How does your redshirted kid feel now that she/he is older?

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Anonymous wrote:Kid felt out of place and older especially as they aged.


Parent of high school senior here and I just don’t believe this.
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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.


Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.


DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed


It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.


Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.


How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.



When was this and what district?

When I was a kindergartner in the late 80s, the cut off was 5 by Nov 30. I know bc I was 4 starting. Now cut off is Sept 1 in most districts, including my former elementary. My own children’s school is also Sept 1 cutoff now. As mentioned here, some districts have cut off dates further into fall, but seems majority are now Sept 1
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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.


Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.


DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed


It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.


Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.


How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.



When was this and what district?

When I was a kindergartner in the late 80s, the cut off was 5 by Nov 30. I know bc I was 4 starting. Now cut off is Sept 1 in most districts, including my former elementary. My own children’s school is also Sept 1 cutoff now. As mentioned here, some districts have cut off dates further into fall, but seems majority are now Sept 1


DCPS -- which is what OP is in -- is Sep 30.
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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.


Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.


DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed


It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.


Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.


How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.



When was this and what district?

When I was a kindergartner in the late 80s, the cut off was 5 by Nov 30. I know bc I was 4 starting. Now cut off is Sept 1 in most districts, including my former elementary. My own children’s school is also Sept 1 cutoff now. As mentioned here, some districts have cut off dates further into fall, but seems majority are now Sept 1


DCPS -- which is what OP is in -- is Sep 30.


Right. I was replying to the PP who asked “how is it possible” for a non redshirted kid to be 18 as a senior in HS
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Do anti redshirters not understand that there is a wide variation in cutoffs?

I have had kids (same family) in schools with cutoffs ranging from May 31 to Dec 15.
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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.


Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.


DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed


It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.


Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.


How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.




Might be different cutoffs (September 1 versus September 30)?


Then pp should state her kid went to schools with different cutoffs, otherwise it's not possible.


Sep 1 cutoff is very common. All around the country. Your freshman will know this.
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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.


Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.


DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed


It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.


Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.


How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.




Might be different cutoffs (September 1 versus September 30)?


Then pp should state her kid went to schools with different cutoffs, otherwise it's not possible.


Sep 1 cutoff is very common. All around the country. Your freshman will know this.


If the cutoff is Sep 1 and her dd has a Sept bday, it wouldn't be common to hold a child back if they were the oldest in the class. So, her comment that her DD "wasn't redshirted" made it sound like she was in DCPS because Sept bdays would more often be held back. Again, if the cutoff is Sep 1 her daughter would be 18 all year. A summer bday, as suggested by her other kid, would be 19.

I'm not arguing either for/against. I'm asking someone to make a claim to make it make sense.
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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.


Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.


DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed


It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.


Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.


How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.




Might be different cutoffs (September 1 versus September 30)?


Then pp should state her kid went to schools with different cutoffs, otherwise it's not possible.


Sep 1 cutoff is very common. All around the country. Your freshman will know this.


+1 this is by far the most common cutoff date across the country, and states that have different dates are at least pretty close to it.

https://nces.ed.gov/programs/statereform/tab1_3-2020.asp

CT is an outlier with its insane Jan 1 cut off. MA, NH, NJ, NY, OH, PA in the minority leaving it up to the local districts, who can make up any crazy date the want, instead of implementing a state-wide standard.
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Anonymous wrote:Kid felt out of place and older especially as they aged.


Parent of high school senior here and I just don’t believe this.


Yeah, it what world is it bad to be able to drive first?
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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.


Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.


DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed


It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.


Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.


How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.




Might be different cutoffs (September 1 versus September 30)?


Then pp should state her kid went to schools with different cutoffs, otherwise it's not possible.


Sep 1 cutoff is very common. All around the country. Your freshman will know this.


If the cutoff is Sep 1 and her dd has a Sept bday, it wouldn't be common to hold a child back if they were the oldest in the class. So, her comment that her DD "wasn't redshirted" made it sound like she was in DCPS because Sept bdays would more often be held back. Again, if the cutoff is Sep 1 her daughter would be 18 all year. A summer bday, as suggested by her other kid, would be 19.

I'm not arguing either for/against. I'm asking someone to make a claim to make it make sense.


Acting like its super normal for freshman to turn 18 in college is out of sync with the rest of the country. It’s not the norm anymore. When we are talking about college DCPS is irrelevant.
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Maybe it was just our generation. But a red shirted kid is someone who was held back because they failed or was a “problem” kid. It had no positive connotations.

And that’s still the case at my kids school. Any kid repeating is assumed to have failed. Of course no one is mean about it but kids don’t know what “redshirting” is. All they know is that so and so is not very smart. Absent severe learning disabilities or medical conditions/diagnoses, it’s lost on me why any parent would voluntarily “fail” their kid.
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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it was just our generation. But a red shirted kid is someone who was held back because they failed or was a “problem” kid. It had no positive connotations.

And that’s still the case at my kids school. Any kid repeating is assumed to have failed. Of course no one is mean about it but kids don’t know what “redshirting” is. All they know is that so and so is not very smart. Absent severe learning disabilities or medical conditions/diagnoses, it’s lost on me why any parent would voluntarily “fail” their kid.


You still sound incredibly out of touch. Most kids are "redshirted" in preschool meaning they do another year of preschool and enter Kindergarten with everyone else. Nobody knows where they came from or how man-years of preschool they did. Your school sounds weird.
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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it was just our generation. But a red shirted kid is someone who was held back because they failed or was a “problem” kid. It had no positive connotations.

And that’s still the case at my kids school. Any kid repeating is assumed to have failed. Of course no one is mean about it but kids don’t know what “redshirting” is. All they know is that so and so is not very smart. Absent severe learning disabilities or medical conditions/diagnoses, it’s lost on me why any parent would voluntarily “fail” their kid.


You’re not at a very good school, then. 🤷‍♀️
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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.


Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.


DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed


It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.


Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.


How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.




Might be different cutoffs (September 1 versus September 30)?


Then pp should state her kid went to schools with different cutoffs, otherwise it's not possible.


Sep 1 cutoff is very common. All around the country. Your freshman will know this.


If the cutoff is Sep 1 and her dd has a Sept bday, it wouldn't be common to hold a child back if they were the oldest in the class. So, her comment that her DD "wasn't redshirted" made it sound like she was in DCPS because Sept bdays would more often be held back. Again, if the cutoff is Sep 1 her daughter would be 18 all year. A summer bday, as suggested by her other kid, would be 19.

I'm not arguing either for/against. I'm asking someone to make a claim to make it make sense.


Do you really not understand how it is possible for a redshirted kid to be 18 all of senior year as well as a non-redshirted kid?
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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it was just our generation. But a red shirted kid is someone who was held back because they failed or was a “problem” kid. It had no positive connotations.

And that’s still the case at my kids school. Any kid repeating is assumed to have failed. Of course no one is mean about it but kids don’t know what “redshirting” is. All they know is that so and so is not very smart. Absent severe learning disabilities or medical conditions/diagnoses, it’s lost on me why any parent would voluntarily “fail” their kid.


You’re not at a very good school, then. 🤷‍♀️


Of course, if it makes you feel better to think that.
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