Stay at home Dad: My kids not accepted?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry but I dont want to hang out with your husband, alone. I just don't.

Because he's not a person to you, he's just a male.

Right. Like if you had a teenage babysitter who watched your kids. I wouldn't want to spend a play date/afternoon with her either

That's an interesting point. There has been a discussion about people not wanting to hang out with the nanny either (I believe someone started a post about how they were invited to someone's home and were surprised to arrive and find out it was a non drop-off with the family's nanny)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry but I dont want to hang out with your husband, alone. I just don't.

Because he's not a person to you, he's just a male.

Right. Like if you had a teenage babysitter who watched your kids. I wouldn't want to spend a play date/afternoon with her either

No idea what this means. I wouldn't want to hang out with the teenager because they are too immature. You wouldn't want to hang out with a male parent because . . .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry but I dont want to hang out with your husband, alone. I just don't.

Because he's not a person to you, he's just a male.

Right. Like if you had a teenage babysitter who watched your kids. I wouldn't want to spend a play date/afternoon with her either

No idea what this means. I wouldn't want to hang out with the teenager because they are too immature. You wouldn't want to hang out with a male parent because . . .

How do you know the teenager is immature? Ageist!!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is blowing my mind right now, in a really sad way. I truly cannot comprehend why anyone would be concerned about the appearance of impropriety if a parent was taking his or her child over to another family's house for a playdate with a parent of the opposite sex and his/her child. How could that situation ever be considered "inappropriate"? It's not as though you are alone with the other person for illicit purposes. It is extremely disheartening to hear so many old-fashioned, close-minded opinions on this issue, particularly when people in this area like to tout how open-minded they are on other social issues.

You do realize that neighbors can't tell what you're doing in the house, right? And people gossip. That gossip can ruin careers. Why take the chance?[/quote

So you wouldn't go on such a play date because the neighbors might see you and ruin your career?? Um, ok.

No, I wouldn't go on a play date because my husband's a unit commander in the Army and people love to gossip about highly visible officers and their spouses. And yes, if I was seen going into a man's house, people would talk. It's not worth the risk to his career.

[Anonymous]

By the way, no one's telling you that YOU can't do it. We're just say that it's not something we'd choose to do. I understand why that's such a problem for you.

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Anonymous wrote:I literally can't believe this thread. Is it a farce thread? You people won't go to a mans house? Where the fuck are you posting from? Please tell me. I assume you a stay at home moms from Centerville or somewhere?

What if...there are two dads! Zomg.

Mom, home in Centreville right now. First of all, go eff yourself. Second, I can't believe it either, my idea of boundaries and such just never extend to the point where I would consider it a bad scenario, but everyone is different I suppose!

Ha, I'm the poster you quoted. I like you Centerville mom. Much love.

[Anonymous]

I wonder how many of these people with marriage boundaries where they are forbidden from being alone with men, are also not allowed to drive? Are you chaperoned? Do you have your own money?

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This thread is blowing my mind right now, in a really sad way. I truly cannot comprehend why anyone would be concerned about the appearance of impropriety if a parent was taking his or her child over to another family's house for a playdate with a parent of the opposite sex and his/her child. How could that situation ever be considered "inappropriate"? It's not as though you are alone with the other person for illicit purposes. It is extremely disheartening to hear so many old-fashioned, close-minded opinions on this issue, particularly when people in this area like to tout how open-minded they are on other social issues.



You do realize that neighbors can't tell what you're doing in the house, right? And people gossip. That gossip can ruin careers. Why take the chance?[/quote

So you wouldn't go on such a play date because the neighbors might see you and ruin your career?? Um, ok.


No, I wouldn't go on a play date because my husband's a unit commander in the Army and people love to gossip about highly visible officers and their spouses. And yes, if I was seen going into a man's house, people would talk. It's not worth the risk to his career.

Your husband sure be more concerned about his crazy wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is blowing my mind right now, in a really sad way. I truly cannot comprehend why anyone would be concerned about the appearance of impropriety if a parent was taking his or her child over to another family's house for a playdate with a parent of the opposite sex and his/her child. How could that situation ever be considered "inappropriate"? It's not as though you are alone with the other person for illicit purposes. It is extremely disheartening to hear so many old-fashioned, close-minded opinions on this issue, particularly when people in this area like to tout how open-minded they are on other social issues.

You do realize that neighbors can't tell what you're doing in the house, right? And people gossip. That gossip can ruin careers. Why take the chance?[/quote

So you wouldn't go on such a play date because the neighbors might see you and ruin your career?? Um, ok.

No, I wouldn't go on a play date because my husband's a unit commander in the Army and people love to gossip about highly visible officers and their spouses. And yes, if I was seen going into a man's house, people would talk. It's not worth the risk to his career.

Sweetie, a unit commander is not a high rank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By the way, no one's telling you that YOU can't do it. We're just say that it's not something we'd choose to do. I understand why that's such a problem for you.

Because the idea that men and women are fundamentally differnt from one another and can't occupy the same social space in the same way is one of the root causes of keeping women down.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is blowing my mind right now, in a really sad way. I truly cannot comprehend why anyone would be concerned about the appearance of impropriety if a parent was taking his or her child over to another family's house for a playdate with a parent of the opposite sex and his/her child. How could that situation ever be considered "inappropriate"? It's not as though you are alone with the other person for illicit purposes. It is extremely disheartening to hear so many old-fashioned, close-minded opinions on this issue, particularly when people in this area like to tout how open-minded they are on other social issues.

You do realize that neighbors can't tell what you're doing in the house, right? And people gossip. That gossip can ruin careers. Why take the chance?[/quote

So you wouldn't go on such a play date because the neighbors might see you and ruin your career?? Um, ok.

No, I wouldn't go on a play date because my husband's a unit commander in the Army and people love to gossip about highly visible officers and their spouses. And yes, if I was seen going into a man's house, people would talk. It's not worth the risk to his career.

Sweetie, a unit commander is not a high rank.

Did I say it was a high rank? No, I said it was highly visible. Also, I don't believe I mentioned what kind of unit, so dial the condescension down a bit. You're exactly the type of person we're worried about spreading rumors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of these people with marriage boundaries where they are forbidden from being alone with men, are also not allowed to drive? Are you chaperoned? Do you have your own money?

Why does this bother you so much? The simple fact that some people choose to do things differently than you?

Wait.

I've already figured it out.

Your husband will figure out eventually that you're cheating on him and I hope he leaves your skank ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of these people with marriage boundaries where they are forbidden from being alone with men, are also not allowed to drive? Are you chaperoned? Do you have your own money?

I'm not forbidden from hanging out with other men. I just have a lot of friends already- I'm not looking for new ones and I don't want to hang out with your husband, no matter how tremendous you think he is. Why that bothers you so much is fascinating to me. He couldn't make it in the workplace now he can't make it in the land of SAHP and it really seems to stick in your craw, huh? I succeeded in both arenas and my husband didn't have to help me or shove other parents down my throat, so maybe we are just fundamentally different.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of these people with marriage boundaries where they are forbidden from being alone with men, are also not allowed to drive? Are you chaperoned? Do you have your own money?

I'm not forbidden from hanging out with other men. I just have a lot of friends already- I'm not looking for new ones and I don't want to hang out with your husband, no matter how tremendous you think he is. Why that bothers you so much is fascinating to me. He couldn't make it in the workplace now he can't make it in the land of SAHP and it really seems to stick in your craw, huh? I succeeded in both arenas and my husband didn't have to help me or shove other parents down my throat, so maybe we are just fundamentally different.

Wait, is the PP who doesn't understand this really the OP's wife?

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of these people with marriage boundaries where they are forbidden from being alone with men, are also not allowed to drive? Are you chaperoned? Do you have your own money?

I'm not forbidden from hanging out with other men. I just have a lot of friends already- I'm not looking for new ones and I don't want to hang out with your husband, no matter how tremendous you think he is. Why that bothers you so much is fascinating to me. He couldn't make it in the workplace now he can't make it in the land of SAHP and it really seems to stick in your craw, huh? I succeeded in both arenas and my husband didn't have to help me or shove other parents down my throat, so maybe we are just fundamentally different.

On a related note what is this common refrain about not looking for any 'new friends'? Is there like a limit on your phone? I mean if you are free and they are free who doesn't like making a new friend? Unless they are selling you jewelry or what not, yeah that would be evil