Tips for dating with "niche looks" in my 40s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a guy suggested that for a first date I'd assume he's poor, lazy, or is not really interested and invested and dating tons of women at once to screen them quickly. Would be a no.

I'm with you! This one guy I went on a first date with offered take out soup at Union Market. 10 years later, he's still single...

Meh. I dislike going out to dinner and don’t want some guy I don’t know spending $100 on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a guy suggested that for a first date I'd assume he's poor, lazy, or is not really interested and invested and dating tons of women at once to screen them quickly. Would be a no.

I'm with you! This one guy I went on a first date with offered take out soup at Union Market. 10 years later, he's still single...

Meh. I dislike going out to dinner and don’t want some guy I don’t know spending $100 on me.

+1.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be attracted to a guy if he was covered in multiple tattoos.
Just my personal preference but a guy in his 40’s with a large number of tattoos is just not going to age well.

At all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a guy suggested that for a first date I'd assume he's poor, lazy, or is not really interested and invested and dating tons of women at once to screen them quickly. Would be a no.

I'm with you! This one guy I went on a first date with offered take out soup at Union Market. 10 years later, he's still single...

Meh. I dislike going out to dinner and don’t want some guy I don’t know spending $100 on me.

I don't want the time commitment of dinner before I know if I will click with someone. Not the best first date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Have you ever been married?

I’m not the OP but he has answered these questions many times.

He has no kids and doesn’t want kids.

He has never been married.

Reminds me of You have any kids?
Yes I have one daughter. How about you?
How many baby daddies do you have?
I have one daughter...

THIS IS THE BEST THING I HAVE HEARD IN A LONG TIME

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Have you ever been married?

I’m not the OP but he has answered these questions many times.

He has no kids and doesn’t want kids.

He has never been married.

Reminds me of You have any kids?
Yes I have one daughter. How about you?
How many baby daddies do you have?
I have one daughter...

THIS IS THE BEST THING I HAVE HEARD IN A LONG TIME

“I understand that. Is she by the same Father?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Have you ever been married?

I’m not the OP but he has answered these questions many times.

He has no kids and doesn’t want kids.

He has never been married.

Reminds me of You have any kids?
Yes I have one daughter. How about you?
How many baby daddies do you have?
I have one daughter...

THIS IS THE BEST THING I HAVE HEARD IN A LONG TIME

“I understand that. Is she by the same Father?”

Yes. She's my daughter AND my sister.

[Anonymous]

Usually a simple explanation for being single is the man is very cheap or "going Dutch" type. Or he's a homebody or has time consuming hobby, or a combination of these

Do you organize nice dates/took women out of town for weekends at hotels?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a guy suggested that for a first date I'd assume he's poor, lazy, or is not really interested and invested and dating tons of women at once to screen them quickly. Would be a no.

I'm with you! This one guy I went on a first date with offered take out soup at Union Market. 10 years later, he's still single...

Meh. I dislike going out to dinner and don’t want some guy I don’t know spending $100 on me.

I don't want the time commitment of dinner before I know if I will click with someone. Not the best first date.

Maybe a drink at an expensive bar.

[Anonymous]

Depends. If it's an OLD date with someone I haven't talked to a lot ok coffee or a drink is okay. If it's someone I've been texting with for a while or talking on the phone or met in real life a low effort lame coffee date would result in no second date.

[Anonymous]

Dude, I'm sorry but you've done messed up. I don't think you'll be able to land any woman more than one step above freak.

Tattoo's on Black people have no definition in quick order. Just a bunch of stupid looking blur. Just a few tattoos comes across as emotionally immature. On Black people it looks like gangster Wantabees. Why in the World would you get a body sleeve !!!

Listen dude. Maybe rock the only thing you have. I'm fair skinned, 6'1" blue eyes, lean and mean with no tattoos and still get some attention, but honestly, I'm not the majority of women's cup of tea. They either hate or love blonde men, by far mostly hate. If you have a bbc then rock it. It'd be a great combination for a bad boy personality. There's lots of really short women so get that problem out of your head.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's the height issue. I am a white 5'8 woman and I dated 5'6-5'9 men with BIG (you know what). It's the cheapness, personality, excessive risk taking with bikes (I swipe left on any risky sports immediately), and tattoos

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Have you ever been married?

I’m not the OP but he has answered these questions many times.

He has no kids and doesn’t want kids.

He has never been married.

Reminds me of You have any kids?
Yes I have one daughter. How about you?
How many baby daddies do you have?
I have one daughter...

THIS IS THE BEST THING I HAVE HEARD IN A LONG TIME

“I understand that. Is she by the same Father?”

The same father listed on the birth certificate? Probably not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude, I'm sorry but you've done messed up. I don't think you'll be able to land any woman more than one step above freak.

Tattoo's on Black people have no definition in quick order. Just a bunch of stupid looking blur. Just a few tattoos comes across as emotionally immature. On Black people it looks like gangster Wantabees. Why in the World would you get a body sleeve !!!

Listen dude. Maybe rock the only thing you have. I'm fair skinned, 6'1" blue eyes, lean and mean with no tattoos and still get some attention, but honestly, I'm not the majority of women's cup of tea. They either hate or love blonde men, by far mostly hate. If you have a bbc then rock it. It'd be a great combination for a bad boy personality. There's lots of really short women so get that problem out of your head.

I disagree on your point about tattoos on black people not having definition in quick order. Just like any tattoo the tattoo will fade but if it’s done correctly and placed well then the spreading of the ink, while losing some detail, will not be a blur or unreadable from a reasonable distance. The only tattoos on my that are somewhat hard to figure out would be the roses on my kneecaps, and that’s only because they were done with my knees bent. In any case, they can always be touched up or covered up or blasted over. If you’re talking just random clouds and pieces placed haphazardly that’s one thing but that’s not the case with my work or the work on many black tattoo collectors that I know.

Speaking about my genitalia is vulgar and gross. Please refrain from doing so any more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually a simple explanation for being single is the man is very cheap or "going Dutch" type. Or he's a homebody or has time consuming hobby, or a combination of these

Do you organize nice dates/took women out of town for weekends at hotels?

If we’ve been seeing each other for a while, meaning 3~ months+ then yes. Not something that I would usually try for earlier than that unless the connection is out of this world.