Does your community pool have a dress code?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:guy here - thank god for dark sunglasses!

Haha, me too! Essential for summer urban pool use.

Another one. 😎

Some of y’all have raised beautiful young ladies with the confidence to smooth it out, oil it up, and put it on display for community consumption right up to the absolute edge of labial decency and I for one commend you.

(NP)

[Anonymous]

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Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

Ok, so the young woman or teenage girl is wearing the risqué bikini to get attention - and she gets attention.
And your teenage sons ogle - they're not complaining.

What's your problem then? What's the position you're trying to hold here?

My position is that people should not sexualize themselves for strangers. Hyper sexualized culture harms both men and women.

[Anonymous]

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I don’t have a problem with them at all. Wear whatever the hell you like! But don’t pretend you’re not looking for attention. Because you are - no question. At least own it. And DO NOT complain when people look. As a brilliant poster upthread said, “if you’re putting on a show, your audience is going to watch.”

In what form should I 'own it'? It seems like just being at the pool in a sexy bikini doesn't quite cut it for you. Should I come to you, a stranger, and say: 'I admit, I chose the swimwear because I enjoy the male gaze.' Should I say I'm sorry or is that unnecessary?

Aw hun, you don’t have to say it out loud, everyone already knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

Ok, so the young woman or teenage girl is wearing the risqué bikini to get attention - and she gets attention.
And your teenage sons ogle - they're not complaining.

What's your problem then? What's the position you're trying to hold here?

My position is that people should not sexualize themselves for strangers. Hyper sexualized culture harms both men and women.

You literally said you would check out or "ogle" the 16 year old girl at the pool because of what she was wearing. She isn't sexualizing herself for you, but yet you are still a creep and a pervert.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

Ok, so the young woman or teenage girl is wearing the risqué bikini to get attention - and she gets attention.
And your teenage sons ogle - they're not complaining.

What's your problem then? What's the position you're trying to hold here?

I think there’s several posters who you might be replying to thinking it’s one person.

My only “position” here is people in favor of girls wearing revealing swimwear shouldn’t get upset when they get the attention they’re craving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

Ok, so the young woman or teenage girl is wearing the risqué bikini to get attention - and she gets attention.
And your teenage sons ogle - they're not complaining.

What's your problem then? What's the position you're trying to hold here?

I think there’s several posters who you might be replying to thinking it’s one person.

My only “position” here is people in favor of girls wearing revealing swimwear shouldn’t get upset when they get the attention they’re craving.

How is a thong swimsuit that much different than a regular bikini bottom? It sounds like you would be sexualizing young girls no matter what they were wearing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Thank you. The emperor has no clothes in this situation (literally), and children are the only ones who will point it out. People are showing parts of their body that are not socially acceptable to show anywhere else in our culture.

Kids will also say, hey they are fat or why is that kid in a wheelchair or her hair is purple.

So what, your the one the puts some insane meaning to those children's observations.

NP here. My kids never say those things bc they know it’s inappropriate and unkind to comment on body size, disabilities, and/or differences in physical appearance. They do comment on people exposing themselves in public.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

Ok, so the young woman or teenage girl is wearing the risqué bikini to get attention - and she gets attention.
And your teenage sons ogle - they're not complaining.

What's your problem then? What's the position you're trying to hold here?

My position is that people should not sexualize themselves for strangers. Hyper sexualized culture harms both men and women.

You literally said you would check out or "ogle" the 16 year old girl at the pool because of what she was wearing. She isn't sexualizing herself for you, but yet you are still a creep and a pervert.

I never said any such thing. As a 32 year old straight woman have no interest in ogling women or girls, but of course I am going to notice if some at the pool has their a$$ uncovered in a thong or their boobs barely concealed by 1 inch of fabric.

Look, I’m sorry that your self worth is so poor that need to expose yourself for validation. clearly no one in your real life is willing to tell you the truth about the message that your swim attire is communicating. Sexualizing yourself for attention is dehydrated behavior and signals that you are insecure and easily manipulated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

Ok, so the young woman or teenage girl is wearing the risqué bikini to get attention - and she gets attention.
And your teenage sons ogle - they're not complaining.

What's your problem then? What's the position you're trying to hold here?

I think there’s several posters who you might be replying to thinking it’s one person.

My only “position” here is people in favor of girls wearing revealing swimwear shouldn’t get upset when they get the attention they’re craving.

How is a thong swimsuit that much different than a regular bikini bottom? It sounds like you would be sexualizing young girls no matter what they were wearing

You really can’t tell the difference?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Stop ogling women’s bodies, OP.

Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

Ah, another one of those "she was asking for it" because of what she was wearing. Why are men so disgusting? Stop perpetuating this.

She IS asking to be ogled. That’s the whole point of her wearing a thong as opposed to a normal bikini bottom - that’s WHY she chose a thong - for the attention. That’s WHY she’s wearing it.

F’ing Duh.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Cheeky bottoms are one thing. THe suit that made me write the post was a bikini bottom thong showing two full cheeks that looked like underwear. She looked good but I have two boys, one a teenager. If I'm supposed to be keeping him safe from explicit images on the internet why is he seeing near-nudity at the pool?

If your son is a pervert then you've failed as a parent. Maybe you should work on this instead of policing other girls/women.

Boys under the age of 26 have no control over their own behavior. They act without volition. As a society, we need to set up guardrails to help them mature into responsible adults.

Land the helicopter at long last.

If your 25 yo adult son cant function in society, set up guardianship for him. The rest of us aren't going to tiptoe around him.

[Anonymous]

I never said any such thing. As a 32 year old straight woman have no interest in ogling women or girls, but of course I am going to notice if some at the pool has their a$$ uncovered in a thong or their boobs barely concealed by 1 inch of fabric.

Look, I’m sorry that your self worth is so poor that need to expose yourself for validation. clearly no one in your real life is willing to tell you the truth about the message that your swim attire is communicating. Sexualizing yourself for attention is dehydrated behavior and signals that you are insecure and easily manipulated.

Or maybe it's signalling that I like sex and enjoy looking sexy, and even though I'm generally open to hooking up with someone, the chances of bumping into someone interesting in that way at a neighborhood pool are fairly low, so it's mostly about getting a tan without big white trapezoids on my a**.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

Ok, so the young woman or teenage girl is wearing the risqué bikini to get attention - and she gets attention.
And your teenage sons ogle - they're not complaining.

What's your problem then? What's the position you're trying to hold here?

My position is that people should not sexualize themselves for strangers. Hyper sexualized culture harms both men and women.

You literally said you would check out or "ogle" the 16 year old girl at the pool because of what she was wearing. She isn't sexualizing herself for you, but yet you are still a creep and a pervert.

I never said any such thing. As a 32 year old straight woman have no interest in ogling women or girls, but of course I am going to notice if some at the pool has their a$$ uncovered in a thong or their boobs barely concealed by 1 inch of fabric.

Look, I’m sorry that your self worth is so poor that need to expose yourself for validation. clearly no one in your real life is willing to tell you the truth about the message that your swim attire is communicating. Sexualizing yourself for attention is dehydrated behavior and signals that you are insecure and easily manipulated.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Why is this awkward for you? Your kid says “I can see her butt” and you say “Yes, I expect she likes that style of swimsuit. Don’t comment on other people’s appearances and style choices.”

Better:

“You’re right. It’s tacky and disrespectful. Always remember to have some class.”

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Why is this awkward for you? Your kid says “I can see her butt” and you say “Yes, I expect she likes that style of swimsuit. Don’t comment on other people’s appearances and style choices.”

Better:

“You’re right. It’s tacky and disrespectful. Always remember to have some class.”

+1

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