I think it is an adrenaline rush and it makes you feel important by visiting these places.

I'm married though and not out looking for a man, but just want to say that not everyone holds the same values and Op and PP can both find their people. I do judge you for your travel. I would also ohhhh and ahhh to your face when you describe it so you will never know what I really think because I'm just being nice.

PP, i'm totally coming around to this belief as well. I used to travel a lot, but the combination of Covid (forced stop making me realize that it's not necessary) and the climate emergency puts it all in a different light. so much of travel just seems like more consumption.

Your posts are highly amusing because you both fail to realize you are exactly what you accuse OP of.

NP. Who cares? What’s wrong with what they said? Excessive travelers like OP are destroying the environment and need to be stopped. Why are you so defensive? Are you also one of those crazy budget travelers who’s been to a ton of places, destroying the habitat in the process?

What is also bad for the environment and human rights si the phone or computer your are typing from but don't let that stop you from your virtue signaling.

I'm not. I, like anyone, could do better and more to take care of the world I admit. That said, here is a longer version of my virtue signaling.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20200218-climate-change-how-to-cut-your-carbon-emissions-when-flying

Here is a highlight
"A return flight from London to San Francisco emits around 5.5 tonnes of CO2 equivalent (CO2e) per person – more than twice the emissions produced by a family car in a year, and about half of the average carbon footprint of someone living in Britain. "


There are degrees of badness. Air travel is bad. Air travel for work, I kinda get. Air travel cause you feel like it and want to impress impacts others and maybe we can start thinking about it that way.

I am righteous in my own self-ritghteousness.

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Anonymous wrote:I am turned off by women’s epic travel stories. Reading profiles from women that post all their pictures from Tibet, Rome, on safari etc and blather on and on about passport stamps is annoying and sets an unrealistic expectation for others. Like it’s all you talk about, all your interested in and it’s a sneak peak into the future relationship. People who haven’t been to those exotic locales can’t relate.

+1

It's not even not being to those places; everyone can buy a cheap ticket and go anywhere. It's making it your entire personality that's the issue, which sounds like a defense mechanism against actually having one.

It's actually about your low self-esteem and that you won't easily be able to impress a woman like OP.

Maybe you are right, but I'm a woman and I can't stand all the travel talk that people get into.

Frankly, I think if you buy into travel and exotic destination porn, you are selfishly destroying the environment both through you own air travel and by visiting some place that is probably pretty special on our earth. The earth is not here as our plaything. We need to respect and protect it. If you think you are exempt, you are wrong. Watch travel tv or explore the wildlife in your own area first.

So sure, maybe it is low self-esteem I totally own that I have it, but i'm not impressed by that level of selfishness. I think it is an adrenaline rush and it makes you feel important by visiting these places.

I'm married though and not out looking for a man, but just want to say that not everyone holds the same values and Op and PP can both find their people. I do judge you for your travel. I would also ohhhh and ahhh to your face when you describe it so you will never know what I really think because I'm just being nice.

PP, i'm totally coming around to this belief as well. I used to travel a lot, but the combination of Covid (forced stop making me realize that it's not necessary) and the climate emergency puts it all in a different light. so much of travel just seems like more consumption.

Your posts are highly amusing because you both fail to realize you are exactly what you accuse OP of.

NP. Who cares? What’s wrong with what they said? Excessive travelers like OP are destroying the environment and need to be stopped. Why are you so defensive? Are you also one of those crazy budget travelers who’s been to a ton of places, destroying the habitat in the process?

What is also bad for the environment and human rights si the phone or computer your are typing from but don't let that stop you from your virtue signaling.

I'm not. I, like anyone, could do better and more to take care of the world I admit. That said, here is a longer version of my virtue signaling.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20200218-climate-change-how-to-cut-your-carbon-emissions-when-flying

Here is a highlight
"A return flight from London to San Francisco emits around 5.5 tonnes of CO2 equivalent (CO2e) per person – more than twice the emissions produced by a family car in a year, and about half of the average carbon footprint of someone living in Britain. "


There are degrees of badness. Air travel is bad. Air travel for work, I kinda get. Air travel cause you feel like it and want to impress impacts others and maybe we can start thinking about it that way.

Where did OP say she traveled to impress others? Do you know what turns me off on dates? People like you who are ill-informed but prattle on about the next cause celebre like experts because they think it makes them more interesting an more woke.

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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing wrong with you OP. Keep doing the same thing, you will eventually find a mate. Don't listen to these haters trying to criticize who you are.

You should NEVER settle. Never apologize for who you are. Plenty of dumb and deceptive men out there. Hold on to your standards and forget about these crappy first dates.

Remember you are a QUEEN. You are stunning and brave. You will find your KING.

This! The problems come when you decide you aren't enough and listen to other people's negative projections of you. Be you. Someone will be into it. The one piece of advice you should take from this thread is to ditch the apps ( or find one focused on traveling/hiking) and try and meet and date guys from groups centered around your interests since it seems traveling and hiking are more than just hobbies for you.

And if you don’t, it’s not a big deal. Plenty of my mom’s friends are single because they never settled, and they are FINE with their work and hobbies. You don’t NEED a man to be happy.

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OP I am old fat and widowed. But guys seem to like me. However most of my conversation is: really? Then what happened? Must be very hard to excel in xyz… you think so ? I agree with that ! no politics ever.

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Anonymous wrote:Every successful man I have been out with has talked about himself the entire time on our first date. I will give them a second chance if they asked at least 2 questions of me and I find them sexually attractive. Sometimes they calm down on the second date, but sometimes they’re still acting like narcissists.

OP, do you want a serious relationship? Because when I meet people who travel all the time they do not seem like the types to settle down. You may also come off as too busy for a relationship.

Finally, the only goal of a first date is to decide if you want a second. You can’t possibly know if you’re a good fit over 1-2 hrs.

This hahaha ! Every guy.

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Anonymous wrote:I am turned off by women’s epic travel stories. Reading profiles from women that post all their pictures from Tibet, Rome, on safari etc and blather on and on about passport stamps is annoying and sets an unrealistic expectation for others. Like it’s all you talk about, all your interested in and it’s a sneak peak into the future relationship. People who haven’t been to those exotic locales can’t relate.

+1

It's not even not being to those places; everyone can buy a cheap ticket and go anywhere. It's making it your entire personality that's the issue, which sounds like a defense mechanism against actually having one.

It's actually about your low self-esteem and that you won't easily be able to impress a woman like OP.

Maybe you are right, but I'm a woman and I can't stand all the travel talk that people get into.

Frankly, I think if you buy into travel and exotic destination porn, you are selfishly destroying the environment both through you own air travel and by visiting some place that is probably pretty special on our earth. The earth is not here as our plaything. We need to respect and protect it. If you think you are exempt, you are wrong. Watch travel tv or explore the wildlife in your own area first.

So sure, maybe it is low self-esteem I totally own that I have it, but i'm not impressed by that level of selfishness. I think it is an adrenaline rush and it makes you feel important by visiting these places.

I'm married though and not out looking for a man, but just want to say that not everyone holds the same values and Op and PP can both find their people. I do judge you for your travel. I would also ohhhh and ahhh to your face when you describe it so you will never know what I really think because I'm just being nice.

PP, i'm totally coming around to this belief as well. I used to travel a lot, but the combination of Covid (forced stop making me realize that it's not necessary) and the climate emergency puts it all in a different light. so much of travel just seems like more consumption.

Your posts are highly amusing because you both fail to realize you are exactly what you accuse OP of.

NP. Who cares? What’s wrong with what they said? Excessive travelers like OP are destroying the environment and need to be stopped. Why are you so defensive? Are you also one of those crazy budget travelers who’s been to a ton of places, destroying the habitat in the process?

What is also bad for the environment and human rights si the phone or computer your are typing from but don't let that stop you from your virtue signaling.

I'm not. I, like anyone, could do better and more to take care of the world I admit. That said, here is a longer version of my virtue signaling.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20200218-climate-change-how-to-cut-your-carbon-emissions-when-flying

Here is a highlight
"A return flight from London to San Francisco emits around 5.5 tonnes of CO2 equivalent (CO2e) per person – more than twice the emissions produced by a family car in a year, and about half of the average carbon footprint of someone living in Britain. "


There are degrees of badness. Air travel is bad. Air travel for work, I kinda get. Air travel cause you feel like it and want to impress impacts others and maybe we can start thinking about it that way.

Where did OP say she traveled to impress others? Do you know what turns me off on dates? People like you who are ill-informed but prattle on about the next cause celebre like experts because they think it makes them more interesting an more woke.

NP. I don’t know why people are so triggered by travel. I chose not to have children, which is one of the best things one can do in terms of lowering one’s carbon footprint. Therefore I globetrot guilt-free. I certainly don’t do it to impress anyone—I’m happily married and not on any social media platforms other than LinkedIn.

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^^ because air travel by wealthy people is probably the biggest driver of climate change, and people are starting to realize that.

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Anonymous wrote:^^ because air travel by wealthy people is probably the biggest driver of climate change, and people are starting to realize that.

Probably is not fact and it's also not true. But how about you start a separate thread about how you won't date someone who travels internationally because they are destroying the planet.

[Anonymous]

Men are not impressed by travel. They are impressed by good looks and a kind personality. Even if you are good looking, when they hear these stories they think "high maintenance" and wonder if you'll expect them to foot the bill for any future trips. I know you feel an adventurous type is most compatible but what you should be looking for is a man with a good character, who you find sexually appealing, and most of all who is super into YOU. If he likes you enough he will learn to like your hobbies as well (and of course you should be nice enough to show an interest in his hobbies.) I am more adventurous than my husband but I have gotten him into all kinds of activities he never thought he'd enjoy.

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Op, have you thought about giving oral on first date? Some men probably think you are too uptight and would be difficult to develop a connection but intimacy helps a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing wrong with you OP. Keep doing the same thing, you will eventually find a mate. Don't listen to these haters trying to criticize who you are.

You should NEVER settle. Never apologize for who you are. Plenty of dumb and deceptive men out there. Hold on to your standards and forget about these crappy first dates.

Remember you are a QUEEN. You are stunning and brave. You will find your KING.

This! The problems come when you decide you aren't enough and listen to other people's negative projections of you. Be you. Someone will be into it. The one piece of advice you should take from this thread is to ditch the apps ( or find one focused on traveling/hiking) and try and meet and date guys from groups centered around your interests since it seems traveling and hiking are more than just hobbies for you.

And if you don’t, it’s not a big deal. Plenty of my mom’s friends are single because they never settled, and they are FINE with their work and hobbies. You don’t NEED a man to be happy.

But who will bury them? Will they just die alone?

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You don’t look nice enough. Are you dressing well on your first date, or is it blah post-work attire? It’s a tough pill to swallow but you do need to put extra effort into your appearance while dating. Zuzz yourself up and bring more sexpot mystery girl than sexless coworker energy. Ooh la la.

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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing wrong with you OP. Keep doing the same thing, you will eventually find a mate. Don't listen to these haters trying to criticize who you are.

You should NEVER settle. Never apologize for who you are. Plenty of dumb and deceptive men out there. Hold on to your standards and forget about these crappy first dates.

Remember you are a QUEEN. You are stunning and brave. You will find your KING.

This! The problems come when you decide you aren't enough and listen to other people's negative projections of you. Be you. Someone will be into it. The one piece of advice you should take from this thread is to ditch the apps ( or find one focused on traveling/hiking) and try and meet and date guys from groups centered around your interests since it seems traveling and hiking are more than just hobbies for you.

And if you don’t, it’s not a big deal. Plenty of my mom’s friends are single because they never settled, and they are FINE with their work and hobbies. You don’t NEED a man to be happy.

But who will bury them? Will they just die alone?

We all die alone, unless you plain on killing any remaining family members to follow you into the afterlife.

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Plenty of my mom’s friends are single because they never settled, and they are FINE with their work and hobbies. You don’t NEED a man to be happy.

If that’s how you feel, you should stay single. Other people feel differently about what’s worthwhile in life.

[Anonymous]

It's you, OP. Nobody wants to hear about your travels and any the stories that follow. You might want to update your photo to one that is current.