S/o SAHMs - why do so many men want one?

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Anonymous wrote:PP above, you do realize there are fields where no matter how much seniority/experience you have, you cannot work from home, right? You're lucky you have such a nice arrangement. Obviously others have different circumstances to deal with.

Of course i realize this, that why i dont work in those fields! Maybe it is because I had kids early and from the age of 25, I knew I didn't ever want to be boxed in like that. I've been offered nice jobs that would require a security clearance. There is no way in hell I'd sign up for that because I couldn't do my work from home.

We ALL make choices in life. Choose if we want to work, choose the type of education we pursue, choose they type of career we want these choices are made (hopefully ) with the future in our line of sight.

Well aren't you the perfect planner! Some of us choose careers based on our skill set and passions.

Why so defensive? You are following your passion and your skills. What's the big deal?

[Anonymous]

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You being home makes HIS life easier.

Your closet, does it contain a dozen or so plaid shirts and khaki pants? And, do you have a short hair cut?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP above, you do realize there are fields where no matter how much seniority/experience you have, you cannot work from home, right? You're lucky you have such a nice arrangement. Obviously others have different circumstances to deal with.

Of course i realize this, that why i dont work in those fields! Maybe it is because I had kids early and from the age of 25, I knew I didn't ever want to be boxed in like that. I've been offered nice jobs that would require a security clearance. There is no way in hell I'd sign up for that because I couldn't do my work from home.

We ALL make choices in life. Choose if we want to work, choose the type of education we pursue, choose they type of career we want these choices are made (hopefully ) with the future in our line of sight.

Well aren't you the perfect planner! Some of us choose careers based on our skill set and passions.

Why so defensive? You are following your passion and your skills. What's the big deal?

Because women shouldn't have to choose shitty careers that are fine with you lounging in your PJs just to be able to work and care for their children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP above, you do realize there are fields where no matter how much seniority/experience you have, you cannot work from home, right? You're lucky you have such a nice arrangement. Obviously others have different circumstances to deal with.

Of course i realize this, that why i dont work in those fields! Maybe it is because I had kids early and from the age of 25, I knew I didn't ever want to be boxed in like that. I've been offered nice jobs that would require a security clearance. There is no way in hell I'd sign up for that because I couldn't do my work from home.

We ALL make choices in life. Choose if we want to work, choose the type of education we pursue, choose they type of career we want these choices are made (hopefully ) with the future in our line of sight.

Well aren't you the perfect planner! Some of us choose careers based on our skill set and passions.

Why so defensive? You are following your passion and your skills. What's the big deal?

Because women shouldn't have to choose shitty careers that are fine with you lounging in your PJs just to be able to work and care for their children.

huh? Why would a woman have to choose a shitty career? Some people like working in their PJs. I prefer my gym clothes and wait until around noon to shower. Maybe a shitty career TO ME is a commute to an office, a commute home and a harried preparation of dinner or take out. That is pretty much MY definition of a nightmare, but hey one man's trash is another man's treasure. What your shitty career might be my dream realized. I'm happy you follow your passion and skill set. That is awesome. I definitely followed my skillset, by my passion does not pay well. I choose financial security over passion and I'm 100% happy with that choice. You seem very unhappy and defensive. If you are so happy with your career and life choices, why so angry?

[Anonymous]

^^ Because! If I'm miserable at my own life choices and career, then everyone else should be miserable too!

[Anonymous]

I'm happy with my choices just annoyed at your smug attitude. I'm sure you're happy that the physicians and surgeons that care for your family made different, just as valid choices that may lead to them having to make different family arrangements.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
You being home makes HIS life easier.

Your closet, does it contain a dozen or so plaid shirts and khaki pants? And, do you have a short hair cut?

HA! But you forgot problem glasses, a nose ring and a Timblr account

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ Because! If I'm miserable at my own life choices and career, then everyone else should be miserable too!

Bingo.

[Anonymous]

If we could afford it is love my wife to be a SAHM until our kids are in school or a little older. She's a good mother and would be better than any nanny/day care. Her mom skills are fantastic and if given more time she would be even better. I'd like them to bond more like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If we could afford it is love my wife to be a SAHM until our kids are in school or a little older. She's a good mother and would be better than any nanny/day care. Her mom skills are fantastic and if given more time she would be even better. I'd like them to bond more like that.

That whole SAH until they are in school thing is a one way street; once you are in your 30s and out of the workforce for 5-8 years, your career is generally over. There are exceptional outliers, but most job markets have plenty of labor supply, and the ones that value SAHM resumes pay very very little and still skew to the childless women be they don't have to worry about school pickup.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If we could afford it is love my wife to be a SAHM until our kids are in school or a little older. She's a good mother and would be better than any nanny/day care. Her mom skills are fantastic and if given more time she would be even better. I'd like them to bond more like that.

That whole SAH until they are in school thing is a one way street; once you are in your 30s and out of the workforce for 5-8 years, your career is generally over. There are exceptional outliers, but most job markets have plenty of labor supply, and the ones that value SAHM resumes pay very very little and still skew to the childless women be they don't have to worry about school pickup.

Nah, she can do work at home as her job is creative type work. She could freelance for a while as some people on her career have before when they had kids and came back

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Anonymous wrote:This was mentioned in the thread below that plenty of men still want a SAHM wife even though times have changed ostensibly. People say the right PC things about feminism but don't seem to really mean it when it comes to their own family life.

Guys, what's up with that?

Because then I can go to work at 7am and get home to relax at 7pm, and she will do everything at home and for the kids. I can just focus on my office work and career. Division of labor.

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It's better for the kids too, she'll be on top of their schoolwork, camps, sports, health, etc. They get high quality attention, from their mom. She also takes them traveling around to visit friends and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding me? I'm a WOHM, and I want one.

Anyone want to come join our marriage? Two physician couple, four adorable kids. We need someone to do all of the cooking, meal planning, laundry, cleaning, and money management, be active in the school community and with the teachers, decorate the house and celebrate holidays, purchase all Christmas presents, plan vacations and parties, sign the older kids up for activities and drive them there and back, each the little ones during the day and play age appropriate activities, do minor repairs, and hire out and manage all yardwork.

Agree, I need a wife!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:once you are in your 30s and out of the workforce for 5-8 years, your career is generally over. There are exceptional outliers, but most job markets have plenty of labor supply

Really? Is this true?