Do you wish you had your children younger

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Anonymous wrote:I don't wish I were younger -- I had my three in my 30's. My issue is my DH who's much older than me. He's going to be 70 by the time the last one is off to college. I just worry that won't leave us many years to enjoy being empty nesters, let alone grandparents. Ah well, you can't always time these things.

Whose fault is that? Your husband can't turn back the clock, but you could have thought twice before you married someone much older.

Not PP but give me a break. Do you really think life is always so simple?

never said life was simple

But don't you think that complaining at this stage is useless? Shouldn't you know that if your husband is a good 10 to 15 years older than you that you'd outlive him? My mom did, and not once did she complain when he died, knowing that he spent very little time with his grandkids. She understood her situation from the start.

I don't get this. You make your own bed! Deal!

I don't think that poster was complainng! She was just sharing! I'm sure she's just fine. You are annoying!

no

You're just easily annoyed by the truth.

Now you're just being silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:11:36, I have to defend the poster you were quoting. I'm 45; many of my son's friends' moms are 37 or 38. We don't have much in common, because they married their first serious boyfriend and don't have careers. I had my child almost ten years later, am well traveled, have a career and more financial stability. You are different if you have your first child at 27 versus 35 (unless you totally waste those extra 8 years).

So do you just sit around with your other 45yr old friends about all the men you dated and fucked before you met your husband?

I'm 34, had my first child at 28 and have a career and one of my best friends is 45 having her first at 40, second at 43, she not only has a career, but is the owner and CEO of a mid-sized consulting firm. Though we both have careers, we end up talking A LOT about our children and the difficulties of trying to juggle it all with our young kids. We also have friends who are SAHMs as well. You sound sour.

[Anonymous]

"Though we both have careers, we end up talking A LOT about our children and the difficulties of trying to juggle it all with our young kids."

My least favorite subjects, regardless of age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:11:36, I have to defend the poster you were quoting. I'm 45; many of my son's friends' moms are 37 or 38. We don't have much in common, because they married their first serious boyfriend and don't have careers. I had my child almost ten years later, am well traveled, have a career and more financial stability. You are different if you have your first child at 27 versus 35 (unless you totally waste those extra 8 years).

So do you just sit around with your other 45yr old friends about all the men you dated and fucked before you met your husband?

I'm 34, had my first child at 28 and have a career and one of my best friends is 45 having her first at 40, second at 43, she not only has a career, but is the owner and CEO of a mid-sized consulting firm. Though we both have careers, we end up talking A LOT about our children and the difficulties of trying to juggle it all with our young kids. We also have friends who are SAHMs as well. You sound sour.

Ceo probably can afford a lot of care and should stfu

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Though we both have careers, we end up talking A LOT about our children and the difficulties of trying to juggle it all with our young kids."

My least favorite subjects, regardless of age.

Not the PP you were responding to but I feel like I mostly talk about children and career because they take up so much of my time. Most of my days are either doing work or kids' stuff. I would like other things to talk about but vacations are short and infrequent, ditto parties, I do read the news, read novels, watch movies etc. but talking about activities/experiences one is doing in their own life (besides work and kids) would be great. What interests, life activities, do you talk about to your friends?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:11:36, I have to defend the poster you were quoting. I'm 45; many of my son's friends' moms are 37 or 38. We don't have much in common, because they married their first serious boyfriend and don't have careers. I had my child almost ten years later, am well traveled, have a career and more financial stability. You are different if you have your first child at 27 versus 35 (unless you totally waste those extra 8 years).

So do you just sit around with your other 45yr old friends about all the men you dated and fucked before you met your husband?

I'm 34, had my first child at 28 and have a career and one of my best friends is 45 having her first at 40, second at 43, she not only has a career, but is the owner and CEO of a mid-sized consulting firm. Though we both have careers, we end up talking A LOT about our children and the difficulties of trying to juggle it all with our young kids. We also have friends who are SAHMs as well. You sound sour.

Ceo probably can afford a lot of care and should stfu

Actually CEO has the baby in a home daycare and the older child in a Winwood DCC. CEO has someone clean her house once a week. CEOs 18 month old still gets up 2-3xs a night. Sorry to break it to you, not all women with a lot of money want to outsource motherhood.

[Anonymous]

A lot of us who became twentysomething moms are still career minded. Just as many older moms at the top of their field choose to SAH once they become parents.

I havent given up travelling sans kid or nights on the town since becoming a mom. I DO have to juggle and plan carefully though, unlike before. My single childless friends have joked that I have a more exciting social life than them. Mind you, I'm the homebirthing/cloth diapering/EBF/babywearing type.

[Anonymous]

I am 32 and have a 4 and 2 y.o. (at 28 and 29) and would like 2 more before 35. Dont know if that will happen, so I often feel like I wish I started earlier, just to not have to deal with the advanced maternal age pregnancy issues. DH and I married at 25, though not our first relationships, and we traveled before the kids were born. My sister is 23 (married at 20) and already has 2 kids (twins) and 1 on the way and that works for her. I'd definitely rather be a younger mom than an older one. I want to be around for my children's weddings and my grandchildren, maybe even some great-grandchildren

[Anonymous]

How can the debate be just about older vs. younger moms without taking anything else into consideration? I mean, how many of you would choose to be a young mom with a crappy DH? I'm an "in-between" mom as I had first at 30 and having my second at 32. But, I choose my husband first and if it had taken waiting until I was 40 to meet him, then so be it. If I had married my bf from my 20's, I sure as hell would be feeling like a much older mom because I'd likely be going through a divorce! It's all relative.

[Anonymous]

"Actually CEO has the baby in a home daycare and the older child in a Winwood DCC. CEO has someone clean her house once a week. CEOs 18 month old still gets up 2-3xs a night. Sorry to break it to you, not all women with a lot of money want to outsource motherhood."


You aren't very bright.
This CEO and her DH are outsourcing CHILD CARE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Actually CEO has the baby in a home daycare and the older child in a Winwood DCC. CEO has someone clean her house once a week. CEOs 18 month old still gets up 2-3xs a night. Sorry to break it to you, not all women with a lot of money want to outsource motherhood."

You aren't very bright. This CEO and her DH are outsourcing CHILD CARE.

I'm not the one you're jabbing but I think you should back off. You mis-read, mis-took and/or misunderstood something or you intended to throw the train off the tracks, hijack, troll and/or make this a SAH/WOH thread. In any case, you posts sound off base and unnecessarily nasty.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty happy with the way things worked out. Had first child at 29, second at 31. Those early years were really, really tough. I worked full-time, albeit at a flex job, and it was tough for me to balance kids, work, marriage, etc. But, now, 10 years later my career and salary have benefited from me staying in the workplace, my kids are easier and thriving in school, and my marriage is better than ever. Would things have been different if I had my kids at an older age, I have no idea. My DH is 12 years older than me so that wouldn't have been ideal. As it is, he feels like an "older" dad quite a bit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't wish I were younger -- I had my three in my 30's. My issue is my DH who's much older than me. He's going to be 70 by the time the last one is off to college. I just worry that won't leave us many years to enjoy being empty nesters, let alone grandparents. Ah well, you can't always time these things.

Were you aware of DH's age when you married him?

Of course! But when we got married I couldn't fully appreciate how the age difference might affect things 25-30 years down the road. You are correct in your implication that I made this choice, and I don't regret my choice overall. Just this particular aspect of things, the age difference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't wish I were younger -- I had my three in my 30's. My issue is my DH who's much older than me. He's going to be 70 by the time the last one is off to college. I just worry that won't leave us many years to enjoy being empty nesters, let alone grandparents. Ah well, you can't always time these things.

Were you aware of DH's age when you married him?

Of course! But when we got married I couldn't fully appreciate how the age difference might affect things 25-30 years down the road. You are correct in your implication that I made this choice, and I don't regret my choice overall. Just this particular aspect of things, the age difference.

Yeah, not like you weren't going to marry your loved one because he was too old!

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