Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone asked the OP what he looks like? Fell out of a magazine, GQ type, with a rock hard body & chiseled abs? I'd put money on it that it's a NO!

Would that make his wife's fat melt away like magic?

Let's pretend OP is like me - 5'8" and 245 lbs.

Does this have any effect on his wife's choices?

In her own mind probably it would.

Grossly obese people and others with similar self destructive addictive personalities are like that though. They always find a reason other than themselves to blame their bad behavior on. That's so they never have to take personal responsibility for it. So they never fix what's wrong. That's why OP is married to the Good Year blimp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone asked the OP what he looks like? Fell out of a magazine, GQ type, with a rock hard body & chiseled abs? I'd put money on it that it's a NO!

Irrelevant.
Rather, ask the OP how is his appearance and weight relative to when the relationship started.
Because THAT is the baseline for determining if he's "let himself go"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone asked the OP what he looks like? Fell out of a magazine, GQ type, with a rock hard body & chiseled abs? I'd put money on it that it's a NO!

Would that make his wife's fat melt away like magic?

Better question would be whether - if OP was in decent shape - it would suddenly make PP think it's ok for OP to notice his wife's weight.

[Anonymous]

I bet OP's obese spouse notices her own weight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are 5 months post-partum...

No. WE aren't.

5 months... REALLY?

OP appreciate the fact that you are being honest. The last thing you should be doing to this beautiful woman is bring her self esteem down. Women's bodies take a hit during pregnancy and it takes at least 1-2 years to start getting back to normal. In many ways she has sacrificed herself so you both can enjoy a child & build a family. Love her for who she is , unconditionally and it will motivate her to be her best.

Ummmmm....no, it does not.

[Anonymous]

Right. It takes forever to get back to normal weight since OP's wife started out obese. Now she's grossly obese. There ain't no going back for some people, I'm afraid. They just totally give up and spiral down to the bottom of the rocky road container.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right. It takes forever to get back to normal weight since OP's wife started out obese. Now she's grossly obese. There ain't no going back for some people, I'm afraid. They just totally give up and spiral down to the bottom of the rocky road container.

She didn't start out obese, she started out overweight. You are probably as pretty outside as you are inside. And before you make a rude remark, I am normal BMI. You are still a bitch.

[Anonymous]

Many people seem to be super-defensive with the notion that compulsive overeating is not a good thing.

I guess they have a very emotional relationship with food because they were raised in homes where both parents worked or something so they didn't get the love and spend the rest of their lives trying to replace that empty feeling with junk food in their bellies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Right. It takes forever to get back to normal weight since OP's wife started out obese. Now she's grossly obese. There ain't no going back for some people, I'm afraid. They just totally give up and spiral down to the bottom of the rocky road container.

She didn't start out obese, she started out overweight. You are probably as pretty outside as you are inside. And before you make a rude remark, I am normal BMI. You are still a bitch.

Well, no, she didn't actually "start out overweight," now, did she, really? I mean she started out as a single cell embryo and that probably weighed pretty much the same as they all do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Right. It takes forever to get back to normal weight since OP's wife started out obese. Now she's grossly obese. There ain't no going back for some people, I'm afraid. They just totally give up and spiral down to the bottom of the rocky road container.

She didn't start out obese, she started out overweight. You are probably as pretty outside as you are inside. And before you make a rude remark, I am normal BMI. You are still a bitch.

Well, no, she didn't actually "start out overweight," now, did she, really? I mean she started out as a single cell embryo and that probably weighed pretty much the same as they all do.

Started out the marriage idiot. I know you're tying to be funny but the context of "started out" has already been set in this thread and doesn't need to be repeated with every subsequent post.

[Anonymous]

There's a post upthread and the couple might be perfect for both of you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are 5 months post-partum...

No. WE aren't.

5 months... REALLY?

OP appreciate the fact that you are being honest. The last thing you should be doing to this beautiful woman is bring her self esteem down. Women's bodies take a hit during pregnancy and it takes at least 1-2 years to start getting back to normal. In many ways she has sacrificed herself so you both can enjoy a child & build a family. Love her for who she is , unconditionally and it will motivate her to be her best.

Ummmmm....no, it does not.

agree

even at 40 years old and a second csection I got back to gym as soon as I could.
If you don't get rid of the pregnancy weight soon, it never leaves you,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are 5 months post-partum...

No. WE aren't.

5 months... REALLY?

OP appreciate the fact that you are being honest. The last thing you should be doing to this beautiful woman is bring her self esteem down. Women's bodies take a hit during pregnancy and it takes at least 1-2 years to start getting back to normal. In many ways she has sacrificed herself so you both can enjoy a child & build a family. Love her for who she is , unconditionally and it will motivate her to be her best.

Ummmmm....no, it does not.

agree

even at 40 years old and a second csection I got back to gym as soon as I could.
If you don't get rid of the pregnancy weight soon, it never leaves you,

Not everyone is you. Everyone's body is different. Go ask your dr. I say this as a skinny person who weighed barely 103 pre-pregnancy. Hormones affect people differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are 5 months post-partum...

No. WE aren't.

5 months... REALLY?

OP appreciate the fact that you are being honest. The last thing you should be doing to this beautiful woman is bring her self esteem down. Women's bodies take a hit during pregnancy and it takes at least 1-2 years to start getting back to normal. In many ways she has sacrificed herself so you both can enjoy a child & build a family. Love her for who she is , unconditionally and it will motivate her to be her best.

Ummmmm....no, it does not.

agree

even at 40 years old and a second csection I got back to gym as soon as I could.
If you don't get rid of the pregnancy weight soon, it never leaves you,

Not everyone is you. Everyone's body is different. Go ask your dr. I say this as a skinny person who weighed barely 103 pre-pregnancy. Hormones affect people differently.

Maybe but you have to do the work the loose the weight.

That is the difference, I didn't want to be that person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are 5 months post-partum...

No. WE aren't.

5 months... REALLY?

OP appreciate the fact that you are being honest. The last thing you should be doing to this beautiful woman is bring her self esteem down. Women's bodies take a hit during pregnancy and it takes at least 1-2 years to start getting back to normal. In many ways she has sacrificed herself so you both can enjoy a child & build a family. Love her for who she is , unconditionally and it will motivate her to be her best.

Ummmmm....no, it does not.

agree

even at 40 years old and a second csection I got back to gym as soon as I could.
If you don't get rid of the pregnancy weight soon, it never leaves you,

Did you want to be a person who doesn't know "loose" from "lose". There are lots of you!

Not everyone is you. Everyone's body is different. Go ask your dr. I say this as a skinny person who weighed barely 103 pre-pregnancy. Hormones affect people differently.

Maybe but you have to do the work the loose the weight.

That is the difference, I didn't want to be that person