Do I Tell My Husband's Mistress's Husband About the Affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I would not tell. You have enough issues to resolve. She is not your problem. Be classy!

Fucking a married man is not classy.

I always guess it's the whores that are the ones chiming in not to tell.

You can be classy, intelligent and articulate when you get the whore's husband in the phone. State facts, no profanity, etc.

[Anonymous]

Name her as co-respondent on f divorce and sue her for alienation of affection. A woman in one of the Carolinas sued her husband's mistress and won.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

My husband cheated on me, he had an eight months affair, the OW's husband contacted me on FB and told me about it. I asked my husband what is going on, and he confessed. The OW's husband had proof (pictures/selfies of them f@cking in a hotel, downloaded from her phone). This stopped the affair completely. I was numb for a couple of days, then in pain, but we immediately started working on rekindling our marriage (sex almost everyday, for hours, including oral and anal (things that I didn't do before), basically trying to surpass the OW in love making skills (I got to watch some of the videos they made in the hotel), and appearance (she was older, but looked amazing). She was one of his tennis partners, so I started to take lessons and play tennis regularly, as well ( before that I was more into reading books than playing sports).

Now, after almost two years, our marriage is very hot, my husband is much happier with our sex life (I put him and his needs ahead of the children basically, and give him sex on demand - both girlfriend and pornstar experience, quickies, fulfill his fantasies except threesomes and group sex). He thinks it's a good deal to trade the thrill and variety offered by a mistress with the kind of sex I offer him now (I gave him the option to choose between me and his mistress, and he refused to leave our marriage and our three kids). I am happy to do this, he is basically doing almost everything around the house too, including kids stuff, cooking, etc. I transformed myself into a sexy kitten, lol, got back in shape, colored my hair platinum blonde (she is a redhead) and now I am much hotter looking than her. Many guys, including my husband's friends, hit on me shamelessly - lol.

I am very grateful to the OW's husband, without him my marriage would be so dull now... The bad part is that I lost the respect and trust I had for my husband, but our marriage is better now - I feel much freer. He hates the fact that I could leave him at any time, cheat on him if I wish, and feel absolutely no guilt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband cheated on me, he had an eight months affair, the OW's husband contacted me on FB and told me about it. I asked my husband what is going on, and he confessed. The OW's husband had proof (pictures/selfies of them f@cking in a hotel, downloaded from her phone). This stopped the affair completely. I was numb for a couple of days, then in pain, but we immediately started working on rekindling our marriage (sex almost everyday, for hours, including oral and anal (things that I didn't do before), basically trying to surpass the OW in love making skills (I got to watch some of the videos they made in the hotel), and appearance (she was older, but looked amazing). She was one of his tennis partners, so I started to take lessons and play tennis regularly, as well ( before that I was more into reading books than playing sports).

Now, after almost two years, our marriage is very hot, my husband is much happier with our sex life (I put him and his needs ahead of the children basically, and give him sex on demand - both girlfriend and pornstar experience, quickies, fulfill his fantasies except threesomes and group sex). He thinks it's a good deal to trade the thrill and variety offered by a mistress with the kind of sex I offer him now (I gave him the option to choose between me and his mistress, and he refused to leave our marriage and our three kids). I am happy to do this, he is basically doing almost everything around the house too, including kids stuff, cooking, etc. I transformed myself into a sexy kitten, lol, got back in shape, colored my hair platinum blonde (she is a redhead) and now I am much hotter looking than her. Many guys, including my husband's friends, hit on me shamelessly - lol.

I am very grateful to the OW's husband, without him my marriage would be so dull now... The bad part is that I lost the respect and trust I had for my husband, but our marriage is better now - I feel much freer. He hates the fact that I could leave him at any time, cheat on him if I wish, and feel absolutely no guilt.

You dond pathetic to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband cheated on me, he had an eight months affair, the OW's husband contacted me on FB and told me about it. I asked my husband what is going on, and he confessed. The OW's husband had proof (pictures/selfies of them f@cking in a hotel, downloaded from her phone). This stopped the affair completely. I was numb for a couple of days, then in pain, but we immediately started working on rekindling our marriage (sex almost everyday, for hours, including oral and anal (things that I didn't do before), basically trying to surpass the OW in love making skills (I got to watch some of the videos they made in the hotel), and appearance (she was older, but looked amazing). She was one of his tennis partners, so I started to take lessons and play tennis regularly, as well ( before that I was more into reading books than playing sports).

Now, after almost two years, our marriage is very hot, my husband is much happier with our sex life (I put him and his needs ahead of the children basically, and give him sex on demand - both girlfriend and pornstar experience, quickies, fulfill his fantasies except threesomes and group sex). He thinks it's a good deal to trade the thrill and variety offered by a mistress with the kind of sex I offer him now (I gave him the option to choose between me and his mistress, and he refused to leave our marriage and our three kids). I am happy to do this, he is basically doing almost everything around the house too, including kids stuff, cooking, etc. I transformed myself into a sexy kitten, lol, got back in shape, colored my hair platinum blonde (she is a redhead) and now I am much hotter looking than her. Many guys, including my husband's friends, hit on me shamelessly - lol.

I am very grateful to the OW's husband, without him my marriage would be so dull now... The bad part is that I lost the respect and trust I had for my husband, but our marriage is better now - I feel much freer. He hates the fact that I could leave him at any time, cheat on him if I wish, and feel absolutely no guilt.

Scary stuff . . .

[Anonymous]

I know it's scary, I couldn't imagine myself doing any of the above stuff before... But we both had to change our behaviour, and try to fulfill each-other's needs in order to save our marriage for the sake of our children and our history together (and for his comfort and image as a family man I think). We started to really communicate our needs, even if it hurt or made each other uncomfortable. We never talked about his sexual fantasies before, but he was sexting with her for hours talking about them, what would he do to her. He showed them to me, thousands and thousands of lines on Skype. I was under the impression that after 19 years of marriage our sex life was great (maybe twice a week, kinda vanilla), but when I watched their videos I was actually impressed by my husband's performance, lol. I envied their sexual chemistry, her ability and willingness to please him in any way he wanted - if you can believe this...

He was my tormentor, during their affair our marriage suffered terribly (he was "playing tennis" every day for hours), but after the affair he became my healer. He said that the OW was a mistake, but she made him feel alive and young again. Now he cannot imagine life with her, the affair bubble burst. The OW and her husband are still together, and he still contacts me from time to time asking if everything is alright on my side. He is still very angry with my husband, but he forgave his wife for the sake of their children. BTW, the OW's excuse for the affair was that her husband was too dominating and controlling, lol, and she felt safe, happy, and without inhibitions with my husband. She wanted to talk to me after the discovery day, answer my questions, but she doesn't deserve a minute of my time...

... just my 2c.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it's scary, I couldn't imagine myself doing any of the above stuff before... But we both had to change our behaviour, and try to fulfill each-other's needs in order to save our marriage for the sake of our children and our history together (and for his comfort and image as a family man I think). We started to really communicate our needs, even if it hurt or made each other uncomfortable. We never talked about his sexual fantasies before, but he was sexting with her for hours talking about them, what would he do to her. He showed them to me, thousands and thousands of lines on Skype. I was under the impression that after 19 years of marriage our sex life was great (maybe twice a week, kinda vanilla), but when I watched their videos I was actually impressed by my husband's performance, lol. I envied their sexual chemistry, her ability and willingness to please him in any way he wanted - if you can believe this...

He was my tormentor, during their affair our marriage suffered terribly (he was "playing tennis" every day for hours), but after the affair he became my healer. He said that the OW was a mistake, but she made him feel alive and young again. Now he cannot imagine life with her, the affair bubble burst. The OW and her husband are still together, and he still contacts me from time to time asking if everything is alright on my side. He is still very angry with my husband, but he forgave his wife for the sake of their children. BTW, the OW's excuse for the affair was that her husband was too dominating and controlling, lol, and she felt safe, happy, and without inhibitions with my husband. She wanted to talk to me after the discovery day, answer my questions, but she doesn't deserve a minute of my time...

... just my 2c.

Oh, sure. "Dear Penthouse Forum, I never believed it could happen to me, but..."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd definitely tell whore's husband!!

She deserves her life to be fucked up.

There have been many, many discussions of "should I tell the other woman" on DCUM.

This is the only honest answer.

[Anonymous]

(Should I tell the other woman or her husband, either one.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know it's scary, I couldn't imagine myself doing any of the above stuff before... But we both had to change our behaviour, and try to fulfill each-other's needs in order to save our marriage for the sake of our children and our history together (and for his comfort and image as a family man I think). We started to really communicate our needs, even if it hurt or made each other uncomfortable. We never talked about his sexual fantasies before, but he was sexting with her for hours talking about them, what would he do to her. He showed them to me, thousands and thousands of lines on Skype. I was under the impression that after 19 years of marriage our sex life was great (maybe twice a week, kinda vanilla), but when I watched their videos I was actually impressed by my husband's performance, lol. I envied their sexual chemistry, her ability and willingness to please him in any way he wanted - if you can believe this...

He was my tormentor, during their affair our marriage suffered terribly (he was "playing tennis" every day for hours), but after the affair he became my healer. He said that the OW was a mistake, but she made him feel alive and young again. Now he cannot imagine life with her, the affair bubble burst. The OW and her husband are still together, and he still contacts me from time to time asking if everything is alright on my side. He is still very angry with my husband, but he forgave his wife for the sake of their children. BTW, the OW's excuse for the affair was that her husband was too dominating and controlling, lol, and she felt safe, happy, and without inhibitions with my husband. She wanted to talk to me after the discovery day, answer my questions, but she doesn't deserve a minute of my time...

... just my 2c.

Oh, sure. "Dear Penthouse Forum, I never believed it could happen to me, but..."

Happiest ending since the last scene of Grease.

*shudder*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband cheated on me, he had an eight months affair, the OW's husband contacted me on FB and told me about it. I asked my husband what is going on, and he confessed. The OW's husband had proof (pictures/selfies of them f@cking in a hotel, downloaded from her phone). This stopped the affair completely. I was numb for a couple of days, then in pain, but we immediately started working on rekindling our marriage (sex almost everyday, for hours, including oral and anal (things that I didn't do before), basically trying to surpass the OW in love making skills (I got to watch some of the videos they made in the hotel), and appearance (she was older, but looked amazing). She was one of his tennis partners, so I started to take lessons and play tennis regularly, as well ( before that I was more into reading books than playing sports).

Now, after almost two years, our marriage is very hot, my husband is much happier with our sex life (I put him and his needs ahead of the children basically, and give him sex on demand - both girlfriend and pornstar experience, quickies, fulfill his fantasies except threesomes and group sex). He thinks it's a good deal to trade the thrill and variety offered by a mistress with the kind of sex I offer him now (I gave him the option to choose between me and his mistress, and he refused to leave our marriage and our three kids). I am happy to do this, he is basically doing almost everything around the house too, including kids stuff, cooking, etc. I transformed myself into a sexy kitten, lol, got back in shape, colored my hair platinum blonde (she is a redhead) and now I am much hotter looking than her. Many guys, including my husband's friends, hit on me shamelessly - lol.

I am very grateful to the OW's husband, without him my marriage would be so dull now... The bad part is that I lost the respect and trust I had for my husband, but our marriage is better now - I feel much freer. He hates the fact that I could leave him at any time, cheat on him if I wish, and feel absolutely no guilt.

This is pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband cheated on me, he had an eight months affair, the OW's husband contacted me on FB and told me about it. I asked my husband what is going on, and he confessed. The OW's husband had proof (pictures/selfies of them f@cking in a hotel, downloaded from her phone). This stopped the affair completely. I was numb for a couple of days, then in pain, but we immediately started working on rekindling our marriage (sex almost everyday, for hours, including oral and anal (things that I didn't do before), basically trying to surpass the OW in love making skills (I got to watch some of the videos they made in the hotel), and appearance (she was older, but looked amazing). She was one of his tennis partners, so I started to take lessons and play tennis regularly, as well ( before that I was more into reading books than playing sports).

Now, after almost two years, our marriage is very hot, my husband is much happier with our sex life (I put him and his needs ahead of the children basically, and give him sex on demand - both girlfriend and pornstar experience, quickies, fulfill his fantasies except threesomes and group sex). He thinks it's a good deal to trade the thrill and variety offered by a mistress with the kind of sex I offer him now (I gave him the option to choose between me and his mistress, and he refused to leave our marriage and our three kids). I am happy to do this, he is basically doing almost everything around the house too, including kids stuff, cooking, etc. I transformed myself into a sexy kitten, lol, got back in shape, colored my hair platinum blonde (she is a redhead) and now I am much hotter looking than her. Many guys, including my husband's friends, hit on me shamelessly - lol.I am very grateful to the OW's husband, without him my marriage would be so dull now... The bad part is that I lost the respect and trust I had for my husband, but our marriage is better now - I feel much freer. He hates the fact that I could leave him at any time, cheat on him if I wish, and feel absolutely no guilt.

DCUM Readers' Poll - The above post was written by:

A) A husband bored with his wife, hoping she'll read this and turn into a sex-crazed, child-neglecting, satisfy-his-needs-ignore-her-own-needs woman;

B) A cheating husband who (in his head) blames his wife for his cheating so is answering this as what it would have taken for him not to cheat on her;

C) A completely deluded, insecure, shockingly in denial wife who - along with her nasty husband - are horrible parents to their neglected kids; OR

D) One of DCUM's more talented Uber Trolls

Whaddaya think, who wrote this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it's scary, I couldn't imagine myself doing any of the above stuff before... But we both had to change our behaviour, and try to fulfill each-other's needs in order to save our marriage for the sake of our children and our history together (and for his comfort and image as a family man I think). We started to really communicate our needs, even if it hurt or made each other uncomfortable. We never talked about his sexual fantasies before, but he was sexting with her for hours talking about them, what would he do to her. He showed them to me, thousands and thousands of lines on Skype. I was under the impression that after 19 years of marriage our sex life was great (maybe twice a week, kinda vanilla), but when I watched their videos I was actually impressed by my husband's performance, lol. I envied their sexual chemistry, her ability and willingness to please him in any way he wanted - if you can believe this...

He was my tormentor, during their affair our marriage suffered terribly (he was "playing tennis" every day for hours), but after the affair he became my healer. He said that the OW was a mistake, but she made him feel alive and young again. Now he cannot imagine life with her, the affair bubble burst. The OW and her husband are still together, and he still contacts me from time to time asking if everything is alright on my side. He is still very angry with my husband, but he forgave his wife for the sake of their children. BTW, the OW's excuse for the affair was that her husband was too dominating and controlling, lol, and she felt safe, happy, and without inhibitions with my husband. She wanted to talk to me after the discovery day, answer my questions, but she doesn't deserve a minute of my time...

... just my 2c.

Anonymous wrote:DCUM Readers' Poll - The above post was written by:

A) A husband bored with his wife, hoping she'll read this and turn into a sex-crazed, child-neglecting, satisfy-his-needs-ignore-her-own-needs woman;

B) A cheating husband who (in his head) blames his wife for his cheating so is answering this as what it would have taken for him not to cheat on her;

C) A completely deluded, insecure, shockingly in denial wife who - along with her nasty husband - are horrible parents to their neglected kids; OR

D) One of DCUM's more talented Uber Trolls

Whaddaya think, who wrote this?

Ok after reading this addition (particularly the parts about her watching hours of videos and reading thousands of lines of sexting... and being INSPIRED!! Please give me an f'in break... ), definitely need to add this choice to the poll options:

E) A selfish, narcissistic man who is not necessarily bored or cheating (or married!) but this is his fantasy: be married, have torrid affair, which inspires wife to give up everything (including her sense of self and dignity and commitment to kids) just to become his sex servant. (Not that doing the specific actual acts named above shows a lack of dignity - just the "I gave up everything to hold onto my cheating husband and now he's happier so I'm happy" part)

I think I still have to go with D though.

[Anonymous]

Ooh I choose "E"!