S/o SAHMs - why do so many men want one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish my wife would go back to work. 2 401ks at the least would make an enormous impact on retirement.

This. I don't think it has been worth it. I'd marry my wife again because I love my kids and wouldn't want any other, but I wish she had some ambition.

[Anonymous]

To the men who claim that they wish their SAHW went back to work, what were they doing before kids came along?

[Anonymous]

Not all men want one. I would not have married a man who wanted a SAHM. When I was growing up, I assumed there was something wrong with mothers who didn't work; it was a foreign concept to me. I never wanted to be one and we both work. I didn't go to university to stay home, but I understand its a personal choice.

[Anonymous]

I know very few men who want this. They want a partner, not a servant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the men who claim that they wish their SAHW went back to work, what were they doing before kids came along?

Marketing manager

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding me? I'm a WOHM, and I want one.

Anyone want to come join our marriage? Two physician couple, four adorable kids. We need someone to do all of the cooking, meal planning, laundry, cleaning, and money management, be active in the school community and with the teachers, decorate the house and celebrate holidays, purchase all Christmas presents, plan vacations and parties, sign the older kids up for activities and drive them there and back, each the little ones during the day and play age appropriate activities, do minor repairs, and hire out and manage all yardwork.

This. I'm a working mom and in my next life I want a SAH spouse. Would make life SO much easier. Never having to scramble to cover a snow day or sick day. Being able to stay at work late to finish something. Not having to make dinner as soon as I walk in the door. Sounds amazing.

[Anonymous]

My husband made it very clear from the beginning that he did not want a SAHM

[Anonymous]

When we first met my husband was adamant that he did not want and would never support a SAH spouse. 2 kids later and having to help with cooking, housework and covering sick days he has been begging me to quit my job. Quite the irony but tough luck for him as I have no intention in leaving the workforce. It is tough with both of us working and we are both exhausted and stretched. I do think that those of you with SAH wives may not fully appreciate what you have.

[Anonymous]

My DH doesn't want one but I do! I would love a partner that SAH with kids and handles household.

[Anonymous]

Both DH & I would love to SAH (or for the other to) but it's not financially feasible. We can want in one hand...

[Anonymous]

I am a SAHM and my husband does not really care either way.

He was supportive when I worked, and now he is supportive that I am home with the kids (also pursuing an interest that I hope will one day be profitable).

It is easier on him with me being at home. I am certainly not his servant, but I do all the things that we had to outsource when I worked.

[Anonymous]

Is this thread a joke? Why would a man want to come home to a home cooked meal, a peaceful house, a relaxed spouse and all the bills, chores and other household things taken care of?

What person, man or woman, wouldn't want that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband made it very clear from the beginning that he did not want a SAHM

This is a red flag to me. Sounds like he forbade you from making a life decision that he didn't want at that time. Any many who either "wants" a SAH or WOH spouse is messed up. You come to this decision as a couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this thread a joke? Why would a man want to come home to a home cooked meal, a peaceful house, a relaxed spouse and all the bills, chores and other household things taken care of?

What person, man or woman, wouldn't want that?

Yeah, except when you have two young children you can't really do all that. But once they are a little older and in preschool, heck yeah. I think when they are under 2 you do it so certain things are easier and because you want to raise your kids yourselves.

[Anonymous]

i want a third spouse too so we could have a SAH