Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know what the right answers are, but I think there should be a distinction between people's experience during pregnancy and after pregnancy.

Gaining weight during pregnancy is normal. Not losing weight quickly after pregnancy is also normal. But continuing to gain weight after the pregnancy seems like a different sort of problem.

The problem is that once they get pregnant, many of those women who were already pre-disposed to unhealthy eating habits (as OP's wife obviously is/was) give themselves "permission" to totally lose any self-control. It is compulsive/addictive behavior like a drug addict or gambler. The pregnancy is the excuse to just blubber out like a land whale. Then they get stuck in the shame spiral of compulsive overeating and depression...you know, tears in the Haagen Daaz crying about how fat they are while they continue to gobble it down. Just like OP's wife. Any excuse not to close the feedbag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's remarkable that so many PPs seem to believe there is a correlation between pregnancy and obesity.

Now what about all the people who aren't pregnant (including men) who are obese?

I've heard more than one woman say something along the lines of "I can't wait until I'm pregnant so I can eat whatever I want."

[Anonymous]

Pregnancy and childbirth is not an excuse to lose all self control and stuff your face with ice cream and get fatter and fatter. OP has a point, if she doesn't get herself under control now, she's going to be a whale. I deliberately maintained a reasonable pregnancy weight because I didn't want the hassle of trying to lose 50lbs. I wore skinny jeans to a work party on postpartum day 8 so it's not inevitable that childbirth makes you fat. Eating fast food and ice cream every day makes you fat.

[Anonymous]

The reason women are supposed to gain weight during pregnancy is because THERE IS AN EXTRA PERSON in there, along with things like a placenta, amniotic sac, increased breast tissue, etc. etc. etc. AFTER pregnancy is different and there is no health-related reason for such a huge percentage of excess weight.

150 at 5'1" she was already OBESE. At 185 she is grossly obese and extremely unhealthy. Not OP's fault. He doesn't control what she shoves down her piehole. She does.

[Anonymous]

In a new interview with Vogue magazine she revealed how post-birth she regained her figure instantly with little more effort than some yoga on a mat in her living room.
'I think it's muscle memory,' she told Vogue.
Or it may have been the continuous exercise during her pregnancy.
She also admitted: 'I did kung fu up until two weeks before Benjamin was born, and yoga three days a week.'
And in typically outspoken fashion, she gave her opinion on where some women go wrong when pregnant.
She said: 'I think a lot of people get pregnant and decide they can turn into garbage disposals [dustbin].

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1258830/Gisele-Bundchen-shares-tips-perfect-post-baby-figure--kung-fu-yoga-dont-treat-body-like-dustbin.html

http://www.popsugar.com/celebrity/Gisele-Bundchen-Bikini-Pictures-After-Baby-Vivian-27870910#photo-27870910

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On average breastfeeding requires 300-500 calories a day. I ate way more than that (I'm guessing an extra 1k) and was a beanpole, just couldn't keep weight on. My clothes were falling off me.

Dropping the word "physiology" ever 5 seconds as if we're all the same is seriously annoying to me. Why does one woman get a gut when she overheats while I gain it all in my butt? Why do some women get bigger boobs post pregnancy while I'm down a cup size? "Physiology" doesn't mean we all work the same way. We are all super complex.

My guess is that the other woman is 'overeating' healthy food and you're binging on junk food, processed foods, and carbs.

Yes our bodies are all different, but none of us can escape the consequences of a bad diet.

Thanks for the revelation. I had no idea Cheetos go to my ass but salads go to my stomach and rack. I will be sure to tell my sister, who has my opposite body type. Maybe we can swap diets and turn into the ultimate woman, each with perfect measurements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

He certainly is!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a new interview with Vogue magazine she revealed how post-birth she regained her figure instantly with little more effort than some yoga on a mat in her living room.
'I think it's muscle memory,' she told Vogue.
Or it may have been the continuous exercise during her pregnancy.
She also admitted: 'I did kung fu up until two weeks before Benjamin was born, and yoga three days a week.'
And in typically outspoken fashion, she gave her opinion on where some women go wrong when pregnant.
She said: 'I think a lot of people get pregnant and decide they can turn into garbage disposals [dustbin].

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1258830/Gisele-Bundchen-shares-tips-perfect-post-baby-figure--kung-fu-yoga-dont-treat-body-like-dustbin.html

http://www.popsugar.com/celebrity/Gisele-Bundchen-Bikini-Pictures-After-Baby-Vivian-27870910#photo-27870910

Gisele Bundchen is 5'11" and nowhere near typical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The reason women are supposed to gain weight during pregnancy is because THERE IS AN EXTRA PERSON in there, along with things like a placenta, amniotic sac, increased breast tissue, etc. etc. etc. AFTER pregnancy is different and there is no health-related reason for such a huge percentage of excess weight.

150 at 5'1" she was already OBESE. At 185 she is grossly obese and extremely unhealthy. Not OP's fault. He doesn't control what she shoves down her piehole. She does.

Wrong. her BMI would be 28.3 which is overweight and not obese. 185 would put her at obese 35 BMI but it also depends on other things.

[Anonymous]

185 is spherical, honey.

[Anonymous]

Has anyone asked the OP what he looks like? Fell out of a magazine, GQ type, with a rock hard body & chiseled abs? I'd put money on it that it's a NO!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's remarkable that so many PPs seem to believe there is a correlation between pregnancy and obesity.

Now what about all the people who aren't pregnant (including men) who are obese?

I've heard more than one woman say something along the lines of "I can't wait until I'm pregnant so I can eat whatever I want."

Yeah, that always struck me as odd as well, simply because you really should be hyper-alert to what you're eating when your nutrition is connected to another person's, but I also found it hilarious when I actually got pregnant and certainly couldn't eat "whatever I wanted" because so much of what I usually loved made me want to vomit!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone asked the OP what he looks like? Fell out of a magazine, GQ type, with a rock hard body & chiseled abs? I'd put money on it that it's a NO!

Would that make his wife's fat melt away like magic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone asked the OP what he looks like? Fell out of a magazine, GQ type, with a rock hard body & chiseled abs? I'd put money on it that it's a NO!

Would that make his wife's fat melt away like magic?

Let's pretend OP is like me - 5'8" and 245 lbs.

Does this have any effect on his wife's choices?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone asked the OP what he looks like? Fell out of a magazine, GQ type, with a rock hard body & chiseled abs? I'd put money on it that it's a NO!

Would that make his wife's fat melt away like magic?

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