How can you cheat and not think about how it will affect your kids?

[Anonymous]

Angry sexless guy.... YOU are to blame for your wife not wanting sex with you. She doesnt want to have sex with you because you are an obtuse, thick misogynist who only values her for what is between her legs. So YOU caused the sexless situation. I promise you if her celebrity crush hit on her tomorrow, she'd be DTF.

No matter how yu look at it, it's your fault and your problem. At least she is being honest and communicating her intent. You are not. How can you even look at yourself in the mirror knowing that you lack the integrity and courage to communicate your intentions that you clearly feel so strongly about? You are brave behind an anonymous keyboard, but with your wife.... you play the role of victim too cowardly to speak up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Angry sexless guy.... YOU are to blame for your wife not wanting sex with you. She doesnt want to have sex with you because you are an obtuse, thick misogynist who only values her for what is between her legs. So YOU caused the sexless situation. I promise you if her celebrity crush hit on her tomorrow, she'd be DTF.

No matter how yu look at it, it's your fault and your problem. At least she is being honest and communicating her intent. You are not. How can you even look at yourself in the mirror knowing that you lack the integrity and courage to communicate your intentions that you clearly feel so strongly about? You are brave behind an anonymous keyboard, but with your wife.... you play the role of victim too cowardly to speak up.

But a wife would NEVER stay married to a horrible guy like that. She would quickly divorce him... and it has zero to do with sex.

Your theory is implausible.

[Anonymous]

Seems like there are basically two types of people on these threads. Those who think sex is an important part of a healthy marriage just like love and companionship and those who think its optional like going without wine or your favorite food, something people enjoy but not particularly important. Everything after that is basically a justification for that belief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are basically two types of people on these threads. Those who think sex is an important part of a healthy marriage just like love and companionship and those who think its optional like going without wine or your favorite food, something people enjoy but not particularly important. Everything after that is basically a justification for that belief.

Disagree. Some people think honesty between spouses and personal integrity are more important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Denial is right.

PP, are you cheating or have you cheated on your spouse? By that I mean, have you had sex with another person while married and without telling your spouse? You do remember promising not to do that, right?

Must I repeat this? Those vows are bidirectional. The couple promises to have sex only with one another. THAT is the vow! And a sexless wife breaks this vow. You cannot impose only one side of this bilateral promise about marital sex.

So you have cheated? Yes? You broke your promise. Are you lying to cover up? Lying to your kids? Nice.

Be a grown up and at least own it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are basically two types of people on these threads. Those who think sex is an important part of a healthy marriage just like love and companionship and those who think its optional like going without wine or your favorite food, something people enjoy but not particularly important. Everything after that is basically a justification for that belief.

Disagree. Some people think honesty between spouses and personal integrity are more important.

Exactly. Sex in marriage is not connected to personal integrity. Your character as a person has to do with personal integrity. It's a bs to link those two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are basically two types of people on these threads. Those who think sex is an important part of a healthy marriage just like love and companionship and those who think its optional like going without wine or your favorite food, something people enjoy but not particularly important. Everything after that is basically a justification for that belief.

Disagree. Some people think honesty between spouses and personal integrity are more important.

+1

If there are differences in importance of sex (or any other issue), discuss and find a resolution (whatever it may be). Why is it so difficult to understand that you need to be a grown up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the bitter man: how are you with your wife? Why do you want to stay in your marriage if you’re so miserable? I mean money can’t be that worth it for you since you’re so miserable and probably a miserable man in general.

Also, what would you be like if your wife had to give up sex for health reasons? Would you then say that she needs to divorce you because of sexlessness?

To the bitter man: can you please answer my question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are basically two types of people on these threads. Those who think sex is an important part of a healthy marriage just like love and companionship and those who think its optional like going without wine or your favorite food, something people enjoy but not particularly important. Everything after that is basically a justification for that belief.

Disagree. Some people think honesty between spouses and personal integrity are more important.

+1

If there are differences in importance of sex (or any other issue), discuss and find a resolution (whatever it may be). Why is it so difficult to understand that you need to be a grown up.

Attention all sexless wives: be a grown up, discuss the issue and find a resolution (whatever it may be).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are basically two types of people on these threads. Those who think sex is an important part of a healthy marriage just like love and companionship and those who think its optional like going without wine or your favorite food, something people enjoy but not particularly important. Everything after that is basically a justification for that belief.

Disagree. Some people think honesty between spouses and personal integrity are more important.

+1

If there are differences in importance of sex (or any other issue), discuss and find a resolution (whatever it may be). Why is it so difficult to understand that you need to be a grown up.

Attention all sexless wives: be a grown up, discuss the issue and find a resolution (whatever it may be).

Because you can’t be responsible for yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I truly don't understand how someone could cheat and not even remotely consider how it will affect their kids. What on earth did your kids do to deserve that?

There are 6 billion people on the planet - none of em are perfect and most of em are totally preoccupied with self - which means there's a lotta things you're not gonna understand when it comes to the stuff people do.
Don't stress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are basically two types of people on these threads. Those who think sex is an important part of a healthy marriage just like love and companionship and those who think its optional like going without wine or your favorite food, something people enjoy but not particularly important. Everything after that is basically a justification for that belief.

Disagree. Some people think honesty between spouses and personal integrity are more important.

+1

If there are differences in importance of sex (or any other issue), discuss and find a resolution (whatever it may be). Why is it so difficult to understand that you need to be a grown up.

Attention all sexless wives: be a grown up, discuss the issue and find a resolution (whatever it may be).

Because you can’t be responsible for yourself?

Because if all the sexless wives take your advice (be a grownup/discuss/find a resolution) then Step 2 (cheating) would never occur and this long thread would not exist. Do you not understand this sequence?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly don't understand how someone could cheat and not even remotely consider how it will affect their kids. What on earth did your kids do to deserve that?

There are 6 billion people on the planet - none of em are perfect and most of em are totally preoccupied with self - which means there's a lotta things you're not gonna understand when it comes to the stuff people do.
Don't stress.

So who cares what the kids think? Is that what you are saying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are basically two types of people on these threads. Those who think sex is an important part of a healthy marriage just like love and companionship and those who think its optional like going without wine or your favorite food, something people enjoy but not particularly important. Everything after that is basically a justification for that belief.

Seems like there are basically two types of people on these threads. Those who think sex is a need like food and oxygen... and those that think it is like every other emotional need, they are important but not a deal breaker. Sometimes it's plenty, sometimes it's not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly don't understand how someone could cheat and not even remotely consider how it will affect their kids. What on earth did your kids do to deserve that?

There are 6 billion people on the planet - none of em are perfect and most of em are totally preoccupied with self - which means there's a lotta things you're not gonna understand when it comes to the stuff people do.
Don't stress.

So who cares what the kids think? Is that what you are saying?

99.9% of the world doesn't give a sh*t about your kids, why should you... now that is what this cheater is saying. DMH