How do you tell a child they life they knew is over?

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Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a mental case. Let them see their grandparents for goodness sake

State quarantine doesn't allow for it. How privileged you must be for that not to be an issue for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Did anyone check with Jeff if this is a troll? Sounds like one of the right wingers that is trying to prove some point.

Not a troll. I asked a simple question that spiraled. But I guess we'll see who's right in a year.

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Anonymous wrote:Did anyone check with Jeff if this is a troll? Sounds like one of the right wingers that is trying to prove some point.

I reported it when it was only like 3 pages long. I actually think this may be real, and unfortunately OP is suffering from severe mental health issues. I hope her therapist really puts in the effort because OP is spiraling more and more with each post.

Thanks. She does sound very unbalanced. I wish her best in seeking health advice, but I am also worried about her poor child.

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There’s really no need to pile on. Many people are struggling with anxiety and depression at this time. I hope OP finds mental health support, and encourage her to seek it out.

If you’re not struggling mentally how about being grateful for that and just wishing her well?

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You definitely need therapy OP. And you need to make the best of it for your DD and stop wallowing in it.

Pandemics don't last forever. Did you get through school without ever taking a history class?

We have a stressed out disabled son and everything he loves is closed now: movie theaters, arcades, bowling alleys, most pools and theme parks. But we have found what is open and are going there. Lakes, drive-ins, shopping areas, outdoor dining. ALl the area kids are out running around swimming, playing together, and using the playground. Find her some friends, for heaven's sake.


And your mask problem is not her mask problem.

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You are still there, aren't you? Life changes all the time because people move away, they die, divorce, etc. Love each day at a time not a year from now because you don't know what is going to happen.

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The 1918 flu infected a third of the world's population and killed 17-50 million people. Some islands went into quarantine. Schools, theaters, and churches were closed. Parades were canceled. Masks were mandated.

It was followed by the Roaring Twenties.

The idea that the way things are is the way they will be FOREVER is arrogant and silly. It is, frankly, insane to think that governments are going to insist that everyone wear a mask *forever,* that restaurants and schools stay closed *forever,* in the absence of an actual pandemic. There's no benefit to the government, in the absence of a public health emergency, to have those restrictions in place. Governments would LOVE to lift those restrictions. If anything, they are in too much of a hurry to lift those restrictions. Some things will likely be altered, whether by law or by social practice, but neither you nor I nor anyone can be sure what those things are. It is not, however, the case that your six-year-old will never be able to travel or hug anyone every again.

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Here’s the thing - life constantly changes. Your child is crying and upset because you are setting the expectation that things are going back to normal soon, and they likely aren’t. Stop handing her adult expectations and disappointments, and she will fare better. She may grow up in a world where masks are the norm, where global travel is a huge undertaking, where school is online - but it will be her world, and that of her contemporaries. Stop treating it and explaining it as an Eeyore moment, and treat it matter of factly, with a positive spin. You are projecting your fears and sadness upon her, and don’t even recognize it. She is reading the room, and It sounds like the room is a very dark place right now. It sounds like you have your own issues, so even if you can lean positive right now, at least try to land at neutral.

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OP, it sounds like you're seeing this in a very binary way--either life is like it is now for your 6yo forever (no in-person school, no physical contact with friends, no seeing grandparents ever again, masks all the time), or it reverts back to exactly how it was. This doesn't make sense to me. I agree that it's fair to gradually reset expectations, as kids ask questions, and be clear that life may be topsy-turvy for awhile. But I also think it's highly likely that over the next couple of years we will have several vaccines that offer at least partial protection from infection and/or serious illness, we will develop improved treatments (that's already happening), and we will attain some degree of herd immunity. Those things in combination will lead to a gradual, months-long shift back to normalcy, even if normalcy doesn't look exactly as it did pre-pandemic. It's not like a switch will be flipped and yay, back to normal! But life won't be like this forever either. I'm confused why you think it will be.

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Anonymous wrote:Did anyone check with Jeff if this is a troll? Sounds like one of the right wingers that is trying to prove some point.

Not a troll. I asked a simple question that spiraled. But I guess we'll see who's right in a year.

A year isn't forever, which is what you were saying in your OP.

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Life is already back to something close to normal in many European countries, according to friends who live there. People are traveling, seeing friends, going out to eat, children were back at school in the spring and will return in the fall. Virus levels are currently extremely low. It is not normal here because our government has failed to control the pandemic and because many refuse to follow guidance that could help us achieve a more normal life.

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Pls read this thread

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/898479.page

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Anonymous wrote:It won’t ever go back? Are you this dramatic in real life? Life will eventually go back to normal. That’s how you explain it.

It won’t. The half-life of antibodies is 36 days. There will never be an effective vaccine.

Oh geez. You have no idea what you are talking about. The half life is a lot longer for some people. And the vaccine are creating T cell responses. And people have B cell. You are either a troll or really dumb. I vote troll.

+1 your T cells have a memory component. It's kinda like your google search history, so when you are exposed again your body says oh I think I've seen this before. And the B cells that produce the antibodies kick in. Depending on how efficient your immune system is you may or may not even have symptoms when that happens.

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Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a mental case. Let them see their grandparents for goodness sake

State quarantine doesn't allow for it. How privileged you must be for that not to be an issue for you.

What state doe you live in? We are seeing grandparents. I'm unaware of a state that forbids seeing grandparents.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a mental case. Let them see their grandparents for goodness sake

State quarantine doesn't allow for it. How privileged you must be for that not to be an issue for you.

What state doe you live in? We are seeing grandparents. I'm unaware of a state that forbids seeing grandparents.

Maybe the grandparents are in a nursing home. It is why we have not seen my dad since March.