Any quality 30+ guys left?

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OP, for your sake I really really hope you move. You can dramatically change your odds and your ability to meet someone who can allow you to stay home with children.
http://www.citylab.com/housing/2015/02/where-in-the-us-are-there-more-single-men-than-women/385369/

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As a PSA to the younger ladies out there who happen to read this board.... MANY, MANY people couple up in college/grad school/mid-20s. I'm not saying you must do that, but if you don't, you will see the dating pool significantly shrink as OP is seeing now. Of course, I'm sure OP will find someone that she is a good match with. But it won't be as easy as if she found this person in her 20s. Frankly, I think this is largely because men can easily wait until their 30s or even 40s to find a 20-something wife and settle down and have children.

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The bulk of the women looking like affluent men. Who themselves like the hottest least-bitchy women who are fun in bed. You want a rich guy? Don't be stupid. You have a lot of competition.

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Anonymous wrote:Christ people this thread is eyeopening.. 150k is NOT an absurd threshold at all!!! I don't think I know any guys making LESS than that and I'm in my late 20's.

Not trolling, just, wow- guess not many come from SF/NYC/Boston where that's completely normal.

I agree. Basically op is just saying she wants to date a man with a professional job. In other words, some sort of office worker.

I dated a good bit before meeting and marrying my husband and almost every man I dated made this sort of salary by the time he was in his 30s

I highly doubt OP would turn down a resident doctor or someone in grad school, just started a business etc. she just wants a motivated man with a college degree, which isn't that unusual.

This is OP.

The responses to this thread have been funny.

I am not expecting a 25 year old with a 150k salary. I am looking at men in their 30s. At least by 35 almost all men in the DC area make about much. From what I gather that is the minimum amount required in order to have a house, and provide for a child and a SAHM in this area. I want to stay with my kid at home for a few years and would need to depend on my husband and so he needs to be able to support that.

And honestly as a marriage minded woman, I am not seeking to be CEO. I earn enough to live, get a mani pedi and by my beauty products. With a husband, I will be more than okay.

1. I won't bash you for your goals. That's the exact setup my wife and I have. I am in your age demographic (mid-30s) and make nearly double your desired income threshold. But then again, I made $30k when my wife married me.

2. 75% of HOUSEHOLDS make less than $140k in the DC Area (note: that includes dual earner households). So, no, nearly all men do not make $150k in DC by their mid-30s. That number is probably closer to 5%.

3. The vast majority of guys that do make that kind of money tend to be risk averse strivers. They marry women they meet when they are young or in grad school. The only real exception is men in high finance.

4. To answer your question, you face long odds for what you're looking for. Maybe try to get into a top MBA program?

Thanks for your response!

I know. The guys like this I knew all paired up when we were about 25 26 to whatever girl they were dating then. So I know the pool is now very small.

As a mind thirties guy, do you know any guys in your friends group who would go for an early thirties woman like me?

BTW what do you do to make that much? Wow! good for you!!

I'm in investment banking.

Of my professional and social circle, I know of one guy that fits the bill. He screwed up badly and refused to commit to marriage to an absolutely gorgeous, professional woman that he dated for years. We (old fraternity brothers that still get together) legit told him to get married. As I recall, she wasn't even pressuring him to get married. She just wanted to know that they were moving in that direction in their late 20s. Long story short, she broke up with him, he knows he made a huge mistake, and she married a lawyer. He's probably the kind of guy you are looking for. He's now been in Europe for 4 years on a rotation for his company.

My two closest fraternity brothers sort of validate your idea of high earning men: one is in banking, the other a doctor. Both married women they met in their early 20s. None of us is 36, yet, but between the three of us we already have 7 kids total.

You must not be closing a lot of deals if you're posting on DC Urban Moms and Dads at 12pm in the afternoon...

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Are you people suggesting she start dating the welfare recipients? Someone who don't have a lick of college?

Yes, I make less than $150k, so I must be on welfare without a college education.

Sorry for the chip on your shoulder. Must be rough.

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Anonymous wrote:Christ people this thread is eyeopening.. 150k is NOT an absurd threshold at all!!! I don't think I know any guys making LESS than that and I'm in my late 20's.

Not trolling, just, wow- guess not many come from SF/NYC/Boston where that's completely normal.

I agree. Basically op is just saying she wants to date a man with a professional job. In other words, some sort of office worker.

I dated a good bit before meeting and marrying my husband and almost every man I dated made this sort of salary by the time he was in his 30s

I highly doubt OP would turn down a resident doctor or someone in grad school, just started a business etc. she just wants a motivated man with a college degree, which isn't that unusual.

This is OP.

The responses to this thread have been funny.

I am not expecting a 25 year old with a 150k salary. I am looking at men in their 30s. At least by 35 almost all men in the DC area make about much. From what I gather that is the minimum amount required in order to have a house, and provide for a child and a SAHM in this area. I want to stay with my kid at home for a few years and would need to depend on my husband and so he needs to be able to support that.

And honestly as a marriage minded woman, I am not seeking to be CEO. I earn enough to live, get a mani pedi and by my beauty products. With a husband, I will be more than okay.

If you wanted the SAHM life an that salary you've missed the boat. You have to lock a guy like that down in your 20's. If you wanted to go the SAHM route and find that salary you should have dated one of these 30 yr old men and locked him down in your 20's. If that's truly the lifestyle you want you need to bump your search up in age and start looking for a 40-45 yr old man who could provide that lifestyle or move to an area like Austin where COL is cheaper and there's still a lot of high earners like you're looking for. Today's crop of 30 yr old men looking to find a SAHM are looking at women in their 20's. You have to realize you're fishing in a very very small pond. If you keep such narrow search parameters you need to realize you might not just put being a SAHM at risk but being a mother if you keep waiting for the dream guy that doesn't exist. And no, most men by 35 in the DC area don't make 150k a year. That's the wonderful thing about census data it's easy to see. Only 25% of Households (not individual) make between 100k-200k in the DMV. 15% make 200k or more.

https://censusreporter.org/profiles/16000US1150000-washington-dc/

Cut it out with the census data already. Jesus Christ. You people are relentless. Someone who is a college educated professional (whether you count Op or not in that group is up to you) is not going to be dating in the bottom 50% most places you go. INCLUDING HERE in DC. Do you people have any friends who are not under-achieving college people? These are the folks who never got a college education (I realize many people in trade jobs make a lot, we are talking many of the others), they never finished high school, they are living on government handout. HELLO, DC?

Are you people suggesting she start dating the welfare recipients? Someone who don't have a lick of college?

Ridiculous. Just cut the BS already.

The point of the data is that for every 100 men in DC that meet her desired age group, she's already eliminated 98.

Think of it this way: there are about 450,000 men in the DC metro area age 30-39, meaning there are roughly 10,000 men in that age bracket that make her desired income.

Of that 10,000, let's conservatively assume half are married or in marriage track relationships.

She's down to a pool of 5,000 men. Then you'll need to filter out men that she will find unattractive for whatever reason and the pool shrinks further.

My guess is that the pool of eligible men that she would find desireable is probably around 2,000 in the DC area. Now, of those 2,000 men, how many of them are killing it on he dating scene and have no desire to settle down? Good luck with that!

The thing is, these 2000 guys all frequent the same bars/ restaurants/ gyms, etc. to the point where it's not totally unrealistic to think that she could come across 5-40 of them (40, on the high end, would be 2% of your "conservative" estimate) over the course of a year of searching and dating at the right places. Social circles are small; she just has to find the crowd she's looking for.

Because women are used to being pursued and because they tend to have higher standards, I think many women fail to appreciate just how many options a desirable, high status man has. Of those 2000 men she's seeking out, how many do you think are looking to settle down? The vast, vast majority of those men are absolutely playing the field with minimal effort on their part.

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Anonymous wrote:Christ people this thread is eyeopening.. 150k is NOT an absurd threshold at all!!! I don't think I know any guys making LESS than that and I'm in my late 20's.

Not trolling, just, wow- guess not many come from SF/NYC/Boston where that's completely normal.

I agree. Basically op is just saying she wants to date a man with a professional job. In other words, some sort of office worker.

I dated a good bit before meeting and marrying my husband and almost every man I dated made this sort of salary by the time he was in his 30s

I highly doubt OP would turn down a resident doctor or someone in grad school, just started a business etc. she just wants a motivated man with a college degree, which isn't that unusual.

This is OP.

The responses to this thread have been funny.

I am not expecting a 25 year old with a 150k salary. I am looking at men in their 30s. At least by 35 almost all men in the DC area make about much. From what I gather that is the minimum amount required in order to have a house, and provide for a child and a SAHM in this area. I want to stay with my kid at home for a few years and would need to depend on my husband and so he needs to be able to support that.

And honestly as a marriage minded woman, I am not seeking to be CEO. I earn enough to live, get a mani pedi and by my beauty products. With a husband, I will be more than okay.

1. I won't bash you for your goals. That's the exact setup my wife and I have. I am in your age demographic (mid-30s) and make nearly double your desired income threshold. But then again, I made $30k when my wife married me.

2. 75% of HOUSEHOLDS make less than $140k in the DC Area (note: that includes dual earner households). So, no, nearly all men do not make $150k in DC by their mid-30s. That number is probably closer to 5%.

3. The vast majority of guys that do make that kind of money tend to be risk averse strivers. They marry women they meet when they are young or in grad school. The only real exception is men in high finance.

4. To answer your question, you face long odds for what you're looking for. Maybe try to get into a top MBA program?

Thanks for your response!

I know. The guys like this I knew all paired up when we were about 25 26 to whatever girl they were dating then. So I know the pool is now very small.

As a mind thirties guy, do you know any guys in your friends group who would go for an early thirties woman like me?

BTW what do you do to make that much? Wow! good for you!!

I'm in investment banking.

Of my professional and social circle, I know of one guy that fits the bill. He screwed up badly and refused to commit to marriage to an absolutely gorgeous, professional woman that he dated for years. We (old fraternity brothers that still get together) legit told him to get married. As I recall, she wasn't even pressuring him to get married. She just wanted to know that they were moving in that direction in their late 20s. Long story short, she broke up with him, he knows he made a huge mistake, and she married a lawyer. He's probably the kind of guy you are looking for. He's now been in Europe for 4 years on a rotation for his company.

My two closest fraternity brothers sort of validate your idea of high earning men: one is in banking, the other a doctor. Both married women they met in their early 20s. None of us is 36, yet, but between the three of us we already have 7 kids total.

You must not be closing a lot of deals if you're posting on DC Urban Moms and Dads at 12pm in the afternoon...

That's a fair point. It's a slow week for my focus industry....

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Anonymous wrote:As a PSA to the younger ladies out there who happen to read this board.... MANY, MANY people couple up in college/grad school/mid-20s. I'm not saying you must do that, but if you don't, you will see the dating pool significantly shrink as OP is seeing now. Of course, I'm sure OP will find someone that she is a good match with. But it won't be as easy as if she found this person in her 20s. Frankly, I think this is largely because men can easily wait until their 30s or even 40s to find a 20-something wife and settle down and have children.

geez thanks! Now I am a cautionary tale!

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Anonymous wrote:Christ people this thread is eyeopening.. 150k is NOT an absurd threshold at all!!! I don't think I know any guys making LESS than that and I'm in my late 20's.

Not trolling, just, wow- guess not many come from SF/NYC/Boston where that's completely normal.

I agree. Basically op is just saying she wants to date a man with a professional job. In other words, some sort of office worker.

I dated a good bit before meeting and marrying my husband and almost every man I dated made this sort of salary by the time he was in his 30s

I highly doubt OP would turn down a resident doctor or someone in grad school, just started a business etc. she just wants a motivated man with a college degree, which isn't that unusual.

This is OP.

The responses to this thread have been funny.

I am not expecting a 25 year old with a 150k salary. I am looking at men in their 30s. At least by 35 almost all men in the DC area make about much. From what I gather that is the minimum amount required in order to have a house, and provide for a child and a SAHM in this area. I want to stay with my kid at home for a few years and would need to depend on my husband and so he needs to be able to support that.

And honestly as a marriage minded woman, I am not seeking to be CEO. I earn enough to live, get a mani pedi and by my beauty products. With a husband, I will be more than okay.

1. I won't bash you for your goals. That's the exact setup my wife and I have. I am in your age demographic (mid-30s) and make nearly double your desired income threshold. But then again, I made $30k when my wife married me.

2. 75% of HOUSEHOLDS make less than $140k in the DC Area (note: that includes dual earner households). So, no, nearly all men do not make $150k in DC by their mid-30s. That number is probably closer to 5%.

3. The vast majority of guys that do make that kind of money tend to be risk averse strivers. They marry women they meet when they are young or in grad school. The only real exception is men in high finance.

4. To answer your question, you face long odds for what you're looking for. Maybe try to get into a top MBA program?

Thanks for your response!

I know. The guys like this I knew all paired up when we were about 25 26 to whatever girl they were dating then. So I know the pool is now very small.

As a mind thirties guy, do you know any guys in your friends group who would go for an early thirties woman like me?

BTW what do you do to make that much? Wow! good for you!!

I'm in investment banking.

Of my professional and social circle, I know of one guy that fits the bill. He screwed up badly and refused to commit to marriage to an absolutely gorgeous, professional woman that he dated for years. We (old fraternity brothers that still get together) legit told him to get married. As I recall, she wasn't even pressuring him to get married. She just wanted to know that they were moving in that direction in their late 20s. Long story short, she broke up with him, he knows he made a huge mistake, and she married a lawyer. He's probably the kind of guy you are looking for. He's now been in Europe for 4 years on a rotation for his company.

My two closest fraternity brothers sort of validate your idea of high earning men: one is in banking, the other a doctor. Both married women they met in their early 20s. None of us is 36, yet, but between the three of us we already have 7 kids total.

You are not in IB if you make under 300k in your mid 30s.

That is mid 20s associate comp.

Are you at an ultra shitty small shop with no deal flow?

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Anonymous wrote:Christ people this thread is eyeopening.. 150k is NOT an absurd threshold at all!!! I don't think I know any guys making LESS than that and I'm in my late 20's.

Not trolling, just, wow- guess not many come from SF/NYC/Boston where that's completely normal.

I agree. Basically op is just saying she wants to date a man with a professional job. In other words, some sort of office worker.

I dated a good bit before meeting and marrying my husband and almost every man I dated made this sort of salary by the time he was in his 30s

I highly doubt OP would turn down a resident doctor or someone in grad school, just started a business etc. she just wants a motivated man with a college degree, which isn't that unusual.

This is OP.

The responses to this thread have been funny.

I am not expecting a 25 year old with a 150k salary. I am looking at men in their 30s. At least by 35 almost all men in the DC area make about much. From what I gather that is the minimum amount required in order to have a house, and provide for a child and a SAHM in this area. I want to stay with my kid at home for a few years and would need to depend on my husband and so he needs to be able to support that.

And honestly as a marriage minded woman, I am not seeking to be CEO. I earn enough to live, get a mani pedi and by my beauty products. With a husband, I will be more than okay.

If you wanted the SAHM life an that salary you've missed the boat. You have to lock a guy like that down in your 20's. If you wanted to go the SAHM route and find that salary you should have dated one of these 30 yr old men and locked him down in your 20's. If that's truly the lifestyle you want you need to bump your search up in age and start looking for a 40-45 yr old man who could provide that lifestyle or move to an area like Austin where COL is cheaper and there's still a lot of high earners like you're looking for. Today's crop of 30 yr old men looking to find a SAHM are looking at women in their 20's. You have to realize you're fishing in a very very small pond. If you keep such narrow search parameters you need to realize you might not just put being a SAHM at risk but being a mother if you keep waiting for the dream guy that doesn't exist. And no, most men by 35 in the DC area don't make 150k a year. That's the wonderful thing about census data it's easy to see. Only 25% of Households (not individual) make between 100k-200k in the DMV. 15% make 200k or more.

https://censusreporter.org/profiles/16000US1150000-washington-dc/

Cut it out with the census data already. Jesus Christ. You people are relentless. Someone who is a college educated professional (whether you count Op or not in that group is up to you) is not going to be dating in the bottom 50% most places you go. INCLUDING HERE in DC. Do you people have any friends who are not under-achieving college people? These are the folks who never got a college education (I realize many people in trade jobs make a lot, we are talking many of the others), they never finished high school, they are living on government handout. HELLO, DC?

Are you people suggesting she start dating the welfare recipients? Someone who don't have a lick of college?

Ridiculous. Just cut the BS already.

my husband is a phd engineer with a successful career at a great company. he only broke 150k at 41-42 or so. the idea that everyone makes 150k or more around here is preposterous.

Yeah, but so is throwing around Census Data. If you got out of your PhD social bubble you'll know there is a whole world out there of people neither you nor I will ever touch with a 10 foot dating pole, and it has nothing to do with my income.

i am not suggesting that you date at random through the census area but i do find focus on income very limiting.

personally i never cared much about money. but i did care that my boyfriend is interesting, ambitious and has good grades. i married at 23. single women my age think my husband is a great catch. i am not sure they would have thought the same when i was dating him.

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Anonymous wrote:As a PSA to the younger ladies out there who happen to read this board.... MANY, MANY people couple up in college/grad school/mid-20s. I'm not saying you must do that, but if you don't, you will see the dating pool significantly shrink as OP is seeing now. Of course, I'm sure OP will find someone that she is a good match with. But it won't be as easy as if she found this person in her 20s. Frankly, I think this is largely because men can easily wait until their 30s or even 40s to find a 20-something wife and settle down and have children.

geez thanks! Now I am a cautionary tale!

I don't mean to disparage you - I'm sure you are a wonderful person and you will find the love you are looking for! I'm just pointing out that it's not as easy as it looks. The market is very hard for women vs. men.

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Anonymous wrote:Christ people this thread is eyeopening.. 150k is NOT an absurd threshold at all!!! I don't think I know any guys making LESS than that and I'm in my late 20's.

Not trolling, just, wow- guess not many come from SF/NYC/Boston where that's completely normal.

I agree. Basically op is just saying she wants to date a man with a professional job. In other words, some sort of office worker.

I dated a good bit before meeting and marrying my husband and almost every man I dated made this sort of salary by the time he was in his 30s

I highly doubt OP would turn down a resident doctor or someone in grad school, just started a business etc. she just wants a motivated man with a college degree, which isn't that unusual.

This is OP.

The responses to this thread have been funny.

I am not expecting a 25 year old with a 150k salary. I am looking at men in their 30s. At least by 35 almost all men in the DC area make about much. From what I gather that is the minimum amount required in order to have a house, and provide for a child and a SAHM in this area. I want to stay with my kid at home for a few years and would need to depend on my husband and so he needs to be able to support that.

And honestly as a marriage minded woman, I am not seeking to be CEO. I earn enough to live, get a mani pedi and by my beauty products. With a husband, I will be more than okay.

1. I won't bash you for your goals. That's the exact setup my wife and I have. I am in your age demographic (mid-30s) and make nearly double your desired income threshold. But then again, I made $30k when my wife married me.

2. 75% of HOUSEHOLDS make less than $140k in the DC Area (note: that includes dual earner households). So, no, nearly all men do not make $150k in DC by their mid-30s. That number is probably closer to 5%.

3. The vast majority of guys that do make that kind of money tend to be risk averse strivers. They marry women they meet when they are young or in grad school. The only real exception is men in high finance.

4. To answer your question, you face long odds for what you're looking for. Maybe try to get into a top MBA program?

Thanks for your response!

I know. The guys like this I knew all paired up when we were about 25 26 to whatever girl they were dating then. So I know the pool is now very small.

As a mind thirties guy, do you know any guys in your friends group who would go for an early thirties woman like me?

BTW what do you do to make that much? Wow! good for you!!

I'm in investment banking.

Of my professional and social circle, I know of one guy that fits the bill. He screwed up badly and refused to commit to marriage to an absolutely gorgeous, professional woman that he dated for years. We (old fraternity brothers that still get together) legit told him to get married. As I recall, she wasn't even pressuring him to get married. She just wanted to know that they were moving in that direction in their late 20s. Long story short, she broke up with him, he knows he made a huge mistake, and she married a lawyer. He's probably the kind of guy you are looking for. He's now been in Europe for 4 years on a rotation for his company.

My two closest fraternity brothers sort of validate your idea of high earning men: one is in banking, the other a doctor. Both married women they met in their early 20s. None of us is 36, yet, but between the three of us we already have 7 kids total.

You are not in IB if you make under 300k in your mid 30s.

That is mid 20s associate comp.

Are you at an ultra shitty small shop with no deal flow?

I was only rattling off base. IB is a second career for me. So typical time table you are applying is probably off.

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Anonymous wrote:Christ people this thread is eyeopening.. 150k is NOT an absurd threshold at all!!! I don't think I know any guys making LESS than that and I'm in my late 20's.

Not trolling, just, wow- guess not many come from SF/NYC/Boston where that's completely normal.

I agree. Basically op is just saying she wants to date a man with a professional job. In other words, some sort of office worker.

I dated a good bit before meeting and marrying my husband and almost every man I dated made this sort of salary by the time he was in his 30s

I highly doubt OP would turn down a resident doctor or someone in grad school, just started a business etc. she just wants a motivated man with a college degree, which isn't that unusual.

This is OP.

The responses to this thread have been funny.

I am not expecting a 25 year old with a 150k salary. I am looking at men in their 30s. At least by 35 almost all men in the DC area make about much. From what I gather that is the minimum amount required in order to have a house, and provide for a child and a SAHM in this area. I want to stay with my kid at home for a few years and would need to depend on my husband and so he needs to be able to support that.

And honestly as a marriage minded woman, I am not seeking to be CEO. I earn enough to live, get a mani pedi and by my beauty products. With a husband, I will be more than okay.

Whoever you end up meeting, please please please let him know your intentions up front. Many men (even high earners) are not interested in an aspiring SAHM. Support staff at my firm and I feel like a fly on the wall to the inevitable fallout when DW decides to leave her job behind. The 3rd year associate who wanted out suddenly realizes he needs to put in another 5 years at the firm to support DW's lifestyle is never happy.

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Anonymous wrote:As a PSA to the younger ladies out there who happen to read this board.... MANY, MANY people couple up in college/grad school/mid-20s. I'm not saying you must do that, but if you don't, you will see the dating pool significantly shrink as OP is seeing now. Of course, I'm sure OP will find someone that she is a good match with. But it won't be as easy as if she found this person in her 20s. Frankly, I think this is largely because men can easily wait until their 30s or even 40s to find a 20-something wife and settle down and have children.

geez thanks! Now I am a cautionary tale!

I don't mean to disparage you - I'm sure you are a wonderful person and you will find the love you are looking for! I'm just pointing out that it's not as easy as it looks. The market is very hard for women vs. men.

Oh please. Everyone says that. However, every successful and decent looking friend I have has found a husband. Except one and she hasn't found one because she has issues.

Op here is what you need to do - date like it's your job. Get online. Try and go out on at least one date every week. It's simply a numbers game. You'll eventually meet someone you like and someone who likes you too. Don't approach it too seriously. Approach it as if you just want to make new friends and see what happens. Date outside of your comfort zone. It's completely reasonable to desire a guy with a job but I wouldn't focus too much on that.

Fwiw I am married to a high earner and he rarely wants to have sex with me. The lifestyle is nice but I would just as much like to be with someone who wants to sleep with me on a regular basis. No I'm not fat or ugly.

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Anonymous wrote:As a PSA to the younger ladies out there who happen to read this board.... MANY, MANY people couple up in college/grad school/mid-20s. I'm not saying you must do that, but if you don't, you will see the dating pool significantly shrink as OP is seeing now. Of course, I'm sure OP will find someone that she is a good match with. But it won't be as easy as if she found this person in her 20s. Frankly, I think this is largely because men can easily wait until their 30s or even 40s to find a 20-something wife and settle down and have children.

geez thanks! Now I am a cautionary tale!

I don't mean to disparage you - I'm sure you are a wonderful person and you will find the love you are looking for! I'm just pointing out that it's not as easy as it looks. The market is very hard for women vs. men.

Oh please. Everyone says that. However, every successful and decent looking friend I have has found a husband. Except one and she hasn't found one because she has issues.

Op here is what you need to do - date like it's your job. Get online. Try and go out on at least one date every week. It's simply a numbers game. You'll eventually meet someone you like and someone who likes you too. Don't approach it too seriously. Approach it as if you just want to make new friends and see what happens. Date outside of your comfort zone. It's completely reasonable to desire a guy with a job but I wouldn't focus too much on that.

Fwiw I am married to a high earner and he rarely wants to have sex with me. The lifestyle is nice but I would just as much like to be with someone who wants to sleep with me on a regular basis. No I'm not fat or ugly.

If "everyone says that" (and I assume you mean saying that it's not as easy to find a match in one's 30s as 20s as it looks), then maybe it is true.