How does your redshirted kid feel now that she/he is older?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never understood the point of this if the kid is ready (intellectually and emotionally) for school. DS has a late July birthday and we never considered starting him late. He's now about to start middle school and he's always in the top 5% academically. No issues socially; has tons of friends.

It sounds like OP’s child does have issue though, including with inattentiveness. So what worked for your child may not work for hers.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is in 4th grade. She has a June birthday and we red shirted her. She has ADHD and making the decision to hold her back to compensate for her lack of maturity was the right one for her. Socially it would have been hard for her to keep up—especially since the mean-girl, cliquey stuff seems to start young these days.

[Anonymous]

We didn't redshirt our August 8th birthday and regretted it immensely, particularly as we got to the older grades. He was fine academically but the social differences were noticeable. Fortunately, we moved across the country the summer before he was supposed to enter 7th grade and we had him do 6th grade again. Best decision ever!

[Anonymous]

It’s only on DCUM where people care at all about relative age of kids. My kids are in high school and it has literally never come up as a topic of conversation.

[Anonymous]

Kid felt out of place and older especially as they aged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kid felt out of place and older especially as they aged.

At what age did that start? Still in elementary or later?

[Anonymous]

Kid says it is the best decision we could have ever made

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid felt out of place and older especially as they aged.

At what age did that start? Still in elementary or later?

Pp is probably just an anti redshirt troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid felt out of place and older especially as they aged.

At what age did that start? Still in elementary or later?

Pp is probably just an anti redshirt troll.

+1 No kid feels out of place for being a week or two older than the oldest kids in the grade.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid felt out of place and older especially as they aged.

At what age did that start? Still in elementary or later?

Pp is probably just an anti redshirt troll.

+1 No kid feels out of place for being a week or two older than the oldest kids in the grade.

Agree. What grade would this even be about? By HS so many kids are in mixed grade classes anyway. The PP, as usual, has no experience and makes this crap up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid felt out of place and older especially as they aged.

At what age did that start? Still in elementary or later?

Pp is probably just an anti redshirt troll.

Yep.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.

Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.

DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed

It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.

Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.

How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.

Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.

DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed

It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.

Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.

How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.

Might be different cutoffs (September 1 versus September 30)?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.

Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.

DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed

It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.

Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.

How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.

Might be different cutoffs (September 1 versus September 30)?

Then pp should state her kid went to schools with different cutoffs, otherwise it's not possible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.

Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.

DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed

It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.

Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.

How is this possible???? My non-redshirted Sep birthday kid turned 18 the first week of college.

Sep 1 cutoff like a lot of places.