S/o SAHMs - why do so many men want one?

[Anonymous]

This was mentioned in the thread below that plenty of men still want a SAHM wife even though times have changed ostensibly. People say the right PC things about feminism but don't seem to really mean it when it comes to their own family life.

Guys, what's up with that?

[Anonymous]

I wish my wife would go back to work. 2 401ks at the least would make an enormous impact on retirement.

[Anonymous]

guy here - never wanted one, and don't have one. very happily married to a DW who works - and we have 3 kids (teens/pre-teen). none of my friends have SAH DWs either - and at the risk of sounding like an asshole, we all earn in the top 0.5-1%.

[Anonymous]

I think if there are kids at home, at least for a few years it is just EASIER.

[Anonymous]

I am a SAHM right now. My husband definitely prefers it for these few years. We have two-year old and an infant. He is a big law partner and works crazy hours with lots of travel. Luckily for me, he realizes that I am doing him a huge favor. I worked for twenty years before kids and will work again when the kids are older, although not full time. Some people want work-life balance with a working spouse. Some people are workaholics and want a SAH spouse. As long as it works for the family, I don't see why it matters to anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Well somebody has to take care of the kids. Many parents would rather it be one of them than a stranger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish my wife would go back to work. 2 401ks at the least would make an enormous impact on retirement.

Who would have raised your children before they were old enough for school? Daycare? (Perhaps you missed the thread about "The Hell of American Daycare"?) A sitter off the street? Who? You?

You had best kiss your wife's feet for doing the work that few people actually *want* to do.

And before you make any assumptions about me, I'm a single mother.

[Anonymous]

Are you kidding me? I'm a WOHM, and I want one.

Anyone want to come join our marriage? Two physician couple, four adorable kids. We need someone to do all of the cooking, meal planning, laundry, cleaning, and money management, be active in the school community and with the teachers, decorate the house and celebrate holidays, purchase all Christmas presents, plan vacations and parties, sign the older kids up for activities and drive them there and back, each the little ones during the day and play age appropriate activities, do minor repairs, and hire out and manage all yardwork.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish my wife would go back to work. 2 401ks at the least would make an enormous impact on retirement.

Who would have raised your children before they were old enough for school? Daycare? (Perhaps you missed the thread about "The Hell of American Daycare"?) A sitter off the street? Who? You?

You had best kiss your wife's feet for doing the work that few people actually *want* to do.

And before you make any assumptions about me, I'm a single mother.

We raised our kids you ding bat.

[Anonymous]

Dh absolutely doesn't want one. He made it clear from day 1 that he wanted a working spouse and he wanted us to be 50/50.

That being said, I'd agree with the physician above me. I'd like a sahm too. Just don't want it to be me.

[Anonymous]

Back in my hardcore single girl working days, my friends and I all joked about wanting a wife. Someone to do my laundry, cook my meals, wash my dishes? Sign me up!!

Now I'm older with kids, and that person is me. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish my wife would go back to work. 2 401ks at the least would make an enormous impact on retirement.

Who would have raised your children before they were old enough for school? Daycare? (Perhaps you missed the thread about "The Hell of American Daycare"?) A sitter off the street? Who? You?

You had best kiss your wife's feet for doing the work that few people actually *want* to do.

And before you make any assumptions about me, I'm a single mother.

We raised our kids you ding bat.

I said, "Who WOULD have" done it if your wife had granted you your "wish"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish my wife would go back to work. 2 401ks at the least would make an enormous impact on retirement.

Who would have raised your children before they were old enough for school? Daycare? (Perhaps you missed the thread about "The Hell of American Daycare"?) A sitter off the street? Who? You?

You had best kiss your wife's feet for doing the work that few people actually *want* to do.

And before you make any assumptions about me, I'm a single mother.

I have a lot of friends with kids in daycare and nannies. Those kids are just as well off as mine, except they probably have fully funded college accounts.


I'm not that impressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish my wife would go back to work. 2 401ks at the least would make an enormous impact on retirement.

Who would have raised your children before they were old enough for school? Daycare? (Perhaps you missed the thread about "The Hell of American Daycare"?) A sitter off the street? Who? You?

You had best kiss your wife's feet for doing the work that few people actually *want* to do.

And before you make any assumptions about me, I'm a single mother.

We raised our kids you ding bat.

I said, "Who WOULD have" done it if your wife had granted you your "wish"?

That wasn't me, but I agree on the ding bat comment.

[Anonymous]

My Dh is a workaholic and wanted a SAH. Of course e would support me either way and always has but I wanted to be a SAH and am thankful for the opportunity. It's a dream come true for both of us. On the flip side I know guys who want a working wife. Whatever floats their boat!